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“Making the decision to go back to work when you’re a stay-at-home-mom is a tough one. Some of us feel judged to do so at different times, and some may never feel the nudge at all.” What are your thoughts on this article? Have any of you had this experience? https://www.popsugar.com/family/what-it-like-to-go-from-sahm-to-working-mom-46636412
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I haven't read the article. My LO is not letting me read, but I definitely feel I need to get back to work. And not that I've been talking with my husband about it he seems to expect it now. Which sucks because now I feel like if I change my mind I'll feel super pressured to go back to work sooner then I wanted

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The need to go back started out being just me not being used to staying home.

"My lo not letting me read"....me 24/7!!! I feel ya sister. I would say take the leap and do it only when you feel ready and when its 100 percent your decision!

I think it all boils down to knowing oneself. I know PLENTY of moms who love being home. Their families make it work financially and the wife/mother feels like she is living in her purpose being a sahm. I then know for me, I could never be completely fulfilled being home 24/7. Not because I didn’t love being the one to raise my kids, but because there is more to who I am that would never be stimulated just being home. A friend of mine has a 2 year old that she’s home with but also has a nanny that helps with the housework so that she can create and have other outlets outside of the role as a mom. I’ve since began doing that and have really felt like I’m getting the best of both worlds. I personally think we are better moms to our kids when we are healthy, thriving and walking in purpose.

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Love your post. I 100 percent agree. We are all different as women and we just need to identify what will make us best moms according to our own definitions! ❤

From my experience I think it’s an important feeling to have a choice whether to be a SAHM or working mom-to not have the pressure financially to provide. To be forced to work, a mama may want to stay home and to be forced to stay home a mama may want to get out and have a break/have the satisfaction of achieving and providing. However with a choice, if there’s a need for mama to have a creative outlet that also provides financially and gives her the option to either work from home/have flexibility with what hours she works, then mama can work, provide, and still be present for her children fulfilling all aspects of whatever the family’s needs are.

Nice🤗

I love being a working mama with a very reasonable employer that let's me work from home

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That’s great! How do you balance work with parenting if your child is home at the same time? It has always been such a struggle for me outside of nap time🤦🏽‍♀️

I spoke with my hubs and we agreed to allow me to quit my job ($17/hr) and for him to get a second job so that I can stay at home with our son and any other kids we have eventually and do schooling for ultrasound tech and then nursing.

I have been a SAHM for 9 months now and it has its ups and downs, but I’m naturally a working girl so not being able to have my income to do what I want is kind of depressing me. I’m currently trying to find a stay at home position where I can have the flexibility and be there for my kids. Hopefully that will help me fulfill my creative side. 🤔

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I plan to start schooling 2020 and then do a work from home job next summer. I'm a SAHM too.

Just me..so ill defintely be a working mom. I feel guilt not being able to stay with my baby longer.

If i could go back to work I definitely would! I love being at home with my kiddos, but i feel like i always have to be on and there's never any me time.

I had no choice but to go back to work. What’s worse is that I had to go back at 6 weeks. I live with a lot of guilt.

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I’ve been there, but you got to remember that your doing it to provide for the family

We are going through this now with a LO that is 8 months old. I am trying to figure out this tough terrain and it seems both sides have their good and bad.

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I was thinking the same thing when my little guy was about 10 months. Then I got pregnant again and didn't go back. But it was so stressful trying to weigh the options and make a decision that's best for everyone

I think being a stay at home mom is mentally harder then a working one but working is physically more draining especially a s a single mom.

I work 20 hours and even though we need more money I just can’t wrap my head around leaving my son in daycare so long that there’s a shift change :( like I wanna talk to the teacher who was actually with him all day when I pick him Know what I mean :( life’s so hard ugh

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I wish i could just work 20 hours and be able to afford daycare

Ya I’m very lucky! That said, we can barely afford rent and food/bills. Thus why I’m debating asking for more hours

Your gonna get judged either way, do what you think is best for your kids and family and forget everyone else it's your life your choice, it's hard either way

I would love to be a stay at home mom but too many bills

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When this topic comes up, I always have this answer. Mom's want to be home with the little ones, but kids want and need mom from about middle school age and up. I say anyone can wipe noses and butts lol but kids need you most in those early teen years. I have 5 kids my oldest is 18 my youngest is 3. I've done it all work full time, part time and stayed home. With all my teens I noticed the above statement to be true. The middle school years are rough and they really do need a soft spot and comfort form their parents.

