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My husband really wants our boy to be called “Remy” now don’t get me wrong it’s a beautiful name but as a child (I was labeled slow etc, actually turned out to be autism 🫠) I was called “rem” a lot through my school years and I’ve always absolutely hated that word since and I can’t help but think of it whenever he mentions this name 😭 help he won’t budge from it.
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Learn more about our guidelines.Just talk to him about it, about how it makes you feel and why xx
@Imi I’m gonna try but it is so bad of a trauma I’m embarrassed to bring it up, that word honestly puts me right back in school and I’m that shy “slow rem kid” and it kills me to even talk about it
I struggle to talk to my partner too, I also find all my feelings embarrassing and think they don’t matter. But I’m sure when you’re able to get the words out he will understand and care. Just maybe tell him it’s a sensitive subject and it’s hard for you to talk about so you want to keep it short and not drag it on
So I dunno if I have advice, but I am autistic myself, and have never heard the phrase “slow rem kid” I’ve only ever heard “rem” used to describe rapid eye movements lol
But in my brain, if he wouldn’t budge from the name, I’d view it as reclaiming the term.
However, I think even writing down how the name & your history with the term in like a letter or a text would definitely be the most helpful way to communicate & navigate this situation.
@Parker 又 I’d be called slow by some and rem by others not together necessarily if that makes sense? But the word rem is the real trigger I hate the word with a passion it’s just pure nasty.
Fair I guess! I’d definitely suggest trying to write down your feelings so you don’t have to vocally try to get them out, and your partner can read all your thoughts at his own pace, and won’t be able to misunderstand you cause there’s black and white text & he can ask you more follow up questions while referring back to it
Just tell him you don’t like it and won’t be using it
@Penny have you read any of the post or comments yet? 😅 I’m not the best at communicating it’s trauma for me but I have said to drop it now