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Hi everyone, I’m 30 and pregnant with my first. I’m really struggling with sex during my pregnancy. My sex life with my partner was fantastic before and now my sex drive is so low and I get little enjoyment from sex :( our frequency went from 4+ times a week to like 1 time if I’m lucky. I miss feeling connected to him and I think he’s worried about hurting the baby. I think he’s getting frustrated during sex too. My self esteem has taken a hit during pregnancy too and this has started to compound that.
Does anyone have any advice or experience like this? I’m early in my 2nd trimester.
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Learn more about our guidelines.Honestly, I hated pregnant sex during both pregnancies. It just wasn’t for me. I’m 8 weeks PP after baby no2 however and our sex life is back to normal! Sometimes it just ebbs and flows due to hormones etc!
We didn’t have sex from after the 1st trimester until 4 months postpartum because I had no sex drive whatsoever! When it did come back, sex was great again and my sex drive these days is higher than before I got pregnant even x
I had this issue but for me it felt weird for me inside and my sex drive had gone but now at 21 weeks it's mostly back to normal although not at it as much as we were before pregnancy
I won't be like that forever. In my first pregnancy we hardly had sex, we were both busy working full time and it just freaked my husband out a bit. Our sex life after our first was a bit up and down for a while, but we did get our groove back properly within a year. I'm now 36 weeks pregnant with number 2, and we're still having sex multiple times a week at the minute. My husband seems less freaked out about it all this time, and I feel we're trying to get it in now whilst we can before baby arrives as we know the first few months can be tough
I barely had sex when pregnant. I hated it. My husband is very understanding which is good. Even post baby it hasnt been great for me. My sex drive is low!
Also. He hated feeling my belly during sex so that helped 😂
Don’t feel like it’s ruined, you just might not be interested for a while. Hormones, sore body and feeling tired is all stuff that you need to give yourself some leeway for. I’m in the same boat right now.
Same as the others for me. I hated sex during pregnancy. It just felt odd that our baby was inside me lol but honestly like a week pp my sex drive was back and I feel like it even got better than pre pregnancy!
I had the opposite problem. I wanted it all the time during my first pregnancy. But then completely lost my sex drive for years after the baby was here. It was hard for us to get pregnant again partly because of that. Now that i'm almost in the 3rd trimester, my sex drive is back full force. I worry i'm gonna lose it again after the baby gets here.
Imma be for real, your sex life may recover quickly or it could take a few years, especially if youre nursing.
I totally feel you! Don’t worry it’ll get better. I used to have a big sexual connection with my partner and then it became hard to have sex being pregnant, plus I had a complication at 3 months and for 2 months doctor recommended no sex. I was dying and so fearful of disconnection in my relationship. What I did was being open about it with my partner. Share all my feelings and eventually find other ways to connect.. a lot of cuddling.. now we can have sex again and I can only do one position. Sex is definitely different but we are being patient thinking that is the price to pay to have our little one. My suggestion is to talk about it.. which you are doing so great job and have hope and faith
It also felt weird for me while I was pregnant. I felt uncomfortable and ugly. 😔 4 months post Partum and I still don’t feel like myself. My partner has been very supportive but I’m sure he misses the connection. Everyone’s journey with sex is different and it’s ok. My mom had kids back to back Irish twins I don’t know how she did it!
Girl I’ve got some bad news: if you breastfeed you will have the lowest libido of all time. I’ve been either pregnant or breastfeeding since 2022. Not much action around here.
@Erin its good to see things like this as i am 10 weeks postpartum and i feel bit sad about no action at all since second trimester of my pregnancy and frustrated how its kinda ruined sex life 😕🥺 but i suppose with time things will change etc
Just wait until that baby comes out it’s so emotional and loving you two created a life together and you’ll feel so connected. Those feelings bring you close together and all the hormones it’s so beautiful lol. Just focus on your emotional connection and communication right now