Stay at home mom depression is real

Yep it’s very real 😢

Yep I agree 😥 feel lonely xx

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So sorry 💔 always here to talk

Blughhhh

I have been off of work for 14 days unexpectedly and it is awful. Igatev working and leaving baby but I hate staying home too.

I feel the same. But i try so hard to be strong but still breakdown sometimes...hiding. Being a stay at home mom is so hard...the hardest job i got.

I totally agree. It is HARD. My boyfriend is working out if state now and it is even worse not seeing him every day. If any of you ever wanna talk about anything, message me!

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Feel free to message me would love to have someone to chat with!

Feeling this xx

This! Since being pregnant I feel it more than ever. My husband is the kind of person who doesn't understand depression so I have to try to hide it so I don't have to listen to him tell me I have nothing to be depressed about. Within the past 2 years my closest friends have both moved away and for some reason a distance has grown between my SIL and myself so I have no one to really talk to. Both of my friends came to visit a few months ago and it was the happiest few days I've had in the longest time. Even saying something like that makes me feel like a terrible mom though because why can't I feel that way with my kids?

You know this is so true! I didn't realize how lonely you can become being a stay at home mom. I have been home now for over 4+ years and this last year has been so hard. I have felt so alone. I have tried getting out more but its such a struggle meeting friends the older you get!

I I think it really got harder when my best friend decided to cut me out of her life! No one understands and so I keep it to myself but its so hard to keep it all inside!

It’s hard, explains days I just can’t and I wanna lay in bed and not get up. I try to talk with my partner, but then says nothing. Makes me just cry in the restroom or in bed by myself, feeling like I’m failing.

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Would totally agree!!!!

It’s hard especially when you are the only one to have child in your friend group , and love away from friends and family. Although Being a Mum is awesome and it can be lonely and hard especially being away from work

Stay at home mom here and I must say sahm depression is all too real. There are days where I am actually jealous my husband gets to go to work. We only have one car, so that makes it even worse. We literally don’t leave the house all week. It gets rough, and there are days where my husband gets home and I contemplate running away. I love my son and I would lose my mind being away from him, but you always think the grass is greener on the other side.

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I have been thinking like that lately too, it kills me to admit it outside of my own head. We have 2 vehicles but we live in the country and I have an SUV so everytime I go out just to get out my husband complains about the amount of gas I use. Then that pisses me off and makes me feel guilty which makes things worse which again pushes me into the whole "what if...." thinking

Same here I just feel like running away But then again I think of my kids which are my whole life and would never leave them

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Mee too!!!

It is so hard to be a stay at home mom! I honestly don’t know how some moms do it, I am trying to find a job which has not been easy and I am losing my mind being in doors. Also recently moved to the UK so don’t have any friends or know many moms in the area. I take my hat off to mommy’s who do this full time 💕

I absolutely agree it's very hard being a SAHM and very lonely... 😔

I am a new SAHM / work from home mom and I agree with the article. For me I find the most difficult thing is the loss of identity I don’t recognize myself and frankly don’t have time to introspect to even begin to redevelop myself. I try to stay committed to the mom group I attend and stay around family so I don’t feel alone but often times as I am the only twin mom I know it is lonely because no one else exactly knows how I feel. I love my children to no end and went through so much and sacrificed so much during my pregnancy, however it is difficult identifying myself as a mom when I was single career oriented me for so many years. In the tough moments I work hard to give myself enough time to feel the feels but also recognizing (for me) when I need to reach out for help so that I don’t fall into a dark place. Motherhood is a rewarding but tough journey like no other .

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A family member is a doctor and I work for their practice from home doing clerical things for now but also going back to school

Do u mind me asking where do u work from home for, I need that

Agree!!! I’m a sahm and I’m so depressed and lonely. It’s hard to get out of the even when I can because I’m so use to be inside raising my kids. It’s like I’m all alone because my husband just doesn’t understands and thinks it’s a piece of cake. But it’s not. I’m exhausted and drained 😌🤦‍♀️

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Yes. While my husband works 8hours 5 days a week, I’m full time day and night. No 15min or 30 mins break, my feet are constantly moving. & on top of it I breastfeed, and I carry him on my him because he doesn’t want to be put down. I don’t like them crying so I immediately jump to their needs. My life is chaos. Let’s not talk about baths. Because the floor gets drenched in water, so I have to clean that up. And I just want to explode because he never understands. I had a girl invite me out and I was all up for it. By 7pm I said I could because I was sick, whole time I was drained because I’m a momma of 2 24/7 365 days a year.

