Not trusting MIL to look after LO ,not even for 10mins (from safety point of view), anybody else? :/

I just can’t trust my MIL and FIL to look after our 8 months old, especially now when he is crawling and putting everything in his mouth.
I saw them looking after their other grandchildren under 1s and if me and my partner were not there they would have eaten stones(one of them actually cut inside of his mouth ) and plants (poisonous) and who knows what else.
They are just way too relaxed ,not cautious and responding fast enough to their actions and not physically fit to take care of very fast and active baby.
Anybody else in this situation? Am I being too dramatic.

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When it comes to safety of your child you can never be dramatic. If you can’t trust them that’s their fault not yours

Agreed with the above. Your baby, your rules. Don't be afraid to ruffle feathers with your level of care and someone else's lack of it. X

Do what you feel is right for you, and your baby.
I’ve never let my in-laws look after my LO either, having seen how they treated their other grandchild when in their care.

This is me but with my mother not my mil. My mil is fab. I left my baby with my mother for no longer than 30 seconds she wasn’t watching he split his chin on a concrete step.. her reaction times are 0 and her reactions and way she behaves about many things makes me wonder how she ever had kids and how the 3 of us even survived

Not saying my mum is incapable of watching my child… but when she gave my 9 month old a paper towel and told her to wipe her mouth with it… I’ve questioned everything…
Not only did she give her the paper towels, she then watched her place it in her mouth…
I think I was in shock that I didn’t react fast enough. But by God… who does this?!
She puts literally everything in her mouth 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️
And then my mum proceeds to lecture me by saying, “this is why you need to watch her”
Am I mad ?

100% agree with you there. My in-laws haven’t looked after a baby since they raised my husband so I don’t feel confident in them just yet, and my parents are far too relaxed. My parents are very hands on and do keep and a close eye, but watching them with my nephew and say “it’s ok boys bounce” and their old fashion views on baby safety just makes me anxious. Don’t leave your baby with anyone unless you feel it’s ok to, and don’t feel bad in speaking up as it’s your baby not theirs. X

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