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Do you think it’s safe?

I know this probably sounds ridiculous, but I’m a very tired, emotional mum right now so just want to make sure! My LO (9 months old) hasn’t been settled at night for weeks (I think 8 month regression plus teething). He hasn’t even made 2 hours tonight and he’s screaming. We’ve finally got him settled in his cot with his monkey (same as the picture). He’s never had any comforters or anything, so I’m just worried about leaving this in his cot.
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My almost 9mth old has a comforter like that, she sleeps so much better with it. She has had it in her bad for a while now.

My pediatrician told me it was fine for my nine month old! She got attached to this little giraffe head on a blanket lovey, and slept so well with it. But I would get paranoid and check constantly. We practiced putting the toy on her face and pulling it off during the day, and she never had a problem.

My daughter sleeps with her Mickey Mouse ever night! It’s small but either way! When she was 9 months she still slept with him and if he was bugging her she pushed him away!

He should be fine but if it makes you feel better check on him a lot. As long as baby can roll over and move around well, you shouldn’t worry, cause if it’s on his face, he will move it

My pediatrician recommends to start giving the baby a lovey that “isn’t a suffocation danger” starting at 3-4 months. That stuffed animal you showed doesn’t look like a suffocation danger. They give this advice to all parents. Since my doctor is the director of pediatrics at St. David’s I’d trust her advice.

He will be fine he's 9 months old . Don't worry about it. Ur not a bad mom. Don't let people say otherwise.

Both my kids were tummy sleepers, and had a small stuffie or sound lovie with them in their crib. As long as they can move their heads freely, I think it is completely fine!

A children’s nurse told me once they can roll AND pull a thin sheet off their face (you can practice during the day do make sure) then you can put them down with a toy/pillow/blanket and/or on their side/back/tummy and it’s safe

It’s honestly what you think is right for your child. I was giving her a blanket when she wasn’t even a month old because it was cold. I have stopped the blanket since she’s started moving more but honestly I don’t see an issue with a little toy.

Definitely something you gotta feel and go based off his awareness and abilities. We’ve been co sleeping blankets and all since birth! But she was in her snuggle me for the first 5 months as soon as she was able to crawl at 5 months she climbed out often and slept on the regular bed with us.

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This is my exact situation. Snuggle me included. It has been a miracle worker

Snuggle me in her crib has worked

You can leave it in his cot. My daughter had similar pink one and i left it in the top corner of the cot and so slept with it after the fighting to get her to sleep.x

I don't think they recommeded anything at this point in the crib. Ive been paranoid. Just a sleep sack. I've done sleep training and it's not an issue and baby can comfort herself without anything. Maybe look more into that?

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I think itll be fine. I've always left my babys stuffed dino in his crib. But of course, go with your gut 🙂

I'd get shit if people knew all 4 of mine have slept in bed with me. I haven't abandoned my pillow, and traded in blanket for sheet(so they won't suffocate or overheat). I think one stuffed animal will not kill your baby. I mean my bat shit roommate left her baby in pack n play and bouncer with a giant stuffed frog propping his bottle. I mean he ended up with pneumonia, and dss took her kids... But he didn't die. Um SIDS from what I understand isn't a suffocation thing, they just forget how to breathe, and it's been shown that in healthy babies it's not a thing, or atleast not common. But it's your call.

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It’s short for sudden infant death syndrome. It occurs in the newborn stage postnatal. Happens when the baby sleeps on stomach or on a loose blanket they could stop breathing bc they could suffocate on anything. Swaddling or pacifiers are used to help the baby stay on the back. Googling is so easy but this is so much more informative for anyone not aware. Basically there’s a diagram: no toys in the crib just the baby. I swaddled to replicate the womb. The baby would stay so still and sleep. When the baby could turn over on it’s stomach she would sleep with the pacifier. When she could roll over completely and hold her head up it got easier to monitor her.

