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They said they will decide in a month but I feel like if you want a relationship you won’t be considering that. We met two years ago but we’ve only officially been together for a few months. They don’t know my kids yet. I thought we both really cared for each other but this makes me think not. What would you do?
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Learn more about our guidelines.I think it really depends on the relationship and how they’re communicating and acting. Is it a long term thing? Is it for work? Like if they’re just indefinitely moving away because they feel like it, they may just be stringing you along until they leave. Whatever it is, I’m sorry you’re going through this. You don’t deserve it. Asking for up front clear communication and setting your own boundaries is all you can do 
You've only been dating for a few months so I wouldn't say you should factor into their decisions massively. The move was probably on the cards before you were there.
So if you enjoy their company and are happy to keep it light then I'd continue to have fun. If you want something serious then cut your losses now as they're not there yet. Neither should they be after a few months though tbh!
@kass I think that’s the problem, he acts all loved up but then he came up with this idea just recently and it’s not to do with work. I don’t know if he just likes thinking/talking about it as a fantasy but he knows I can’t go with so it makes me feel he is just stringing me along and I’ll be silly to wait the month. If he doesn’t go I will feel like an idiot.
@Caroline we’ve been dating a lot longer and did keep it light for a while but these past few months I thought we were committed and then he comes out with this. He’s still acting the same otherwise, very loving. We have such a great time together and it’s going to hurt if he goes but at the same time it already hurts like he doesn’t care how I feel or he’s just being completely oblivious.
I think you should have a conversation about your relationship. Maybe you feel the relationship is getting serious but the other side is not that serious. Or maybe they are just day dreaming? In any case a conversation should clear things up and you can decide if you are ok with whatever it comes out of it.
Regardless of the Why, that’s a lot of pressure on the relationship. Are you going to be able to feel and be yourself during this month? Or convincing him to change & invest. He doesn’t seem rooted & if you’re rooted where u are with your kids that’s a risk if things get more serious. I wouldn’t break up now, but I’d kinda slowly disinvest. Up to you though