Talking to them and figuring out why their upset. Children throw tantrums because they are frustrated and don’t know how to explain what they’re feeling because most of the time they don’t know themselves since everything they are learning is them learning for the first time. Take your baby to a different room, gently reassure them that your listening and just hold them. Explain to them why you had to take a toy away or if you just snatched it from the baby then you should apologize (just an example)... imagine someone walking up to you and snatching your phone or a food item without warning; not cool right? Same goes for children. Screaming and crying might be the only way they can express themselves, get down to the root of the issue and talk it out & get down to their level so they really HEAR you ..be there for them - you’ll notice a world of difference. Our toddlers have only been on this earth for several years and we expect them to know everything, gotta cut them some slack 😁
We also would say. Ok you’re not ok to be around other people so you go take a time away and come back when you think you’re ready. We were wanting to teach them self regulation. We didn’t time it but I wanted them to learn to calm faster.
I think each parent has different views and we should respect them. The age and developmental stage your child is at should depend on the route you take on how to deal with tantrums. With that said, we all do things differently.. good luck mamas.
Most of my 18m olds tantrums have always been because she wants to be carried around ALL.THE.TIME and sometimes I have to put her down (you know, to take something out of the oven or wipe my own butt 🙄) so usually I just let her cry a few minutes and repeat “mummy will pick you up in a minute when she’s done” and pick her back up and cuddle until she’s calm. I try to prevent tantrums by giving lots of warnings of what we are going to do, etc. The other ones are teeth brushing/hair brushing which are necessary evils, so I try to be quick and let the tantrum happen while I’m doing it. I’m pro letting children have opinions and feelings but also you can’t let their teeth rot or hold them when it’s unsafe/unsanitary 🤷♀️ I probably let my kid get away with too much and I’m really not sorry about that.
I laugh at the kitchen and butt comment bc that too happens with me. I have twins so monkey see monkey do
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