How do you convince yourself to shower when you’re depressed?

I don’t want to stand for 15 minutes. I don’t want to touch myself. I want to lay in bed and cry or go to sleep.

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Sorry to hear that you’re feeling that way 😕 when I was pregnant with my first I hated showering because of the standing so my fiancé got me a shower chair and I was able to just sit in the shower for however long instead of stand .

I talk myself into it because I have a better sleep doing so.

Maybe dim the lights also and play some meditation or slow music

I honestly just scrubbed the tub often and sat when I was pregnant for majority of the shower besides shaving I was like a big naked baby lmao

If you ever want to talk I’m here 💖.

I’m sorry though I feel you sometimes it’s hard to get the energy to even get in the shower then all you wanna do is get out and curl up. Just time it for 5-10 min and wash your hair and body and get out. It’s okay to feel this way, just make sure you can crawl out of it❤️ there’s a light at the end whether you see it now or not, just need to stick in there and make choices to be happy mama! Force yourself to do one thing for yourself to make you feel pretty or good even if it’s once a week the little things are what builds to pick us up❤️

You don’t need someone to pick you up (trying to listen to myself) you got you, and that’s all that matters. You know how you feel and how to make it better you deserve those happy moments your laughing at something by yourself or dance by yourself to a song ❤️

Self compassion - tell yourself you’re so sorry for being so mean to yourself and tell yourself that you deserve to take care of yourself and to take a shower. When you go to the bathroom next, just turn on the water and get naked & jump in 💖

It's ok to sit in the shower. And cry there too. And you don't have to do 15 min if you don't want to... 💙

The sleep will feel so much better if you get in the hot water first

When I feel like this I put on a podcast and take a bath. I also make it a point to hurry up and get undressed so that when I get in the bath it’s actually relaxing. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

Although it’s a struggle getting in sometimes…. I know I’ll feel so much better afterwards. Maybe just try sitting in the water, try and just decompress. Don’t think about anything…. Just be. Breathe. This is temporary. I’m sorry you’re struggling. It will get better friend. 💓

Even if you don’t want to shower take a birth bath. You can even knock it out on the toilet. Set a timer for 5 mins and do what you can

Talk yourself into it. Do your makeup or your hair after. Put something pretty on

In situations like this, some is better than nothing. Maybe you can’t take a full shower today. But what can you do?

Can you get in and wash the most important parts and skip the others? Can you use a wash cloth and stand at the sink and do a “bird bath”?

A little is better than nothing during hard depressive periods like this. Do the best you can and try again tomorrow

Don’t do it alone maybe have your partner with you , or do it when he’s home bcz I think you go more into depression when you are alone and you want to cry more…

Turn on some music that you would in a club... I like black eyed peas radio on Pandora or girl on fire radio

Sofia the first

Honestly, sometimes I will shower in the dark and just have my phone flashlight on. Like dipping my toe in the water, I’m not doing too much. Feels like a huge task, so it’s a way for me to still be in my sadness while slowly creeping from it. I’ve over the years have started to invest in pj sets that make me feel good for that specific reason as well, putting on something comfy or pretty but I can’t still lay in bed with it. I can’t convince myself too much and talking to myself positively doesn’t work. It’s a very slow process for me. You may have to learn what works for you

When I couldn’t I just sat in the shower, if you can wash your body great if not that’s okay too

Play some upbeat music hun. Lose your thoughts in the music Xx music always makes me feel better whether it’s cleaning or working out or whatever. Turn on your Spotify playlist then jump in.

Sending you lots of love ❤️ tie your hair up, and see if you can get a body shower done before your favourite song ends.

Try sitting in the shower, letting the warm water run over your face. Have a good cry.
Don't put pressure on yourself to spend too much time. You don't need to shave, or wash your hair.

Tell yourself even washing 1 arm is good enough! I bet if you wash 1 arm, you'll wash the other one too 😉

Ask yourself, if my child or a good friend was having a hard time getting into the shower due to depression, what are some things I might say to them? Surely, I would be kind to them and give them grace. I would tell them I loved them and treat them gently and sweetly. Do this for yourself. You are worthy of your own love. The little things like making yourself a small snack, a tea, brushing your teeth even for 10 seconds, and yes taking a 2 minute shower to your favourite song will compound eventually and make things feel more manageable. Start super small. It will come 🌻

Been there so many times, but it will get better I promise, step by step u can get up and shower doesn’t even have to be 15 min long nor a full shower. Fill
The tube and just relax with some essential oils and if u want to cry go
For it let it all out release it all. Trust me you will feel the relief.

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