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My beautiful baby girl is a month old now and I’m struggling to bond with her and I don’t know why. She is my second child and I didn’t have this issue with my first. I feel terrible about it.
I’m not sure if it’s to do with the labour as I was taken down to theatre immediately after she was born so i didn’t get much time with her until I was in recovery over an hour or so later.
I’m trying to book onto a baby class to try and help build a bond but any other advice?
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Learn more about our guidelines.I felt this way but mostly because I had post partum anxiety, I felt this huge responsibility to keep her alive but I didn't feel all the mushy gushy stuff until around that 4 month mark. I think its normal. Give yourself a break, keep making opportunities to bond but dont put immense pressure on yourself. It WILL happen.
Have you been evaluated for post partum anxiety and depression? Do you have adequate support especially given you now have two children? While I haven’t experienced this, I’m sure you’re not the first mom to feel this. I would try to take the pressure off of yourself. Engage in self care then fake it until you make it with your daughter.
@Nicole no I haven’t been evaluated, I am lucky I do have amazing support around me. My mum is over most days and my husband is a hands on dad. I’ve just started talking to him about how I have been feeling and he is very understanding. I just hate feeling unconnected to her
@Elise thank you for sharing your experience and advice. I will keep trying and hope the bond starts to happen