Tongue Tie

My daughter got hers clipped and cried for one minute or less. And she still prefers the bottle over the boob.

My son and myself both have tongue tie, I haven’t got his cut as I believe he’s been feeding completely fine and he’s still hitting the weight goals, I have had mine for 21 years so it can’t be that bad keeping it 😅

If she’s feeding fine, and is not hurting your nipples (if you’re breastfeeding) there’s no need to have it cut. Both my children had it snipped and I paid for it since NHS takes too long with appointments. I only did cause they couldn’t latch and we’re not feeding properly, plus, my nipples were getting very hurt to the point they’d bleed. But if you’re not having any problems and your child is content, I’d say no reason to cut it. If you do choose to cut it, the snip is very quick and there’s very little bleeding, the nurse snips it at your house and the baby goes straight to your breast afterwards. In my opinion, is no different from a vaccine pain.

My 4 week old has one they said they would not cut it because he was eating fine, my husband also has one and never had any issues or had it cut

They don't clip.them anymore in my city as there's not enough evidence around it improving, and causes unnecessary pain. See a lactation consultant about any feeding issues and other options

If this matters, I had this cut when I was a newborn. Mum was struggling to breastfeed me and got this treatment when I was 1 m.o. She had to use bottle instead by that time. As a result I refused breast at all (preferred bottles). At that times there were no pumps so I can’t imagine how she expressed milk using just hands for soooo long🙈 Long story short, my baby has the same problem now and we thankfully have a cut scheduled next week. Can’t wait as my nipples have been suffering (shields do not help)!

Couldn’t breastfeed properly and after done it was all fine and he attached very good. I managed to breastfeed my little one for more than 2 years. The process was easy and quick (privately done in my case so not sure how it works through nhs)

Mine had a lip and tongtie. The hospital was able to clip both before 1 yr. She had a speech delay but that is better than a speech impediment. Get a good pump because breastfeeding will be tough until the procedure

my son was tongue tied and had it cut when he was a week old. It doesn’t hurt them at all, it bleeds for a bit so it looks bad, but as soon as it’s been done they’re fine. He did cry when they were doing it but that’s because they hold them to stop them moving and have their fingers in their mouth. I was nervous before, but they reassured me it wouldn’t hurt him/that it’ll be fine etc and it really was x

Best decision I have ever made. Breastfeeding is so much easier than before

My son had a tongue tie and lip tie that was caught within the 1st month of him being born. It was the main reasons he was not latching during breastfeeding and breastfeeding was super painful because of this. We had both cut and it was completely fine.he cried for a few seconds and then he was okay. You have to make sure you follow the excersises that are provided for after the procedure to ensure it’s successful and it doesn’t heal back how it was.

My baby had 80% tie. He was unable to latch properly and lost 11% of his weight by day 3. We had his tie cut by day 5. It was such a quick process. He cried but we gave him a bottle straight away and he was fine. Now 10 weeks and still all good.

My son had a slight tounge tie and we didn't get it cut

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He's 3 now he eats drinks and talks (doesn't shut up lol) jus fine

My little boy had a tongue tie but using nipple shields it managed to break it mostly, we spoke to the gp afterwards and they said there's nothing that will be done by speach and language until its causing issues feeding or speaking.

My twin 2 was diagnosed at birth, dismissed due to being bottled fed and then I fought until 14 weeks to have it cut. She had terrible reflux, was so fussy and would take an hour to feed anywhere between 1-3oz. Honestly it’s worth getting it cut if the baby is struggling as it makes feeding easier x

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Oh, I feel your problem! Have the same with my 4 weeks old and really looking forward to getting the cut. Annoyingly they scheduled it in a month only

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Separating the tongue's frenulum is no different than separating any other frenulum, (i.e circumcisions).

I had one and it was painful and emotionally it sucked bc people bullied me for how I spoke. It would be good to prevent pain.

My LO had tongue tie, the midwife at the hospital picked it up. I got into a GP the specialises in them and he took one look and said how’s he feeding? It was pretty poor latching at the time so he cut it then and there. My LO was about a month old maybe and he never cried I just popped him straight on the boob and away we went :) The GP/Specialist will determine how bad it is as all ties are different. Goodluck mumma.

My baby was having issues nursing. Switched over to a bottle because he got where he refused to nurse. Even with the bottle he was really colicky. Went in and he was diagnosed with a tongue tie and they sent me to a pediatric dentist. She told his tongue was the least of his problems. They went in and did his tongue, upper lip and both cheeks 😞 he was a month old and it was very hard to watch but the worst was stretching his little mouth every 4-6 hours for 5 weeks. It was so hard I cried with him a lot of the time. But keep at it, it’s so worth it. He’s 2 months now and is doing fantastic!

