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I'm 32 weeks pregnant atm and have an 11 month old, he turns 1, 3 weeks before babies due date so very close to being irish twins! During this pregnancy me and my babies dad have split up, he does see our little boy however not often as he works away for minimum 2 weeks at a time and when he is back he thinks that should be his time so hell come see our little boy for an hour a day over the weekend and then gone again for 2 weeks minimum. I'm worried about how on earth i am going to cope with the jump from my 1 baby to have 2, one being a new born, i'm struggling with my 11mo sleep still and we do co sleep i've tried to move him into his own room multiple times now but never ends well and with me being quite far into my pregnancy and being diagnosed with iron deficiency anemia and also working atk until may leave restarts it's been really tricky as im too exhausted to stick it out (i've tried to stick it out twice, both times i actually fell asleep at work)
i'm also worried about how ill split my time, how my 11mo will be with the new baby as he's very clingy and attached to me and does get jealous when im around other children etc. Amso the sleepless nights, with my first born when i had bad nights if sleep during day when baby slept which was obviously a lot with a newborn but having a 1 year old and a newborn i won't be able to do this.
Also scared incase i end up needing a C-section or have a bad labour with lots of tearing etc what if i cant pick my older son.
Everything's stressing me out tbh 🤣
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Learn more about our guidelines.I'd say stick with cosleeping as then if you need to do anything for your toddler you don't need to leave the baby and potentially wake them. Also get a stretchy wrap, my baby almost lived in it for the first 4 months and it made life a lot easier. Will your ex get paternity leave to help initially?
@Rachel This is what i wanted to do but all my friends and family are pushing me to get him in his cot but i've really tried he's such a velcro baby and i don't mind it i love it i love him in bed with me and we both sleep better when he's in bed with me i jsut feel like a failure because he's nearly 1 and in my bed🙃 Im going to look into carriers and wraps and see what will be best for baby it's on my list of things to get.
His works said he can take a week unpaid ( they're very weird they rarely give him time off lol) But even then i can't see him being much use as whenever he's not working he'll see our little boy for an hour or two and that's it so i'll be own pretty much from the get go! x
@Abby absolutely no failure. For the majority of the world cosleeping is normal, it's just a weird western thing that we think babies should sleep in fancy boxes like kittens. Also if it gets you more sleep then that's a win. It's no one else's right to have a say on what you do, so just smile and tell them you're not looking for opinions currently on what you do in bed.
I would have thought he was entitled to a fortnight paternity leave but if he's not much use then might be easier to not have him around x
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