I feel you my husband thinks 🤔 that taking care or to toddlers is a piece of cake 🍰. When it’s not easy because you cook 👩🏻‍🍳 breakfast 🥞 the. You have to change them then feed again clean 🧽 up the toys 🧸 then Put them down for a nap 😴 then its cleaning 🧹 the house 🏡 then it’s back to cooking 🥘 there is no time for us moms to take a break because there’s a lot to do in the house 🏠 that we don’t get 20 minutes or so to relax

My first baby is 1 month today actually and I have family support but everyone works full time and baby keeps me up all night so I’m alone all the time. I got my own place but it’s so far distance wise from everyone I havnt been there. I jump from my families house to baby daddies house to friends house just to try and be around people. Luckily I have a friend that’s out of work with a new baby as well but that’s the only place I don’t feel isolated simply bc were on the same type of schedule rn. I don’t have anyone to pay my bills so I’m supposed to go back to work full time soon and yes the idea of being out of the house is great but I don’t want to leave my son nor do I want to work full time to pay someone to watch my son so I’m having anxiety from that as well. The first week home (at my baby daddies place) was hell. He didn’t understand where I was coming from I’m sure he thought I was losing my mind and honestly I kinda felt like I was. People don’t realize (especially breastfeeding) how hard this is.

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No one understands us and they won’t unless they go through the struggle that we go through

+1 no one really tells how hard breastfeeding is! And that is even if you DON’T get thrush or blocked ducts or anything (both of which I did) 😱

So true! My family is far away, I still haven’t made any friends since I moved away from Miami, my husband works 12 hour shifts and I spend all my time at home. It can be very lonely so i’ve now dedicated 1 hour away from the house to go to the gym. Not much but it’s something 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Yes that’s awesome even that one hour helps! I go rollerblading and my mood for that day is so much diff after I go out and do that.

I think it gets worse with literally no friends 😫 HELP

yes i am a sahm too and also a 1 car family at the moment. were stuck here all week plus i homeschool my 4 kids. and im 4 months preggo. I was getting so sad & lonely lately that I went back to working from home! I love Melaleuca. & hey it keeps my mind busy, & allows me to speak to other moms too! so i get adult interaction 😆 But yes sometimes i want to rip out my eyeballs, 🤷🏻‍♀️😬

I agree, I have a very busy schedule being a SHM plus trying to handle being social at the same time is challenging because it's hard talking to another adult when your use to just being around the kiddos all day everyday I try to be social and I find it so awkward😔 when the kids go to sleep you still are thinking about what's for dinner next day what will they wear dont get me wrong I LOVE my kids and just speaking for me that some days I see some dark days with my emotions just because my brain never turns off

I feel same way dont have a job right now I am sahm for a 2 year old chaotic little boy all I do is change diapers cook clean and constantly look after him I have no time to myself and it is hard because I actually have diagnosed adhd and depression with bi polar and anxiety

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I'm struggling too! Anyone in Maryland?

I agree. Being a SAHM and juggling a lot of other things is stressful! If anyone needs someone to talk to I’m here for you!

i agree! Being a SAHM can be really isolating & that can take your mind to a dark place. People think it's easy but honestly going to work every day is easier.

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I feel like my husband doesn't understand this.

Totally agree I'm a SAHM and I felt so isolated after I had my little one and so I can completely relate

I agree it’s hard! Like I work weekends but I lost my mum 4 weeks ago and I stay at home 5 days a week and I just feel lost and isolated 😞 even the weekends don’t help as I haven’t been going to work much due to circumstances. It’s so hard when you can’t seem to make friends as well or all you’re old ones don’t care now 🙈 x

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It's so true about the old friends, unless they have kids they are around in the beginning and then gone and that makes things worse. There was a little while where I started to resent my husband and kids for me not having friends.

Your so right this part sucks . I feel like I lost a few girl friends because they party and brunch and I can’t do those thing at the drop of a hat so slowly they stop inviting it sucks

So true !!! I wish they were closer but that’s life

I'm not a SAHM I'm just on maternity leave and this article is spot on. It's the hardest job in the world

Definitely the hardest thing I have ever taken on. I absolutely love being with my girl all the time but I miss having the freedom (and the money) that working gave me. I get so lonely when the hubs is at work. It’s so hard to meet other moms and actually keep up a friendship. I also got diagnosed with severe PPD that has not made the transition easy. Society needs to notice us mamas that stay at home and stop making us seem weak or lazy. We are tired, not lazy.

