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Purposes & Features

Cookies, device or similar online identifiers (e.g. login-based identifiers, randomly assigned identifiers, network based identifiers) together with other information (e.g. browser type and information, language, screen size, supported technologies etc.) can be stored or read on your device to recognise it each time it connects to an app or to a website, for one or several of the purposes presented here.

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  • Most purposes explained in this notice rely on the storage or accessing of information from your device when you use an app or visit a website. For example, a vendor or publisher might need to store a cookie on your device during your first visit on a website, to be able to recognise your device during your next visits (by accessing this cookie each time).

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Legitimate Interest

Advertising presented to you on this service can be based on limited data, such as the website or app you are using, your non-precise location, your device type or which content you are (or have been) interacting with (for example, to limit the number of times an ad is presented to you).

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  • A car manufacturer wants to promote its electric vehicles to environmentally conscious users living in the city after office hours. The advertising is presented on a page with related content (such as an article on climate change actions) after 6:30 p.m. to users whose non-precise location suggests that they are in an urban zone.
  • A large producer of watercolour paints wants to carry out an online advertising campaign for its latest watercolour range, diversifying its audience to reach as many amateur and professional artists as possible and avoiding showing the ad next to mismatched content (for instance, articles about how to paint your house). The number of times that the ad has been presented to you is detected and limited, to avoid presenting it too often.

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  • If you read several articles about the best bike accessories to buy, this information could be used to create a profile about your interest in bike accessories. Such a profile may be used or improved later on, on the same or a different website or app to present you with advertising for a particular bike accessory brand. If you also look at a configurator for a vehicle on a luxury car manufacturer website, this information could be combined with your interest in bikes to refine your profile and make an assumption that you are interested in luxury cycling gear.
  • An apparel company wishes to promote its new line of high-end baby clothes. It gets in touch with an agency that has a network of clients with high income customers (such as high-end supermarkets) and asks the agency to create profiles of young parents or couples who can be assumed to be wealthy and to have a new child, so that these can later be used to present advertising within partner apps based on those profiles.

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Advertising presented to you on this service can be based on your advertising profiles, which can reflect your activity on this service or other websites or apps (like the forms you submit, content you look at), possible interests and personal aspects.

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  • An online retailer wants to advertise a limited sale on running shoes. It wants to target advertising to users who previously looked at running shoes on its mobile app. Tracking technologies might be used to recognise that you have previously used the mobile app to consult running shoes, in order to present you with the corresponding advertisement on the app.
  • A profile created for personalised advertising in relation to a person having searched for bike accessories on a website can be used to present the relevant advertisement for bike accessories on a mobile app of another organisation.

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Information about your activity on this service (for instance, forms you submit, non-advertising content you look at) can be stored and combined with other information about you (such as your previous activity on this service or other websites or apps) or similar users. This is then used to build or improve a profile about you (which might for example include possible interests and personal aspects). Your profile can be used (also later) to present content that appears more relevant based on your possible interests, such as by adapting the order in which content is shown to you, so that it is even easier for you to find content that matches your interests.

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  • You read several articles on how to build a treehouse on a social media platform. This information might be added to a profile to mark your interest in content related to outdoors as well as do-it-yourself guides (with the objective of allowing the personalisation of content, so that for example you are presented with more blog posts and articles on treehouses and wood cabins in the future).
  • You have viewed three videos on space exploration across different TV apps. An unrelated news platform with which you have had no contact builds a profile based on that viewing behaviour, marking space exploration as a topic of possible interest for other videos.

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Content presented to you on this service can be based on your content personalisation profiles, which can reflect your activity on this or other services (for instance, the forms you submit, content you look at), possible interests and personal aspects. This can for example be used to adapt the order in which content is shown to you, so that it is even easier for you to find (non-advertising) content that matches your interests.

