When did you take your lo dummy off them? I tried tonight and let’s just say I failed she screamed and cried until she got her dummy

Ps I asked around how to do it and most people were like just stop giving it to her apparently it worked for them but I can’t “just stop” with her…

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Would you say they’re too young yet to even do so?

I removed it when my LO was about 12 months and got her to choose a comforter instead so we made a fuss over the comforter to get her distracted and made sure she had it with her wherever she went (especially at bedtime). We had about 3 nights where she was upset but then she totally forgot about it. I now have an 8 week old and my 18 month old doesn't try to take/use the 8 week olds dummy.

One thing I would say though is my 18 month old was throwing the dummy out her cot at night multiple times to get me to go back in and give it her so it was like a sign she wasn't that attached to it as much. But it still took about 3 days

18 months & only for nap and bedtime

@Jasmine same doing nap and bedtime though he does cry closer to bedtime for it and i do let him have it, need to be more consistent

I think I was luck my lo was 13 months and I started by not giving and using it for nap time and bed time. After 2 days removed it and gave my lo a muslin to use as a comforter. he did say it for few days however no tears I just explained another baby needed it

My boy is very attached to his only though he only gets it for nap and bedtime. My SIL cut her dummies when my niece was about 2 and then let her have them whenever. Because they were cut they weren't nice so my niece just abandoned it herself. We're thinking of trying a similar method

I think once you get to this age you need to wait a bit longer until they understand and can ‘swap’ it for something else, from what I’ve read this seems to be 2-2.5ish. But absolutely try and cut down in the meantime and limit it to naps and bedtime

I think we had 5 days of tears before she adjusted to not having a dummy for sleep. She was younger though, I can't remember exactly how old but maybe months?

9 months gradually. Started at 8 months by keeping it out of sight and reach. Includes dont talk about it. Pretend you don't know what she means if she asks for it. Keep offering other items as if you don't understand. It doesn't exist.

Then stop giving it day time. No excuses. Then remove from mouth as soon as fallen asleep. Then stop putting it back in during sleep. Then stop giving it to fall asleep. Take as much time between each step as you need!

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