Speech

I know our toddlers speech isn’t perfect yet as they’re only just starting! But just wondering if anyone else is like my daughters. She’s just turned 21 months and she doesn’t say the two syllables of words, for example her name is Winnie, she says Win, prit is pretty, gard for garden, butt for button etc. But she can say two syllables because she does on a couple of words but 99% of her words are just the first syllable

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That sounds like laziness to me. Make her say the words properly.

I disagree with the above comment, she’s not even 2 yet and she’s just learning how to pronounce words. I’ve worked in early years for 10 plus years and it is so common at the beginning of speech!
In the 2.5 year check, there’s a box that says about saying words that may not be able to be understood by others not in the household, but u understand them. It is completely normal. Please don’t worry 😊

My boy is the same. I wouldn't worry, I'm sure they will get there in the end :-) I just go yes, that's right that is (whatever word they are meant to say). So just repeating the word correctly and they should start saying it properly at some point, hopefully.

I wouldn't call it laziness at all but more just being herself. My son wasn't even saying words correctly at that age. Hes 2.5 right now and is still struggling to say words with p, b and things but we understand what he means most of the time.

@Rachel she’s not even 2 yet? Explain to me how to make a child say words properly?

@P💓 her comment infuriated me also, how can u force a child to do anything let alone “speak properly” 😶‍🌫️
I also felt it was dissing this mum who posted for advice, that she’s not “doing enough” by calling her child lazy

@P💓 well she said in the post that she does know how to say words with 2 syllables properly as she already does say some words properly, so all you have to do is keep saying the words she doesn't say properly back to her the right way & hopefully they will eventually start copying you.

@Rachel maybe those words with the two syllables are easier to say?🫢 just a thought

@Courtney her name is easy enough & so is the word garden. It's just all about the adult modeling how to say them to the child.

@Rachel Lol, I agree with repeating words constantly but I wouldn’t say it’s “easy” enough. It might be for u but not for a child.
Goes for any skills, one child might be walking by 9 months and another by 18 months because all children develop differently. U are setting an unrealistic expectation that at 21 months old she should be able to pronounce her name because u find it easy. This is why parents are constantly anxious because people like u are setting unrealistic expectations. Pls look into child development and then come back to me. Thanks babe x

@Rachel I'm pretty sure when OP said their child can say some two-syllable words properly, she meant a couple of specific words or simple phrases, not ALL words. My daughter is almost 19 months and says "what's this?" about 400 times daily, but most of her words are one syllable only. That's speech development. They are getting slowly longer and more pronounced, I can hear it in her language daily. "Bath" started out as "ba" and now it's more like "bassss". I have confidence she will get there.

Under 2 years of age, it's not lazy, it's learning. Words may be easy for you but they are not always for the child. She has to learn how to make all of these sounds with her mouth and may or may not have a mouth full of teeth, which impacts speech development. @Courtney is right, it's true that repetition and clear pronunciation helps, but the fact that she isn't quite there yet isn't the fault of the child or the parent. She is learning.

@Rachel what if mum is already doing that? Every child develops at their own pace.
You make it sound as if you MADE your child talk fluent English at 6 months.
Relax

@P💓 her child must of been an English teacher at 2 years old lol

My boy is 2 years 8 months and mostly speaks in 1 syllable words. He will say 4 or 5 word sentences all with 1 syllable so he is capable of multiple syllables in a row. He will say a few 2 syllable words too but I could probably count them on 1 hand.

We always repeat back the correct way to pronounce the words but it hasn't made much difference to the number of syllables but he has learnt a lot more words over time, so the advice above that it's just laziness and that you should make your child pronounce the words correctly is just ridiculous, you can't force a toddler to speak!

I don't think you need to worry when they are just starting to talk and the fact she is capable of saying multiple syllable words means she is able to and the rest will come with time

This app really does kill me off 🤣🤣🤣
‘Make her say it properly’
My daughters nearly 2 and I repeat the same words to her over and over again, it doesn’t mean she’s capable of copying them yet or pronouncing them properly.
OP - I wouldn’t stress yet, children’s speech develops at different paces and she’s not even 2. Lots of children don’t start ‘speaking’ until they’re over 2.

Ok, you lot need to chill. You make it sound like I meant tie her down & don't let her go until she says the word properly 🤨 All I meant was keep talking to her until she understands how to say the words properly ffs 😒

It’ll all come in time. My little girl didn’t start speaking properly until she was 3. She was close to being referred for speech and language but luckily started speaking before that 🫶🏻 keep repeating proper words to her and she should eventually catch on xx

@Rachel maybe have a look at ur choice of wording next time, maybe u can learn something 🤪

She’ll get there! My daughter went from non verbal to completing sentences now & starting to say words more clearly . It’ll come with time don’t stress! I stressed myself out major with speech and whether she’d ever get it . She slowly got there , your daughter will get there too mama! ❤️‍🩹

At 21 months my son barely did more than babble. Was a handful of words he would say on occasion but was rare. At 24 months this was still mostly the case and then 26 months suddenly he's putting 2 words together and saying them without being prompted. Now nearly 30 months and he doesn't shut up 🤣 still can't always understand and he struggles with certain sounds and letters but their understanding tells a much bigger picture than their words at that age. If they're understanding you more and more when you talk to them then usually the words aren't too far behind

There’s plenty of time, you need to talk to her all the time. Some kids choose to be quiet I guess and observe but yes your child should be making some sounds, talk a lot to your child.

It’s honestly too early. I really don’t know why a lot of heath professionals like to force it and claim peoples children’s have issues when they don’t at all. Until 30 months your child may barely babble.

@Melissa many kids do but then they don’t become greater in life. The ones people seem to be “concerned” about end up doing more.

No child speaks 19 words at 19 months it’s a complete myth. Sounds abusive to me you’re pressuring the children it sounds even kids in Mensa didn’t do that, it’s simply too early.

@Bex I know 🤣🤣

@Melissa really? If that’s the case then your child would be in Mensa. It’s unrealistic what you are saying unless they are in Mensa if your child was I doubt you would be here on this post now. No parent has or needs to do 400 words with their child.

Not sure where she finds time to feed her baby if she’s practicing 400 or knows 400 words. Maybe she had baccalaureate?? lol

@Estelle uhhh... What?

I said my child says "what's this" 400 times a day. I think you misread. Obviously it's an exaggeration but it's an exaggeration to make the point that she constantly asks "what's this?" Not that she says 400 words.

@Estelle I also just read the other comment you tagged me in and WOW. Maybe read what I said before calling me abusive. Where in any comment did I say I was pressuring my child to speak or even mention saying "19 words"?

Go eat a snickers or something. Maybe put the phone down for awhile.

@Estelle I think u have taken @Melissa comment out of context. I don’t understand where the 19 words are or 400 words 🫢
But in OUR speech everyday we are saying different words, who knows how many. It all goes into their vocabulary even if they aren’t saying it yet. It’s there.. children are like sponges. Everything they hear or see impacts their lives.

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