I can’t with this boy

My bd never put any effort into getting to know his kids. He only likes them if they are laughing and smiling. Let’s be real they are 19 months and 5months . He’ll tell me he can’t help me cuz he’s never been a dad before (my first kids aswell)if I ask for space he’d be the person/dad my kids deserve (for all of 5 seconds) he makes allot of mistakes with simple tasks (he’s human) but he blames me for everything…. He has been go a for about a month and I didn’t realize how much I’ve been blaming myself because of everything he put on me….. I can’t help but stare at my kids when they sleep and cry cuz they deserve better.

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I pray that you are doing well mentally and physically for your kids because they deserve you at your best. I hope you know that you have done all you can in that relationship for your and your kids. Your feelings are valid. No judgment whatsoever. I think if you keep asking for space then you know the answer about how you should handle your situation. You are stronger than you think. YOU GOT THIS GIRL I PROMISE. If you ever want to talk message me .

I’ve never loved anything as much as my kids. It’s been a tough ride accepting my situation and understanding the fact he doesn’t gaf

Thank you❤️

Your kids will grow up and see who was in their corner and who wasn’t at the end of the day . Focus on yourself and your kids that’s the only way to move forward. It’s going to hurt for a little then it won’t

And your welcome you got this

I’m so sorry you’ve had to carry all of that. But please hear this: you are not the problem. He didn’t show up the way a father should, and that’s his failure, not yours. You’ve been holding it down, loving your babies, and doing your best, even while being blamed and let down.

Your kids already have better, they have you. And even when it feels heavy and unfair, you’re showing up every single day, loving them, protecting them, and giving them everything you’ve got. That matters more than anything he’s failed to do.

The fact that you’re sitting there crying while watching your babies sleep just shows how deeply you love them and are trying to give them the love and stability they deserve. That makes you a freaking good mom. They’re lucky to have you. 💛

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This feels like a recurrent theme in my life but it’s ramped up. Our son is 2 later this month and he is getting soo dismissive of his dad. His dad has pretty delicate mental health so this hits him real hard and he tends to recoil (which we both know doesn’t help)

Last night for example was my partners term to do bedtime, however our son was getting so upset by him being put to bed by dad that I just ended up doing it.

Our son was getting so extreme that he was opening his bedroom door, taking dad by the hand and walking him out saying “bye dada”.

I know it’s hurtful for him. And I know it’ll pass. But our son has always been dismissive of his dad and we/I don’t know how to resolve it. Our son is so affectionate with me and it must be so painful for dad to not have the same love back.

And because of all this rejection, I end up doing most of the care (bed, bath, can’t be out of sight, wake ups etc)

They play well together for the most part, but it’s all on our son’s terms.

Dad has arranged for a son-dad day this weekend where I’m not involved. These days are few and far between but something I want them to have more of. Whenever I’ve been away for a day/overnight, they’re usually besties when I come back and it’s lovely.

It’s so hard and I’m hoping someone has experience and can tell me it gets better 😭

Does anyone else’s husbands do this?

We have a two year-old little girl and she has always preferred me. Every time that daddy wants to play with her. She says no I want mom and it hurts his feelings every time and he gets really upset and I don’t know what to do to get her to wanna be with him more Because she was doing good for a while and then we moved and now she doesn’t want anything to do with him again is anyone else’s toddlers like this and it’s so stressful because I hate seeing him get hurt because our daughter doesn’t want him.
And it’s hard on me because I’m a stay at home mom and I’m with her 24 seven so I don’t ever get a break because she always wants me And never wants to go with her dad.

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