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He goes to work Friday gets off early knowing we had a family commitment later and instead goes to the casino wins over $1700 blows it then throws his account into the negative and comes home Saturday at 5 am and doesn’t know how he’s gonna pay for gas the following week we’ve been having problems prior to this because I went to my 36 week appointment back in December and tested positive for hsv2 after he moved in with me at the end of November
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Learn more about our guidelines.My man has a gambling problem but not to the point where he doesn’t come home. It’s more of he’ll loose 2-500 dollars and doesn’t win anything and then when I spend money I’m “wasting it”
I want to know if this is fair from my husband.
Context- he works from home 99% of the time but has to go in tomorrow, I do 90% of the baby care, 100% overnight.
He said “I’m going to struggle to get up tomorrow”. I said maybe it’ll be good for you. He said “it’s not like you’ve got up early for the last 6 months”, that comment annoyed me because since about week 2 I’m the only one who has got up with the baby, I still feed him up to 3x throughout the night. So I said this to him. He then kicked off saying he’s sick of me saying Ive got the hardest life in the world- which isn’t what I said, I was just standing up for myself. He said he wishes he could stay home all day with the baby. I said it’s not all sunshine and roses, then again he raised his voice saying there I go again making out I’ve got it harder. I calmly said I didn’t say that, then got up and went to bed with the baby.
20 minutes later he came and got into bed- making lots of noise on the way, I don’t know if he was trying to wake the baby up or just being inconsiderate. He got into bed and I went to give him a hug and say sorry and he just said “no” and went right to the edge of the bed.
Is this me or is he being a bit harsh here. I feel like he overreacts and puts words in my mouth then makes out I’m the bad guy and gives me the silent treatment. I can’t criticise anything about him or he will react like this. Even if I didn’t mean anything by it.
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Even though he had no clue I felt the pressure he didn’t care. I was overwhelmed as a mom. So I made a therapy appt. It didn’t come together today as him getting home early fell through. I didn’t wanna take her I give my all in being a mom that I have nothing left of myself and this one thing I want to do alone. Especially since it’s very sensitive topics. Am I wrong for that?
He came home soon after the appt time passed (I rescheduled) and took over. I made pizza while he went out with her and he did everything for her up until bedtime. Her giving him a kiss saying I love you and night made me feel complete and happy as I never had that. He is supportive and amazing I just wish he knew what goes on in my mind. I don’t know me anymore. I don’t recognize myself in the mirror. I am a mom. That is all I am. All my purpose is. I have no hobby. Once my eyes open I’m a mom and when they shut I still dream of being a mom or of my ptsd. I don’t watch anything except cartoons. I can’t stand silence. Never fully rested. I’m just exhausted. But I love my life. I just really wish I knew who I was.
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I’m in a really complicated spot emotionally and I just need to let it out somewhere if thats okay…
I’ve been in a relationship that probably looks okay to outsiders but behind closed doors I’ve felt trapped, emotionally worn down, and scared to just be myself. I’ve tried to leave before but always got pulled back in either by guilt, hope, or fear.
Recently I made the decision to leave. But the truth is, I still live with him. I’m stuck in this weird limbo of pretending things are okay just to avoid conflict, while trying to quietly plan my way out for good.
I have a child to protect and provide for while working a parttime job I’m trying to to be safe while also trying to saving money and packing my stuff…well important stuff but it’s exhausting. He’s being extra kind lately, trying to win me back, but I know in my gut it’s too late.
What makes it harder is that I don’t want to hurt him. I know he has no one else here but me. I still care about his well-being, but I can’t sacrifice my peace anymore to keep him okay.
I guess I just needed to say this out loud somewhere, because this silence is heavy and confusing. I’m trying to trust myself, even when I feel unsure. I’m doing the best I can with what I’ve got for me and my child.
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does anyone else love their baby to absolute pieces but hate being a mother?
i just feel so sick and tired of it all and i’m really struggling to motivate myself to care for him at times, the only reason i do is because i love him and know he needs me.
i hate not being able to spend time by myself now he’s awake all day
i hate going to bed knowing it’s not going to be a real sleep and i’ll be up in a couple of hours
i hate waking to his cries knowing i have to get up and make a bottle and feed him
it just feels like my soul is being torn to absolute shreds
i don’t feel like my own person, i don’t feel happy, i don’t even get a chance to cry anymore despite feeling so sad. i just want to run away and be on my own but i could never bring myself to leave him. i just don’t think i have it in me to be a mum. i feel so tired and so so miserable.
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Necessary? Helpful? Brand recs?
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Does anyone else find their partner to be entirely unhelpful?? My husband can’t take the baby for even 15 minutes without asking me for something. If she spits up I have to hold her while he changes, if she cries he tries a few things and gives her back to me…. Anyone else feel like they can’t rely on their BABIES FATHER for support?
In the event I do leave him to his own devices to go to the grocery store or take a shower (30 minutes???) I come back to the baby in hysterics and him frazzled at a loss what to do. People keep telling me to take a break but I don’t know how I’m supposed to do so when my co-parent can’t even handle half an hour with the baby.
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