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That is an excellent answer. I always thought the kids wouldn't need me when they went to school.

We agreed to wait a year before thinking of daycare but it definitely felt weird. I loved spending all day with baby girl but wanted to work to continue to grow my career and help our budget. I was super distraught on what to do: daycare and full time work? Part time on the weekends and no daycare(her dad taking care of her but me not being as available for family time)? Part time and some daycare? Just be stay home? At around 7 months I found a remote opportunity that seemed too good to be true but i applied and got hired! We have a nanny but i set my own hours and everyone is cool seeing her at meetings if need be. It's still quite tiring to be mom and employee and do all adult things such as keeping the place organized and having a social life but I think for us having priorities set and making sure we are supporting each other has been key. Also my company and team are super supportive which unfortunately is not always the case in all organizations.

I've never been a stay-at-home mom but would love to be if I could afford it! I don't see why people pass judgment on anyone in any decision they make for what's best for their families!

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Agree

Money can’t buy you love, or time though...I’ve learned to make some small Sacrifices to be able to only work part time and be here for my kids after school, but also my husband just got a full time job so that helps a lot...

I love working from home, I left my job a few weeks back and it was the best decision ever. I work around my baby and finally feel like I can have as many babies as I want without any pressure of going back to work! Being a mum is hard but the rewards pay off when we can see our babies grow, adding a job that tour don’t love to that can make it so stressful. I never thought I could feel such a balance but I do now. Xx

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What do you do for work?

What do you do?

I wish I could work but with 2 under the age of 3 unless I have £2100 in childcare a month which I wouldn’t earn that much what else can I do, my husband won’t have the kids at the weekend so can’t work then, I’m waiting until my son starts nursery next sept then I will still have a 1 year old but maybe I can get something then

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Jo-Louise, I had this problem, drop me a message I might be able to help xxx

My husband was fired suddenly 2 weeks ago. I've been staying home with the baby, but with him being fired I have to go back to work. I will be able to work from home but I won't be able to focus on my baby girl. It is driving me crazy things have to be like this. I hate we have to live paycheck to paycheck constantly fearing everything will come tumbling down. Ugh Money problems are the worst.

I want to be able to work from and earn an income if you know how let me know

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Hey Kay! I work from home full time with lots of other mommas! You can message me here or text me for info! 217-619-2468

Following, I go back to work soon I’d like to ideally work a few days a week at my job and do something at home to pay the bills as well

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Hey kayla

Check out The Mom Project. They are a job search site for Momma's. Full time, part time, full remote, part remote. Etc.

I have done both but when my son was younger i worked up until he had seizures and then i was a stay at home mom

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Poor baby, how is he doing now?

It was when he was like a year to five year's old but thank you for caring he did have a seizure two weeks before his ninth birthday but he hasn't had one in a year since him n i are back together

Well, I'm already planning on working after I give birth. Taking a 4 to 6 week maternity leave and then going back to work. Me and bf will be working opposite shifts. My mom though was a stay at home mom for years and recently had to go back to work part time since they are now empty nesters. It's been a transition for her but she seems to be adjusting ok.

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It may take longer for your body to heal (inside and out) than that, even though 6 weeks is the average that docs give before getting back to any normal activities. I was only planning on taking 6 weeks when I had my daughter, but my body had other ideas. It was 10 weeks before I could get even normal stuff done without twinges. Just a thought for the back of your head as you prepare for your precious baby. ☺️

If I have to take more time off then I will, mostly was just thinking money wise 🙂

I don’t care what others think about my choices because their opinions don’t matter. I make the decision based on my family needs. I actually work from home a majority of the time and out of the home 12hrs a week.