SIDS can happen to any baby between the age of 0-12 months. To reduce the risk of SIDS you must follow the safe sleep guidelines. SIDS is what they write on the death certificate when they can’t find a direct cause of death (meaning it’s hard to tell how they stopped breathing) but it’s a legal requirement to write down a cause of death so the death certificate is complete and can be issued.

My mom lost both her sons to sids and she helped me pretty much rais my 4 and 7 yr old. My 4yr old was born with a heart condition an was in the hospital for the first 4 month of his life and in the hospital they gave him a blanket to sleep on and one to cover up with plus a little stuffed animal. He slept on his back due to cords but when he could toll over when he came home he did good about not having anything by his face. My daughter has slept with a blanket and stuffed animal in the crib but i always made sure it was never by her face and until she could roll over her stuffed animal was at the end of her bed. Unless she wanted then i left it at her side

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My LG has had here’s in every since she’s been able to grab it ide say aslong as he’s capable of moving it xx

Why people think it’s okay to play the righteous card and shame other mums into feeling like they’re doing something wrong/unsafe is beyond me. Such horrible behaviour. Every mum knows their own baby, and every mum knows what works best. Quit with the hysterical articles and guidelines and let people do what’s best for themselves. Within reason of course, but let mums do their own thing without being lectured by the few that believe in OTT hype. Use your common sense and be nice!!

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Brilliantly well said 🙌🏻

Well said

I don’t put any stuffed toys in the crib only a big comforter she sleeps on which idk if that’s safe and a blankie. She used a binkie as a soother as soon as I saw her doing this sucking thing when she was a month old. That’s when I got super paranoid about making sure the sheets were on tight and having only a binkie in the crib. But now (9 months) she falls asleep to music I play and make the whole room dark and rock her till she’s sleeping. Recently, make sure she eats 3 meals till she’s full and a little snack before bed. Seems to work and she sleeps through the night for now🤞

Once your child is able to roll from front to back and back to front, they are able and sensible enough to clear anything blocking their breathing or making them uncomfortable. So I say if you as a mama think and feel it’s okay, than it’s ok. My daughter sleeps in her Doc A Tot and her snuggy, and her blanket. She’s 6 mo and turns to her belly to sleep. I can’t stop that so 🤷🏻‍♀️

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I had a potential issue giving my 6 month old a small receiving blanket. I thought it's light. She would be able to breath if it went over her head. So it didn't cross my mind that it can wrap around her head which it started to. So no judgement here I just want to mention sometime they can't clear the item.

I had the same problem! At about 4 months my little one was struggling to sleep, and suddenly took to one of her blankets. We tried it with her in bed while she was swaddled, just so she could rub her nose on it. She slept so much better! Now she sleeps with it completely covering her face, which definitely made me nervous, but she can breathe through it easily, and can pull it off her face in her own. I always have the monitor on while she sleeps so we can hear her, but she is doing great. Trust your mama instincts. You know what’s best for your baby!

My daughter always had one stuff animal with her and she is fine. I would say as long is not super soft and more firm he will be fine!

I’m paranoid and always snatch the stuffy that helps my son self soothe before I go to sleep but you have to do what feels right to you. With my first my doc said nothing till age 1, and I started giving her a stuffy and blanket shortly before she turned 1 and started daycare. My son is that age now and I’m more paranoid with him haha dunno why. Just based on you asking I’m thinking you aren’t comfortable with it so I’d say trust you gut and snatch it once baby is asleep 😆

My son has always has toys in his cot. Whatever helps soothe them is ok. Sounds like youve had a hard time. Just cut off any bits like eye buttons that he could chew off and choke on.

I followed the aap and the safe sleep guidelines which say nothing in the crib till 12 months old. I just used those Velcro swaddles. It’s ultimately your decision tho ❤️

At that age he will be fine. It’s good for them to have a comforter and monkeys are said to be good ones!

It's fine. That's what i think

Nothing in the cot crib or bassinet till age 1 mama. Don’t fall victim to people’s survivors bias. They have that recommendation for a big clear reason.