Both of my babies had this done after birth… just gave Tylenol & they were back to normal lol 😆❤️

As a Speech and Languave Therapist I would definitely advocate for getting the tongue tie snipped as soon as possible if you want to avoid speech issues. Even at such an early age our babies will start to learn to babble which is their early form of speech. They may start using compensatory strategies for this if tongue tie is an issue. Early intervention is the best solution.

My son had his tongue tie surgery when he was 3 years old. He was diagnosed late. He was receiving speech pathology services and the speech pathologist recommended it. I showed her letter to his ENT and he confirmed. The surgery was done in 15 minutes. About one day to rest then the next day he was speaking clearly! It was amazing. Good luck to her. I’m glad she was diagnosed so young.

My eldest was tongue tied, he couldn’t latch properly so did a self referral. it literally takes minutes the do the whole thing that’s swaddling them so they don’t try to grab, then a little snip handed him to me gave him a bottle (the pressure of sucking stops the bleeding I was told) & he was fine. No problems just his normal self after, obviously lots of cuddles given. They have told me if he didn’t have it don’t he could end up with speech problems x

My son was 3 when he had his. He was numb afterwards and kept sticking his tongue out lol but he wasn't in any pain afterwards and was fine! Now hes talking like crazy and is able to eat more foods.

Hi hun! My son had a lip AND tongue tie. He had an appointment at Children’s Hospital to have a quick nip. He of course cried but he quickly calmed down once he and I were alone to nurse him. He was about two months old when he had the procedure done. He is now 16 months old and is sticking his tongue 😛 out at daddy and me being silly. Your baby should be fine.

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My son out grew it

My daughter is fine now but we have to watch for issues still, her tongue was so tied that she could still need it cut a second time. So I recommend the surgery ASAP so your little one doesn’t remember it

Yes, I have! It was awful but sooo necessary. My daughter had such a tie, she could have had speech impediment issues in her later years! I highly recommend doing it and getting it done with

I was told my son had tongue tie when he was born but as it was further back and he’s feeding well nothing needs to be done about it... but getting worried about how it will affect him when he’s older.. speech issues? Is it worth getting it cut now whilst he’s a month old?

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It’s better to cut when they are super little because tissue hardens and it becomes more painful. And sometimes (if they are too big) they may even need anestesia. That said if your baby is feeding fine maybe you can consult a second opinion and ask about future speech issues. If it’s just a light tie it may not be a problem.

Thank you so much for posting about this i had no idea about and i actually think my baby may have it since she was born i always thought her tongue looked a bit different now i think i know im gonna go get hr checked out ! I hope you find the solution uou are looking for you LO!

Hi as a midwife I can advise you the most important thing is feeding, ensuring they are feeding well whether breast or formula whatever as long as they are feeding it’s a priority. Ensure they are gaining weight etc but if you’re advised to get it cut it’s super minor done within seconds no pain felt for the baby and a quick procedure. I’m not sure with appointments how the covid is affecting it

My little boy had it done yesterday no issues took less than 1 minute he was a small bit crabby but he has been fine. He’s feeding and his nappy is as normal xx

My daughter had tongue, lip, and cheek ties removed at 6 weeks! She did great after, no bleeding it’s just hard doing stretches to make sure it doesn’t grow back! But definitely glad we went ahead and did it, it made a HUGE difference in her.

My little boy is due to have his snipped on the 19th x

Both of my sons had very bad tongue ties that prevented proper breastfeeding as they were unable to latch fully. They both needed to be cut. It was not a great experience to hear or see them in pain; however, it was a very quick procedure and there was no healing except plenty of nursing and cuddles. They both seemed so happy to be able to nurse correctly that they weren’t bothered by the pain. I think it was more painful for them to try to nurse with their tongue ties than it was to have been cut but then nurse freely without construction. Depending on the tongue tie it can also affect more than feeding and eating but speaking properly as well as kissing when they are older.

