Sex life

Once a month

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Is that intentional and consensual?

Yeah, mostly

I have a 4 year old 3 year old and 1 year old and we still do it almost every day have for like 5 years. I think it’s a lot and get tired he doesn’t . Depends on you two and your lifestyle and energy lol

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Well a lot of time he works mornings I work nights so when I get home at 10 he already has the kids in bed and that’s when we do and no because we mix up like where we do it or how we do it and if we don’t want to we don’t do we understand each other

How do you make the time, and also, does it ever get too routine? I want to have it that often, but I have trouble finding time with the two kids, plus I’m scared. Can they get bored if you do it too often?

I think this is an interesting question and I can appreciate the responses. I don’t keep count of the times but it’s Monday and we’ve head sex three times already (since Sunday).

Abouy 4-5 times a week, but if it were solely up to me, it'd be about once a month lol

We haven’t had sex since we found out we were pregnant. Which was 14 weeks ago...😞😞we had oral but nothing else. Feel like I’ll have moths fly out of my cooter.

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I’m so sorry!!! My husband has low testosterone and he was getting injections for it and it really helped us but he got in a pissy mood about about driving across town for it so he cut himself off cold turkey. 🙄🙄

Don’t feel too bad. Since my husband got a new job five years ago and since her son was born five years ago we have had sex once. Granted we have a portable relationship, but last time we tried I found out he had ED. Since then he has had depression and a fear that it will happen again! For so long I thought I was being blinded by the fact that he was having an affair. He isn’t. PTSD brought on the pression that was severe and the depression brought on ED...Which in turn made him not feel like as much of a man and very embarrassed. Sex isn’t all that important to me but maybe that’s because we’ve never had great sex!

It really depends but on average 2-3 times per week

Almost everyday. We have a 6 week old & a 2 year old.

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I need your advice! I have a toddler and a 5 month old, and I wish we had sex as much as you guys do. When do you get down to business?

He has duty one day a week, we still have sex probably 4 or 5 times a week. If we he comes home early it can be more than that. Almost 8 years in and going strong!

Whenever we see each other like 4 times a day lol been married over 8yrs with 3 kids and you find ways lol !

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Quicky in the shower middle of tge night when the kids are busy with naps or lunch sneak off for a bit. Where theres a will theres a way

Seriously please tell me your tips!!! We have such a hard time finding time!!!

3-4 times a week, I work full time, he works over nights full time, and we have a three year old :-)

Before we had our daughter we’d have sex every day. After...maybe 3 times a month. Pretty disappointing for me because I want it every day.

Wow 4 to 5 times a week.. sounds like we’re slacking a bit lol .. 7 weeks postpartum and only been 1 or 2 times a week

Hardly ever. We had sex 8 times last month and i just gave him a hand job in the shower lol if i had it my way there would be no sex or maybe 1 to 3 times a month. He is very sexual and im not. I used to be but im so stressed out and i work 7 days a week im normally just too tired to think about sex.

It depends but about 2-4 times a week . Sometimes I wish more lol but I know he is really tired after long day at work. After my baby for some reason I want to have sex more 🤣

4/5 a days a week

For us we own our own business restoring classic cars. We have 4 children 8.6.2. And 1. We manage to have sex at least once a day

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We try to to get it in at least 3 times a week. But it gets challenging sometimes with his work and mine we both lose energy during the week.

I need your tips, Sarahanne! Was there ever a time when you didn’t have it as much, or did you always somehow make the time? I would love having it as much as that or more. But I have a 5 month old and a 22 month old. How do you guys make it happen?

Everyday 🤷🏾‍♀️

Maybe 2 times a week if I’m lucky

Lol almost 11 months PP and there’s still one Condom left in the box

4 times a week atleast. If we aren't too tired

Damn you ladies are lucky! We get it on about once a month. Not often but it’s real good!!

3-4 times a week

Twice a month 😭😭

Me and my husband made it a thing to have sex every Sunday even if we are tired and anything on top of that is a plus but mostly only once a week

Usually with multiples and him working full time we only have time after we put the kids to bed and usually it’s once a week because we’re both tired but sometimes twice a week because he’s been good to me so why not ?

One a month, maybe.

This has been eye opening to me to realize how much my chronic illness and depression has affected our sex life. We used to all the time, now maybe 2-4 (maybe more) times a month. We have 3 elementary school aged kids, his work schedule is a little off and we are both tired. The sex is great when we do have it tho.

Lol... I’m taking contraceptive pills and I think it has something to do with me not wanting sex but I have to give for healthy relationship. 4 times a week depends on how I feel

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I went on one pill that made me unable to even tell if guys were attractive, I went on another that made me ready to go at any moment. Don’t be afraid to try something different if this isn’t working for you.

We are 8 weeks PP and I’m still healing. 😢 so mostly oral 3-4 times a week depending if the baby will sleep and if we want sleep. If your husband wants more sex then you maybe he should be helping you cum more. I know if I’m not into sex cuming changes my mind. Sometimes my husband will get a bj and I’ll go back to bed. Helps with his stress levels & I get extra points.

My fiancé and I have it every morning if everyday

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I’m sorry

The good ole days 😢😢😢

He works a lot so maybe 2 times a month. I wish it was more.

It depends. Sometimes a few times a week. Sometimes we will go a couple months and not have it.