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I’m the exact same, really bad PPD but I tried going back to work and putting him in daycare and my anxiety went through the roof! You really can’t win no matter what you do.

I gave up a really good job and basically everything to move to Spain to take care of my little guy full time. It can be so isolating and I get very depressed at times.

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Hi Charlene, I'm going to be a new mum soon in April. My husband is spanish and wants to go back to spain when our daughter is 2 years old. Can you please tell me about your experience going to Spain?

Yep! I've been a stay at home mom for the past 5 years to a 5 year old, 2 year old, and an 11 month old... sometimes it's nice but other times i feel so isolated and alone. Doesnt help i live out in the country away from humanity!

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YES!

I agree completely!! I love being home with my kids, but the loneliness and the lack of social interaction can drive me into depression often. Hence this app.

This article deff is motivating me to find my mom tribe and build a close group of mommy friends. As woman we need to support and up lift each other because the REAL is we sometimes get forgotten ... sometime we put our need on the back burner... so a great support group that you can hang out with, drink with, laugh, cry and vent with is such a blessing ! Excited to find my tribe

I feel so isolated and alone. I feel like I can never get anything done, because when I get something else done everything else piles up. It is most definitely the hardest job I have ever done.

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I feel the same way. I get laundry done i turn around another pile appears.. if i clean one room two get messed up.... i understand your pain..

Yes, its an endless mess even when you are cleaning 😟

This is exactly how I feel. Also my husband doesn’t seem to understand that I need a break sometimes. That I’m one person and caring for 2 small a people on top of caring for him is draining and can drive anyone into depression or anxiety.

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I agree 100%

same

I am a SAHM, I have two LOs, 21 months and 5 months. It is a lot harder than I anticipated having 2 under 2. I have been struggling recently with the isolation, I’m in a town with no friends or family, the only people I know are former work colleagues. I joined the app to meet other local mums and really hoping I can get out of the house regularly and start building some friendships before major depression kicks in. I remember being so envious of my sister that she was at home with her kids and now that I’m doing it I have the days where I am filled with guilt as I’d love to just be anywhere else but at home!

I work remote part time, so I am a semi SAHM. When I work on my laptop, I hire a nanny to come over and take care of my baby. It's great to also give me a break even if I am not working.

Agree 1000% . Worse when my BF and I fight and he completely ignores me for days. I guess he doesn’t understand the loneliness

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My boyfriend does the same. It drives me crazy at times

I hate when he does it and then acts like if he did nothing wrong

I’m a stay at home mom of a 1 & 2 year old. It’s even harder when you’re military & live 3000 miles away from any family at all

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So hard! I’m going through it as well no family near by and no friends here

I thought being a stay at mom would come naturally. I’ve been wanting to do it, but now that’s it a reality, it’s so demanding. I feel like I always have to be on; happy and interactive. It’s exhausting.

Definitely motivator

Daily battle

I’ve been a stay at home mom for 7 months .. & been going back into depression..

I'm super grateful this is being talked about and normalized. It's so important to be able to have a supportive community where moms can feel safe getting real about how they're feeling. I know it helped me a ton!!!! I'm definitely available for support. Take care moms!

How is everyone coping in the lockdown?

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Def struggling so glad I'm not alone..I just miss human adult interaction ..I'm a sociable person and feel so lonely at times

Yeah I don’t like it. I worked from home during the pandemic with my toddler and almost lost my mind. I’m still work from home but she is at a small daycare with only very few kids. I felt guilty at first but I needed my time to work and get things don’t around the house. I don’t like the stay at home mom thing.

It’s so nice to see this being discussed. Because there are a lot of us going through this. I won’t want to take medication either so I’m trying to hang in there

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Me too !

I am a stay at home mom too! Very hard not having any friends around!

I have been an on and off SAHM, and both seems to be a struggle. I feel anxious, guilty, and tired when I put my little ones in daycare. Then when I am back at home with them, I feel anxious, lonely, and depress. It's an on going battle. I am so glad I am not alone in this.

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You are not alone I put my little one back in daycare and feel so guilty! I had to tho cause I need to work 😫