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  • You read articles on vegetarian food on a social media platform and then use the cooking app of an unrelated company. The profile built about you on the social media platform will be used to present you vegetarian recipes on the welcome screen of the cooking app.
  • You have viewed three videos about rowing across different websites. An unrelated video sharing platform will recommend five other videos on rowing that may be of interest to you when you use your TV app, based on a profile built about you when you visited those different websites to watch online videos.

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Information regarding which advertising is presented to you and how you interact with it can be used to determine how well an advert has worked for you or other users and whether the goals of the advertising were reached. For instance, whether you saw an ad, whether you clicked on it, whether it led you to buy a product or visit a website, etc. This is very helpful to understand the relevance of advertising campaigns.

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  • You have clicked on an advertisement about a “black Friday” discount by an online shop on the website of a publisher and purchased a product. Your click will be linked to this purchase. Your interaction and that of other users will be measured to know how many clicks on the ad led to a purchase.
  • You are one of very few to have clicked on an advertisement about an “international appreciation day” discount by an online gift shop within the app of a publisher. The publisher wants to have reports to understand how often a specific ad placement within the app, and notably the “international appreciation day” ad, has been viewed or clicked by you and other users, in order to help the publisher and its partners (such as agencies) optimise ad placements.

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Information regarding which content is presented to you and how you interact with it can be used to determine whether the (non-advertising) content e.g. reached its intended audience and matched your interests. For instance, whether you read an article, watch a video, listen to a podcast or look at a product description, how long you spent on this service and the web pages you visit etc. This is very helpful to understand the relevance of (non-advertising) content that is shown to you.

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  • You have read a blog post about hiking on a mobile app of a publisher and followed a link to a recommended and related post. Your interactions will be recorded as showing that the initial hiking post was useful to you and that it was successful in interesting you in the related post. This will be measured to know whether to produce more posts on hiking in the future and where to place them on the home screen of the mobile app.
  • You were presented a video on fashion trends, but you and several other users stopped watching after 30 seconds. This information is then used to evaluate the right length of future videos on fashion trends.

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Reports can be generated based on the combination of data sets (like user profiles, statistics, market research, analytics data) regarding your interactions and those of other users with advertising or (non-advertising) content to identify common characteristics (for instance, to determine which target audiences are more receptive to an ad campaign or to certain contents).

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  • The owner of an online bookstore wants commercial reporting showing the proportion of visitors who consulted and left its site without buying, or consulted and bought the last celebrity autobiography of the month, as well as the average age and the male/female distribution of each category. Data relating to your navigation on its site and to your personal characteristics is then used and combined with other such data to produce these statistics.
  • An advertiser wants to better understand the type of audience interacting with its adverts. It calls upon a research institute to compare the characteristics of users who interacted with the ad with typical attributes of users of similar platforms, across different devices. This comparison reveals to the advertiser that its ad audience is mainly accessing the adverts through mobile devices and is likely in the 45-60 age range.

Number of Vendors seeking consent or relying on legitimate interest: 503

Legitimate Interest

Information about your activity on this service, such as your interaction with ads or content, can be very helpful to improve products and services and to build new products and services based on user interactions, the type of audience, etc. This specific purpose does not include the development or improvement of user profiles and identifiers.

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  • A technology platform working with a social media provider notices a growth in mobile app users, and sees based on their profiles that many of them are connecting through mobile connections. It uses a new technology to deliver ads that are formatted for mobile devices and that are low-bandwidth, to improve their performance.
  • An advertiser is looking for a way to display ads on a new type of consumer device. It collects information regarding the way users interact with this new kind of device to determine whether it can build a new mechanism for displaying advertising on this type of device.

Number of Vendors seeking consent or relying on legitimate interest: 596

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Content presented to you on this service can be based on limited data, such as the website or app you are using, your non-precise location, your device type, or which content you are (or have been) interacting with (for example, to limit the number of times a video or an article is presented to you).