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I didn’t know people here support and encourage unsafe practice 🙄

I support her gut but I mean obviously if shes asking on here she shouldn't put it in there

I think hell be fine! I was weary of my son with stuff like this but he loves his snuggles and it always helps.

I asked the pediatrician if my 6mo old could sleep with something similar and he said absolutely. He even wrote a doctor's note so that he could do it at daycare too. If you're worried, just ask your Dr. I'm sure he'll say it's fine, but he'll know where you're child is developmentally more than any of us would.

It’s so lovely to read such rational, normal people responses! I was beginning to think the whole mum world had gone mad!

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I think as long as baby is able to move their face away from the toy if necessary, you’re good.

My son sleeps with his giraffe toy every night, if he can hold it, he can move it, I’m sure he’s fine.

My daughter sleeps with a rabbit in her cot

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My daughter moves her rabbit and droppes it on it head and sometimes out of the bars and then cries for it back again

It doesnt look any risky to me

Been bedsharing since day one with blankets and pillows etc. I think you are more than ok!

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🙌🏻 co-sleeping twins❤️

Omg heaven!!! I will bed share with my newborn when he comes with my one year old 🙏

In the end guys it’s the mothers choice. If she wants her child to have something with them then that’s her choice

He will be okay (:

Yes this is fine my daughter use to only sleep with her teddy

My youngest has a piece of muslin that he sleeps with has done since being two weeks old he’s now one and is fine and he is the youngest of 5 who have all slept with a comforter x

I think at night it’s also important to know what kind of a sleeper you are as well. My sister does not wake up for her baby until he cries, my sons starts getting hungery and I hear him chewing on his little fists and wake up and get a bottle in him before he even wakes himself up. (I have learned if I feed him while he is still asleep I can change his diaper after and he never wakes up! Hahahah). So knowing yourself is just as important.

I think whats important is keeping any eye on your baby regardless how your baby sleeps. On its back, side, belly, with a blanket, or not with a stuffed toy or not. I feel allot of times parents get caught up, they forget they have a baby, i personally don't understand that one, but none the less there are ppl like that. Just don't be that parent. I use to or better put i still do constantly check in on my son when he sleeps. Since my son was a baby he likes to cover his face. I uncovered he would cover. He is 6yr now and still covers his face from time to time. I still check on his breathing, looking, listening. I still uncover his face. My point let your baby find their comfort zone just keep an extra eye on them. Also tell any babysitter what slerping habits they have. You will be fine. Good luck.

Yes my daugther has comforters in her cot

My daughter has slept with her stuffed cat from 6 months on. She’s 16 months now. We also bed share. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I'm sure it would be absolutely fine

It's totally safe as long as its not nxt to her face

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I let my daughter have something in her crib (at 9.5 months) and watched to make sure she would shove her face in it, she was good but I kept checking constantly for a week, now I'm confident enough to leave it in there (although I check the camera more than I used to)

You can try giving him chamomile. It helps.

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My pediatrician told me not to give my little on chamomile tea before a year. 🤷🏼‍♀️ I’d just confirm with your pediatrician.

Anida, do you do this for teething? My LO (6 month is teething) and it’s awful for him. I tried chamomile last night not even 1 oz and it seemed to help but I’m nervous on how much he can have ... I read it can be 2-3oz but being a breastfeeding mom I want his main nutrition to be BM with side solids. What are everyone’s thoughts ok chamomile? Also is Chamomile and lavender ok for LO?

I think you are okay bc he can lift and move his head. Both mine 24 months/11 months slept with stuffed animal lovies at that age 😀

My little girl sleeps with her monkey and pooh bear (a comforter little blanket thing) and shes never had an issue but when we first let her have him I'd move him out the crib and just gradually let him stay in! Since possibly 6 months shes now a year... she could roll both ways and support her head when we started letting her have them in with her! If it's working just keep an eye on him

My girl has slept with her Mickey Mouse since 8 months! She’s 11 months now! I think it’s completely fine! Most babies after 6/7 months can move things away from their face! It’s up to you mama! Whatever works for you do it!

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