Being a mom of two and single, my sexual desires changed a lot to where I don’t think about it. I’m 37 and possibly going through premenopausal. Is that accurate. Thoughts anyone

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Oh wow

This topic speaks to my heart. Sex had always been an issue with my ex husband. He wanted it all the time, me only sometimes. I went through counseling, having him pick up more around the house. I used to make myself try to initiate sex at least once a month. Long story short in my case turns out the problem was my marriage. After infidelity, an extra martial child and a while heap of other problems I called it quits and guess what? Turns out I loooove sex! Who knew? Lol. I say communicate - figure out what it takes to make you each happy and as long as you're BOTH putting in work, you're doing OK 😉 PS-let's drop the stigma that you must be a slut of you want sex all the time. Giiiiiiiiirl, get yours! Night, day, afternoon and everywhere in between! YOUR husband, boyfriend, or just an arrangement just stay safe and don't go wrecking people's homes please and thanks!

My husband is struggling with hormone levels and pre diabetes... So he likes to cuddle and be close but has very little libido and we are still young. I share just cuz I always was excited to be married and sex every night and every morning before work, and sex sex sex sex sex... And that is just not the way of it for us. But considering my increased chin wiskers and dark mustache fuzz I might also have a hormone issue.

My man and I have sex probably 4-5 times a week..if not more,we are both sexual ppl and..these pregnancy hormones have definitely been a rush for me...but in a good way 🙂

Well when I was pregnant with both my kids my sex drive plummeted and took 6 months to come back after I had my daughter lol that's when I ended up getting pregnant with my son and he's 7 months it's just now coming back so usually 2-3 times a week

My husband would have sex every day or maybe even twice a day. Before we got pregnant, we were closer to 5 times a week. Since getting pregnant with our first, I’m so tired and so dry down there that I’m only up for it on the weekends, maybe he will give me oral once during the week.

My hubby has a high libido so we do it pretty much every day...I like to keep him satisfied. Sometimes I’m not in the mood but he definitely gets me in the mood the way he handles me! 😜 try to enjoy it and make it something to look forward to. I have a 2yo and 6mo so I understand about the energy levels..

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How do you guys make time? Honest question. Our kids are the same ages as yours.

I’m pregnant so the urge comes and goes.. my boyfriend hates it.

4 or 5 times a week is amazing.....but completely unrealistic in my opinion. Even 1 or 2 times a week is a miracle in our house. We are both just always so tired. Him from work me from the kids. Plus it doesn't help that we been together 14 years. I guess it just depends on perceived equity and how comfortable each feels. There should definitely be some communication so that you guys can come to a conclusion that is fair for both of you and doesn't push anyone beyond their limits, I would definitely get on the issue quickly because don't forget in order to be successful parents you must first be a solid couple and this would include sex issues

Tends to be once/week (but I wish it was more). We’re not good at working around the kiddos and our schedules. From everyone’s responses, it seems like we are all different in what we want. And that sometimes it changes (sometimes we want more, sometimes less). It’s 100000% understandable to me that working full time and having a toddler would wipe you out! Also, and this may be the same for you or not, but when he is making me feel loved and appreciated in other ways (doing more around the house, spending face to face time with me, saying loving things, loving touch—all without expecting anything in return), it’s refreshing and helps me feel safe letting myself go with him. If you don’t feel like he is loving you in those other ways, your energy for sex will likely be super low. If you do feel very cherished and loved and really are just exhausted, then maybe for this season of your life, you guys need a sitter more often (a babysitting swap if it’s not affordable to hire), fewer work hours

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(If that’s affordable at this time). Whatever you guys decide, I feel you that it is hard in two ways: 1) to have the same libido at the same time in your lives (rare it seems!) and 2) to juggle that with work and kids! But it’s worth it to try. ❤️ he should always be kind to you about it!

We have sex maybe 2 or 3 times a week, and that’s a good week, thats just the season of marriage we are in right now. Its all about quality over quantity. I know someone who does it 2x a month and she says those two times are extremely gratifying! Her and her husband actually have more time together than me and my husband, but they spend a lot of time doing fun things together. Which Im a little envious of😊

My husband and I have sex at least 3 times a week. And he seems to think the same way that apparently everyone else has sex every night and I told him that’s not true.

I legit probably have sex once or twice every two weeks. I work full time, a d have two kids both under the age 4. Its not realistic honestly, and we probably argue about sex a little more then we should. He wants to have sex basically every day, which is not what I want.

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This is my relationship as well,he expects sex like 2x a day everyday, because That's how "relationships"work ...when it's not reality 🤦‍♀️

Men dont get it that we put a lot more effort into task at home, at work, with the kids then they do. I tell my boyfriend I’m annoyed when I walk thru the door, and he tells me “ oh here we go, no sex tonight.” Such a jack ass I swear!

Once a week usually during weekends.And sometimes not even then. He has a low labido so not often. Drives me crazy cause I'm always in the mood lol

It varies from week to week! Some weeks are super busy and it’s maybe twice a week (once if it’s insane) but on an average week I’d say 3-4 for us. Just try to be understanding of each other and know that (with kids especially) you don’t have to have a schedule and it’s ok if it doesn’t happen as often one week.

My husband is gone Monday-Thursday so I’m a single mom through the week and it is TOUGH! So with him only home on the weekend we wear it out. Understand that every situation is different and that communication is so important. Him giving you what you want and vise versa. Spice things up and have fun. Get a cute/sexy outfit and surprise him one evening with it. Surprise him with something you know he likes. If he feels like you do care then he will care about how you feel as well.

I'm a single mom who wishes I could everyday!! It's been more than a minute😩

Once a week maybe twice