breastfeeding

what can i do to get my daughter to sleep without breastfeeding her? im currently 33 weeks pregnant so thats really the only reason im worried about trying to wean her but she doesnt take a bottle or pacifier. the only other thing she uses is a sippy cup with a straw but the few times ive tried to put her to sleep with her sippy cup full of milk and i tell her no booby she cries and goes into a full meltdown screaming and even to the point of coughing and choking on her spit because shes crying so hard (obviously at that point i give in ) but i just dont know what to do

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Commenting because I need some advice with this too

ughhhh following bc same. i’m also pregnant and can’t soothe my baby any other way. last night he was waking every hour bc of teething and so restless and i told him no more milk and he absolutely lost it 😭

My doctor told me “not to give in” I legit had to let her cry. It took about 2 weeks to fully wean her off at 13 months. My mom would keep her away from me

@Vanny i just feel so bad 😞 i dont think i could let her cry like that

@Jetta I did too. My mental health was taking a toll on me with breastfeeding all night and day. Then being pregnant. The entire pregnancy was very hard then when she was born she was a preemie and refused all bottles and paci. I ended up getting a customized pacifier online by “NinniCo” and it actually worked. So with taking her off the boob my mom told her she could have a paci or milk. What I did notice she refused to take the milk cold but eventually took it when it was warm.

@Vanny im gonna look into those pacis. my daughter has no problem drinking cold milk she only refuses it because she wants the boob instead. she will even stop breatfeeding and ask for her milk then go back to breastfeeding

@Jetta I would be crying in my room as I heard her cry. It ducked but it felt so good to sleep again. Actually regretted not doing it sooner. She was born 12-22-2023 . I found out I was pregnant when she was 10 months. Being pregnant, breastfeeding, was extremely hard. You got this momma 💕

@Jetta omg that’s good. She will learn to survive without the boob. Yall can do it. My current struggle is getting her to sleep alone and thru the night. There’s struggles at every step. Keep on keeping on 🤗

Im 26 weeks pregnant and I had the same issue with my son is 16 months. You honestly have to ignore the meltdowns which is the hardest part of being a mom. Kids know that we are the nurturers so id have to have Dad step in, his NO and my NO are completely different lol. So he listens to him without a meltdown. What I adapted was when it was time for nap time in my case around 12pm at around 11:30am I would start settling him, give him some fruits or put on something calming on the tv or just sit with the tv really low, I give him a bottle of oatmilk (he’s has cmpa) with a splash of vanilla extract cinnamon and honey. He finishes the bottle and we sit for another few minutes and I tell him it’s nap time. We go to the room, I make sure it’s fully dark (no matter what time of day it is. Literally have to set the tone/mood a very calming environment. Then I lay him down and pat his butt or back lightly until I hear his breathing change. Sometimes I’ll just keep my hand there. Continue…..

At night it’s a different story that’s when the tantrums come, so his bedtime is no later than 9pm. So by 7pm I’m already doing my routine to settle him, dinner, snack, bottle of milk and then I bathe him I let him play in the bath for 10 minutes, on his fussy nights I add Epsom salt to the bath water. Then I clean him up and get him lotions up with calming scents and lotions. I’ll put peaceful sound on my phone which he loves. Then we go around to everyone and say night night kisses for everyone, dad,brother sister etc. (I do this so he knows this is what we do for bedtime) we read a book and say a prayer) then I place him in his crib and walk away. If he’s tired he’ll it himself to sleep if he’s fussy he’ll cry for about 15-20 mins (and I just watch him on the camera) and you have to let your baby learn to soothe his or herself to sleep. If it’s more than 20 mins of crying I pop in assure them I’m there give him a kiss lay him back down then walk out again. After 2 weeks he’s wean’d

The only way I was able to stop was by letting dad take over her bedtime.

After like a week, she had a new routine with him. I would beeastfeed one last time before bed and then if she wakes up, he went to check on her and put her back to bed.

@J.S. Jaees I agree letting dad takeover is the best way. What they want from us they can’t get from them. I read somewhere the fastest way to wean your baby off is go away for 3 days and have dad take over the routine. Or just switched with dad if you cannot get away.

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