Sex drive
My partner has a high sex drive and I'd say I can take it or leave it. Since falling pregnant I have had hyperemesis gravidarum for the first five months, then severe pelvic girdle which has led me to having crutches. I have not wanted any sex because of how much pain I'm in and I'm always feeling really down about how I look.
I've just got home and found a stain on the bed where he has cleared had five minutes of fun and left some of it behind. I asked him and he said sorry.
I know everyone has needs but he knows how insecure I feel and how much pain I've been in, he took an opportunity whilst I was out of the house.
It makes me wonder did he he used porn/ message other women I just don't know as my insecurities are getting the better of me. I'm his wife if anything I wish he would have text me if he was in the mood at least something between us (not full blown sex) could have happened.
I'm due in a few weeks and I don't know if I'm being sensitive but it's really upset me
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I mean, I’d just outright ask him. He already admitted to it and did it as respectfully as possibly, minus the failure to clean up. I’m sure he’d reassure you.
I understand you wanting him to “sext” you.
But… at least for my husband, when it’s just a wank. It’s a quick, watch a video we’ve made, so porn, but of us? And quick done over in 5-10max
To text me and make it a whole thing would be 20+ minutes if I even want to.
As you said everyone has needs. And he tried to handle them and get over with without bugging you, buttttt got caught.
I have asked him, I don't expect an apology just a bit of respect. I wouldn't mind but he doesn't cuddle or kiss me like he used to I don't know if it's because he knows I wouldn't be up for it or because he's not interested.
Makes me sad as I've been out making something for the baby and all that is on his mind is to have a wank.
He has videos and photos of me but I doubt he used them.
I just feel sad and insecure and not good enough for him
I meant ask him what he used for the wank so your mind stops wandering irrationally since you’re pregnant. ❤️
Why do you doubt he used them?
I used to, but was impressed to find out when I asked, that’s what he preferred over just anyone porn (which I personally have no problem with, totally just a me thing)
But I’m sorry you feel that way, just trying to point in directions that show you that you shouldn’t be!
Also, I’d say 70% of men, the moment they’re alone go, “ya know what I could do right now?!” And drop their pants 🤣
I did and he didn't answer. Because I feel that insecure that I wouldn't believe him he did say he used them.
I do appreciate all your advice. It's just hurt me I feel so fucking ugly and down and I think it's just tipped me over the edge that I'm not good enough
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