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  • A travel magazine has published an article on its website about the new online courses proposed by a language school, to improve travelling experiences abroad. The school’s blog posts are inserted directly at the bottom of the page, and selected on the basis of your non-precise location (for instance, blog posts explaining the course curriculum for different languages than the language of the country you are situated in).
  • A sports news mobile app has started a new section of articles covering the most recent football games. Each article includes videos hosted by a separate streaming platform showcasing the highlights of each match. If you fast-forward a video, this information may be used to select a shorter video to play next.

Number of Vendors seeking consent or relying on legitimate interest: 152

Your data can be used to monitor for and prevent unusual and possibly fraudulent activity (for example, regarding advertising, ad clicks by bots), and ensure systems and processes work properly and securely. It can also be used to correct any problems you, the publisher or the advertiser may encounter in the delivery of content and ads and in your interaction with them.

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  • An advertising intermediary delivers ads from various advertisers to its network of partnering websites. It notices a large increase in clicks on ads relating to one advertiser, and uses data regarding the source of the clicks to determine that 80% of the clicks come from bots rather than humans.

Number of Vendors seeking consent: 563

Certain information (like an IP address or device capabilities) is used to ensure the technical compatibility of the content or advertising, and to facilitate the transmission of the content or ad to your device.

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  • Clicking on a link in an article might normally send you to another page or part of the article. To achieve this, 1°) your browser sends a request to a server linked to the website, 2°) the server answers back (“here is the article you asked for”), using technical information automatically included in the request sent by your device, to properly display the information / images that are part of the article you asked for. Technically, such exchange of information is necessary to deliver the content that appears on your screen.

Number of Vendors seeking consent: 562

The choices you make regarding the purposes and entities listed in this notice are saved and made available to those entities in the form of digital signals (such as a string of characters). This is necessary in order to enable both this service and those entities to respect such choices.

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  • When you visit a website and are offered a choice between consenting to the use of profiles for personalised advertising or not consenting, the choice you make is saved and made available to advertising providers, so that advertising presented to you respects that choice.

Number of Vendors seeking consent: 390

Information about your activity on this service may be matched and combined with other information relating to you and originating from various sources (for instance your activity on a separate online service, your use of a loyalty card in-store, or your answers to a survey), in support of the purposes explained in this notice.

Number of Vendors seeking consent: 400

In support of the purposes explained in this notice, your device might be considered as likely linked to other devices that belong to you or your household (for instance because you are logged in to the same service on both your phone and your computer, or because you may use the same Internet connection on both devices).

Number of Vendors seeking consent: 353

Your device might be distinguished from other devices based on information it automatically sends when accessing the Internet (for instance, the IP address of your Internet connection or the type of browser you are using) in support of the purposes exposed in this notice.

Number of Vendors seeking consent: 534

With your acceptance, your precise location (within a radius of less than 500 metres) may be used in support of the purposes explained in this notice.

Number of Vendors seeking consent: 279

With your acceptance, certain characteristics specific to your device might be requested and used to distinguish it from other devices (such as the installed fonts or plugins, the resolution of your screen) in support of the purposes explained in this notice.

Number of Vendors seeking consent: 144

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What do I do, do I need professional help? Long one but advice is really appreciated. Please don’t hate me too much, struggling with guilt already.

