Let friend’s kids hold baby?

I’ll be meeting up with my friend and her 3 kids this weekend, ages 6, 7 and 9. Are these safe ages to let them have a cuddle with my 3 week old baby?

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My brother is six and he has no idea what’s going on😂 I would not let him hold my newborn, I would definitely sit close and help him hold!

As long as you're sitting next to them/helping them hold correctly it's fine. I was 5 when my brother was born and I held him in the hospital. We also let all of our nieces/nephews hold our son when they met him at a few weeks old, they range in age from 6-3 years! It truly depends on the kid.

Thanks everyone! 🥰

Maybe if like. They are sitting down with a pillow on their lap and you’re sitting next to them the whole time. But also depends on maturity level of the kids.

@Donna Woods exactly how I pictured it. So sweet. 🥹

My boys sisters are 6 and 9, the 9 year old I happily let her take him and go room to room, the 6 year old i do let her hold him and play about with him but she has to stay sitting down and not leave the room as he’s far to heavy for her, it’s been the same since he was born and the girls at that point were 5 and 8, every child is different though and it also depends on your level of comfort about the situation xx

As long as you’re sitting next to them it should be fine my 1,5 year old niece held my son when he was a day old, she did start crying once we took him back cause she thought he was her new babydoll 😂. She did very well tho. I think it also depends on what kind of kid it is, she is a very calm and kind kid always been so i trusted her. She also knew he was in my stomach before i even did so they already had a connection hahah.

Yes But…

1. They must be sitting with a pillow under an arm
2. Depending on age they should have an adult next to them
3.(And this one is the most important) NO SIGN OF SICKNESS AT ALL. Like he borderline rude with asking if they have had a fever recently ect. If you have too.

Learn from me. I let our Friends/Roommates Daughter (4 at the time) hold my 6 week old and it ended up with us in the hospital on Fluids 72hrs later due to a high fever. They never told me that she had ran a fever all day and was given Tylenol shortly before(so she was “normal”. I found out AFTER SHE HELD HIM. To say I was pissed was an understatement.

I’m pregnant with our third. We no longer have roommates but will be very very cautious on who holds because being in the hospital with a 6 week old is a whole new form of anxiety.

Depends on the kids and if they are clean or not . If they understand boundaries- like not kissing the baby or touching the babies face .

@Rema thank you! It was just easier to share a pic than to explain. Baby brain was not helping me lol

With supervision. All depends what they are like too!

Hell no

Help them hold your 3 week old

in our community

Is this rude?

I went to a 40th birthday party last weekend, there were probably about 70 guests, so naturally there were a lot of gifts.

The day after the party, the 'birthday girl' added us all to a group chat, and said, "Thank you for coming everyone and thank you for the presents!" and that's it.

Now we're not talking $10 gift cards, most people had put a lot of thought and effort into her gifts.
I know it's a lot of people to thank but I still expected something more.

i need a friend

iso of someone literally anyone at this point willing to be friends. just talk phone calls hangouts when we can. i’ve just been feeling so frickin isolated lately it’s driving me insane

If you’re a hot mess with a kind heart — we might just be besties 😅

I’m 23, a mama to a baby and a 3 yr old toddler, running on cold coffee, unfinished thoughts, and the hope of making real friends again.

I’d love to find mom friends who call just to talk about nothing and everything — who send random, slightly chaotic texts at midnight and laugh at dark humor we probably shouldn’t relate to 😅

I’m not interested in perfection or performative friendships. If your house is a mess, your toddler is screaming, or you’re feeling a little unhinged — same here. Come as you are.

If you’re a mom who craves real connection, wants to talk about the deep stuff and the ridiculous stuff, and is over the fake friendship and light conversations — please message me!

✨ Chaos welcome
💬 Oversharing encouraged
💗 Vibes required

Let’s be friends who actually get it.

Snapchat: Howdyitsangel23

FAKE?

Would you consider me fake?

I work customer service and have gotten several compliments on it and even worked an assistant manager position (I’ll admit I lost my cool at that job a few times and even left with a bang).

I can’t stand going places and bumping into rude,grumpy or attitudey employees.So I try my best to assist customers wherever I go,especially when the customers are unhappy.I feel like I can evaluate you when the customer is being unreasonable and I’ll push back politely when I need to.

On the other hand,I get home and my babies Father complains the way I talk to him or calls me a grump lol (what are the odds,right!)

Am I fake? I laugh some cause I’m like dang I can approach work and strangers politely but with my own family I’m like Oscar the grouch,uh oh!

What’s a Mother to do???

Has anyone lost close friends since had a baby?

I am just curious if new moms are experiencing the same thing. It’s not like I have lost my best friend but our relationship changed for sure. We used to text each other everyday! Now she barely replies to me or it takes up to 1-2 weeks to reply back. Obviously I am grieving as I feel hurt that I am alone when I needed her the most….

Low libido

I just don’t want to have intercourse with my partner it’s like once a month. But like idk if I’m the only one but I cannot have the pleasure to want to even think about having any type of sex or intimacy and not sure what to do