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My baby had it and unfortunately it was a very painful experience for him and for us 🥺 he cried so much and had to be on Tylenol every 5 hours for 3 days it sucked but his latch got better and unfortunately we had reattachnent but do not have to redo it because his latch is not as bad as it used to be and he’s growing and gaining weight and ties do not gurantee a better breastfeeding journey

Our son had a posterior tongue tie so we didn't find it until he was two months old (my wife's let down was a good 60ml so he didn't need to work for it until then). It has been such a struggle to get anyone to do anything about it and the only ones in our corner were his chiropractor and his myofacial specialist. If he didn't also have a cyst above his eye that needed removing at 6 months no one would have cut it or done anything about it as he was still gaining weight so the Dr's just dismissed us. It kept getting tighter as he grew and his tongue started to form a heart shape at the front but because it wasn't connected in the textbook typical tongue tie way GPs and his Paediatrician just thought we were being overly dramatic.

My daughter had a tongue tie and we got it cut after her first doctors appointment, they gave her the hospital pacifier and she’s always been tough so she only cry for a quick minute like I cried more than she did lol but I was traumatized from trying to feed at the hospital so I pumped for the first month then we tried to contact feed and everything was perfect!

My daughter who is almost 6 weeks has a tongue tie and I’m wondering whether she needs to get it cut or not... her pediatrician was the one that told me when she was born

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Hi Jenny my little one is 2 weeks old and diagnosed with tongue tie because I have really bad cracked nipples. She is feeding well so is more a problem for me than for her and I’m debating whether to have it done or not

I was in the same boat with my second....I decided not to cut it and gave my son time to develop A deeper latch it was a painful few weeks but we got there without cutting anything

Unfortunately, my baby boy had lots of pain 😭

Both my kids have one actually! Very minor. My 3 year old daughter had issues breastfeeding but no problems with her speech or eating. My son who is 1 had absolutely no issue breastfeeding, hes eating everything and babbling away. I think it depends on how bad it is that it has to be clipped. We were told not to worry about either of theirs

My daughter had one and we found out while I was still in the hospital because I was very persistent on wanting to breastfeed and she couldn’t latch correctly so the doctors made her an appointment when she was a week old, it was quick and easy, I felt bad because she cried but not for long and the hospital pacifier helped stop the bleeding quickly

I’m not sure about little babies like that but I know at the dental office we’re I work we do it with a laser that causes no pain at all and with young kids use nitrous oxide so they’re sleep the whole time as well

My midwife thought my daughter had a tongue tie because she had a very shallow latch and was losing weight. I used the nipple shield for a month and a half and just kept trying to latch her normally as well and she latches perfectly now!

My son was diagnosed and my ped told me to leave it... he’s 9 months and has 0 issues ! Babbles says dada, feeds fine

My son was tongue tied and having it corrected was a game changer! He was having a hard time gaining weight & latching (on breast or even bottles) but once the procedure was done he started eating well and gaining weight rapidly. His tie was pretty bad, he couldn’t lift/ move his tongue around at all really. The procedure was done by his pediatrician and it was super quick & he didn’t cry during or after, the first thing he did when it was over was stick his tongue out for the first time! I would recommend getting it done wether or not it’s affecting her eating because of the other issues it can cause later on down the road. Why risk speech issues just for the sake of not having the tie clipped?

My son had a lip and tongue tie. The nurse at the hospital that he was born at noticed it. Since I was such a determined mommy who wanted to breastfeed ( and give my baby comfort) I took the nurse’s advice to have him seen by his pediatrician. The pediatrician had me a referral to see a specialist. Long story short...the procedure was quick and yes my son cried but as soon as he was placed in my arms to breastfeed he was well. He was almost two months old when he had the procedure done. I recommend getting it done because in the long run it benefits the child. I saw how my son struggled in the beginning and it broke my heart. Get a second, or even a third opinion. But if you can clearly see the struggle from your baby, GET IT DONE.

If she has difficulty feeding I’d say get it cut. My 1 year old has one and had a high palette as well so he had difficulty with feeding.

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Is the baby losing weight? Or seem to be struggling a lot when they eat? My baby never seemed full and would whine and struggle as she ate cause she couldn’t get a good flow or enough.

Yes, but my doctors didn’t catch it (even though I asked multiple times) Until he was a year and a half old. By then they had to put him under general anesthesia to do the clipping. Tunes out it was an abnormal tie. He was unable to do so many things before he had it clipped, he couldn’t stick out his tongue, he couldn’t breastfeed, choked on his food more easily, and he always spat up so much. I’m so happy that they caught it early!

My baby had trouble bf so they diagnosed tongue tie. I was so nervous. They cut it really quick and painless and as soon as I fed her straight after she stopped crying. I don’t think the pain lasted a second. Don’t feel bad I was so worried but it was nothing. I’d say easier and not as bad as taking them for injections x