So I drove back from the in-laws last night, got home, everything was fine, gave little man a yogurt before bed and we went up after. It was already past his usual bedtime and coming close to my bedtime, I was trying to get him to sleep by doing our usual humming or holding his hand and anyway it was getting close to an hour where he wasn’t asleep yet, I could feel myself getting more and more tired and my patience growing thin especially thinking about how much I had to do before I could go to bed myself to prepare for the next day type of thing. I had loads to do, I was overthinking about everything else that was going on, I was stressing in the back of my mind about it being past my bedtime (think I have possible ADHD/Autism so routine is 👌🏻) and anyway kiddo kept wanting to touch me like pulling my face closer and wanting to hold my hand… I could feel myself getting overwhelmed and I didn’t want to be touched and I felt like my I needed to get out of my own skin and hide, get away. Anyway I pushed my toddler away and kept shoving his hand away saying ‘no, please go to sleep!’ It happened a few times while I had a meltdown… then I realised how awful that must make my baby feel, his mummy pushing him away when he just wanted comfort so i sobbed and a sobbed and his little heart bless him, he comforted me by giving me a cuddle. The guilt is killing me, by this time my partner had seen it all on the monitor and messaged me saying ‘you’re upsetting me, why won’t you hum for him? I’m setting off’ (he was staying back at his parents 2 hours away). I eventually called him back after cuddling kiddo back to sleep and apologising, saying ‘it’s fine, I’ve had a cry and apologised to him and eventually got him to sleep you don’t need to set off’ he’d already done so and said on the phone while crying ‘I’ve never seen you so cold with him, he just wanted to hold your hand and cuddle, I should’ve been there to help you so you didn’t have your meltdown’

But I suppose after it all and having about 3 breakdowns feeling like the worst mum in the world, him coming home to me cuddling baby to sleep, I’m trying to figure out if I am actually a heartless bitch who couldn’t deal with her baby and needs help or if this is sometimes normal for overwhelmed mums… I can’t stop thinking about it and the guilt is crushing me.

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You’re not the worst mom in the world. You’re human and you have feeling too.
Overstimulation is a thing and we mums experience this first hand.

Your partner shouldn’t guilty trip about this, if he saw it all on the baby phone instead of leaving he should’ve helped by taking over so you could calm down.

You’ll be okay and your little one too, and again WE ALL HAVE STRONG FEELINGS , you’re doing great 🫶

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Does anybody have set house jobs with partner, I am at my final stage before leaving....

We clash constantly about house jobs, I work 3days, increasing to 4soon, have baby 1 day and the other day is for house stuff
However on the evenings or weekend he does nothing, this argument has been going on for months I don't want to live with him anymore. Im trying to figure out a plan before our whole relationship falls apart....
I feel like it will be easier if we had a routine like every sat morning we spend an hour from 9 to 10 emptying dishwasher, hoovering and mopping etc jobs that are created from him aswell so he isnt picking up my stuff.
I feel really sad inside and feel that all the jobs I do tackle are ignored, the time of doing the washing, changing the bedding, caring for our baby its ignored and im not appreciated and it makes me feel like wanting to leave.
If I did the washing which took 3 hours , and I left some of it downstairs he wouldn't pick it up and bring it upstairs cause he says I got it out!
Any advice support i would really appreciate i dont want to split up but I absolutely will and I know i can work and look after baby on my own.
Thank you xx

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Major life decision…please help!

Im 24 and a FTM to a now 10m old baby boy. I’ve been a SAHM (though I have been working 2 nights/week as a server at a restaurant since baby was 8 month old) and throughout this time I’ve felt EVERY emotion known to man. I’m happy to be there and watch my child grow but I get frustrated at how fast the day passes and the laundry’s not done and the sinks full of dishes and the house is a mess and I end up feeling really worn down and overwhelmed.

Well this past Thursday, I decided to quit the job and dedicate more time to the house and to my marriage. On Friday morning, I get a call… I’ve been accepted into medical school!

I am so torn! Going to medical school would require me to put baby in daycare or find a nanny (I will no longer be the primary presence/influence in his life). It would likely also mean delaying having more children (my husband and I want 4 with little gap in between them). It’s an extremely demanding profession that’s a minimum of 7 years so the goal of homeschooling would also be less likely.

Many moms have been able to do both, but have told me about the sacrifices they’ve had to make in terms of time spent with their children. A lot of which I really wouldn’t want to do.

I don’t know what to do! A part of me feels like saying no because my baby’s only little once, but a part of me is saying I’d be crazy to decline such a rare opportunity that I’ve wanted since I was 15.

Every time I convince myself to do one thing, I’m pulled into the others direction.

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