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My parents live abroad (in the Med) & we visit them a couple of times a year. They’re elderly & have health issues so can’t go out a lot with my 2 year old, other than nearby. However, when we see them it’s usually a combined visit the grandparents + have our own little holiday as that’s all we can afford, but every day my MIL makes us feel guilty (uses silent treatment & says she feels upset) that we don’t spend every day at home with them & have all our meals at their house. We’ve tried to address this as our 2 year old will NOT last until late dinner & lunch times but they aren’t willing to adjust. We’ve also asked my mum multiple times to come down to the nearby park or beach with us & each time she says no & tends to go out when our little one is napping, then proceeds to blame us for never including her. We’re here for 2 weeks & have been out for dinner 2 nights, & she had a huge fight about how we’re always out, she berates (me) in front of my little one to the point I think it scares my girl & she’s now always saying “no grandma, don’t like grandma”.
My question is, if anyone else is experiencing this? I understand they want to spend time with us, but we can’t spend every day, every meal with them when they know it’s our family holiday too?? I’m constantly being guilt tripped every time we go out, being made to do chores the minute I sit down to play with my daughter & being given the silent treatment. Any time I say something, it gets turned around on me. Can anyone help please? x
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Learn more about our guidelines.Set boundaries. If they cross your boundaries, then remove yourself and your child from the situation.
Now, with that said, idk how much of this is cultural, but imo, culture does not excuse bad behavior. It's also very odd to me that they're making you do chores when you come to visit.