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If you don’t mind me asking what type of work from home jobs do you do? I’m very interested.

Hey Charlene!! You might actually benefit from what i do... you can make a substancial income from your phone!! If you’re interested i can send you more info! x

I absolutely love my baby and my career.. so this has been interesting.Ive worked really hard to be in the position I'm at and ultimately I dont think I'm wired to be a stay at home mom. I applaud women that do it, but I went back to work fulltime a month after and it was the best thing for our family.

Going back to work transitioning now, it's sooooo hard! Plus my girl won't take the bottle from anyone but my husband and I. I've already started pursuing a work from home job, hope I get it early next year! 🤞

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I'm always torn between this decision. Stay at home moma or go back to work. I miss feeling apart of the world & having a sense of control over my own future. But the thought of someone else raising my child all day while I work makes me CRINGE. 😩

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Yes something has to change soon! Part time is possible just gotta take the leap!

It is always so hard going back to work. I did it for a year then stayed home with my son only working part time. Now i work from home and can be with him when he get home from school.

Honestly, I went to work with my oldest because I had to. Did not with my middle because of abuse. My current, I have looked for job after job and nothing. Interview after interview with no. I need pt, with certain days off and I can't work nights. I am so lucky my fiance has a good job where we can keep our heads a float. I just want to provide some financial support. YOU GO WORKING, STAY AT HOME, JUST PLAN MOMMIES.

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I am also a sahm.. I am now working from home part time and making money doing it. Let me know if your interested!

I wish I could be a stay at home mum, or at least for a while (beyond maternity leave) but I really don't think my husband would be on board and I don't think finances would allow. I know there are hard parts about being a SAHM but I would love to look after my daughter full-time all the same.

I just went back to work. Was in between jobs. But yes

So I am blessed to be able to work from home and have my daughter at home with me as well, but I still get the mom guilt when I have a deadline, all I want to do is be mom. Play , color or just have fun!

I owned my own business so I could do sort of both . It worked well for me and it’s not for everyone but I knew I would need that combo to make it all work . It isn’t unusual for women do to a mix of things as their children and situations change and that is ok . Whatever works has been my motto ! My children got a lot out of this because they can speak well and even when they were small weren’t afraid of strangers but , knew boundaries . I was able at times to travel with them and homeschool . It worked well .

I love working from home! I don’t want to leave Alfie and I’ve only just started and I already know it’s the best thing I ever did! X

Me 3 Coral, please. Although I'm in Canada

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I had to work with my oldest since I knew we wouldn't be able to make it financially and my husband didn't have a good job then, but he does now! And we now have a second child. But I feel like we are back in the same boat where I have to go find work again just to keep our heads above waters... as much as I don't want to, but we can't keep struggling to find ways to pay the bills only on his paycheck and I feel so horrible because he's been wanting me to stay home with the kiddos... and he's told people that I'll be able to stay home and when they find out I have to go back to work, he told me it'll hurt his pride :( I don't want to do that to him... I'm torn.

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Please reassure him that it better for you both to take care of your family than impressing other people. Also, you are doing a great job too, you are giving you are supporting your family financially and you shouldn't feel guilty about it.

When the girls were little I had no choice to go back to work. I had a high profile job and could not afford to give it up. Between a private nursery and family I made it work but I barley saw my daughters. The thing being is that I loved having a career. Now I have a balance, I have worked from home the past five + years. I am there for the school runs and after school trips. But every couple of months I also get a weekend away with my work to learn and spend time with adults. It’s not an easy adjustment as you need to be committed to the time but it’s given me the best of both worlds. I think as mums we have to do what’s best for us and our family. Every family is different

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Hi I would love to know more about this! Would you be able to message me privately? Xx

I also wish I could be a stay at home mommy. I want so badly to breastfeed and this has been a sacrifice. I thought we would be better off financially and I kind of resent that I could not have had at least the first year off. I hate that someone else gets to play with my babies and see their smiles.

I am a stay at home mom and there are times I want to go back to work and then there are times where I don’t.

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