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My daughter 14 who is ASD has been on social platforms for a few months now as I thought I would let lose of the rein abit
I have a app on my phone that can see what she is doing ect
She has been talking to people who she doesn't know telling them important things about herself
I have spoken to her and she has said because I don't give her any attention but she is a closed book and always shuts me down
I have told her how things could happen online not everything is sunshine and roses I have had this every time since been on platforms
Am at a loss she has actually had me in tears
Please mamas
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Learn more about our guidelines.My son is 4, he’s autistic too. We haven’t hit the stage in parenting yet but it may help to sit down with her and ask her if there’s anything fun or specific she’d like to do. Explain how you feel and how you want things to change and leave it all on her terms.
In regards to the online thing, until she’s stopped sharing private information I would take all social media away, she’s still really young and naive and could end up getting groomed or stalked, the internet is a scary place
Good luck mama x
I wish u luck when that time comes Hun
If it wasn't for the app I would never of found any out....but yeah I agree I can block via the app what platforms I don't want her on
Thanks mama x
The internet is a hard one😩 I have been having my issues as well (my daughter is 12) I don't allow much socially besides pintrest and roblox but even w these she chats w people of course. I have an app as well that tells me if anything sketchy or concerning is said. It definitely feels like it is not enough tho. It makes me upset that we live in the age of internet and social media at all. I miss the 90s lol
Mine is mad because I won't allow certain things. No Instagram. No snapchat. No fb. No discord. Ect. She says her friends have it and it's not fair. Even snuck and got on sites before at a friend's house and also before I had the monitor app. It's been the biggest struggle w her so I completely understand. They don't understand the why behind it and they just won't at these ages. They probably just assume we want to control them, "ruin thier life" 🙄, or don't know what we are talking about, since teens and preteens have in their minds that they know everything. It's hard to reason or explain.
Lately I've just stopped trying as hard to reason or explain because it becomes a back and forth or a meltdown or worst ya know. It makes her mad but I almost feel like not AS mad as if I'm actually going into a discussion about it... this just is my theory lol. So I just say like no to snapchat is just my rule, im.not changing my mind "but why mom that's ridiculous!" Because it's my rule for important reasons even if you think it's a stupid rule. She'll come back at me w something else of course trying to get into it w me and I just make an excuse to not battle..like hey I'm not talking about this right now. I need to do the dishes or I need to start dinner. Or just straight up not talking about it rn.
It's like after a while of me refusing to fight she says ugh my mom is so lame or whatever but learns to drop it since I'm not going to go there.
Just some thoughts i hope they help if the situation is similar at all. I do think its totally fair for you to take back some of the social platforms so that your daughter realizes youre serious. And maybe w that of course tell her why. Short and sweet. Like you werent being responsible and for safety reasons you cant be telling people certain things so for now my rule is changing. It's my job to keep you safe and you can be mad if you want to but I love you anyways.
(She might scream something mean as heck if she's anything like my kid lol but you just walk away and tell yourself she doesn't mean that she's just so mad and doesn't understand. ) later on you can reconnect over something positive and remind yourself she loves you anyways too ya know
As far as getting your daughter to open up I have to do random things w mine regularly, even if I'm not in the mood. It usually ends up being fun if not at least i tried lol. Like once a week for an hour color, build a puzzle, make a bracelet....
... eventually she may start telling you things like a friend because you are bonding by doing some mindless activities and giving her quality time, just you two only. If she's not having it try again the next day or something and eventually it will just become part of it all. No advice unless she asks or it's given gently. Just listen. Maybe it only works w mine still to do this because she is younger but it's worth a mention. Sorry I typed out so much!