Surrogacy

No advice or experience but just want to say I think it’s awesome that you’re considering being a surrogate! What a gift for a mother who can’t carry her own child!

I wanted so badly to be a surrogate but it turns out I have very complicated pregnancies and deliveries. I don’t have any advice but I commend you for wanting to! I want a third child one day but it’s risky for me, anyone who willingly helps a women have her baby is amazing to me!

Bless your heart❤️ I think I would be too sad to give the baby to the parents when It took me 9 months to make the baby😭I would totally do it for a close family member or best friend if they asked me 🥰

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I totally get where you’re coming from the thing is you have to go into it knowing that this isn’t your baby this is somebody else’s baby and you’re just providing somewhere for it to grow. it has none of your DNA, it’s 100% somebody else’s It probably helps to stay close to the couple during the pregnancy as well so that through each step you see that this is theirs

This is exactly what I think every time I hear this and I don’t wanna usually say how I feel because I feel so strongly about it and I know that it helps other families and I know that a lot of people see it as a good thing and a good deed but I just don’t understand how a woman could get pregnant grow a baby inside her push it out and then just hand it to another couple I would have to be dead for them to take that child for me they would have to pry it from my cold dead fingers and I would never in hell agree to do some like that because I know how I feel about it and I’m not trying to make other women per se feel bad about it I just honestly don’t understand how any woman could do that for real🤯😓

My sister is a surrogate to twins and is going through the process once more with the same family. I see that she was so proud to be able to do that for them and has developed an amazing relationship with them. It is an incredible feat to do for another family but it is challenging and you can go through unforeseen events. My sister had her first c-section during surrogacy and it was an emotional rollercoaster. If surrogacy is something you feel passionate about then go for it.

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Hey! I was just wondering if it would be okay to ask a question, if you know the answer? The lady your sister carried for... was it her egg or your sisters? X

You would never carry your own egg for a surrogacy pregnancy. (At least not with any sort of reputable agency). You’d have the embryo created from the couple’s own egg/sperm or donor egg/sperm or some variation of that. Reason being is if you had your own egg used, you would have a legal right to the baby born from that pregnancy- something no person/couple in their right mind would agree to, esp with a first-time surrogate- it’s simply too risky. I had a friend use a surrogate and it’s an emotional process for everyone involved and surrogacy (as any pregnancy) doesn’t come without risk. I’d recommend doing a lot of research into surrogacy companies (you can google it and find them!) and I’d talk to surrogates who’ve gone through the process so you know what you’re getting into. Good luck to you, it’s such a huge gift! ❤️

I’m not exactly sure how one goes about being a surrogate, but I know you have to have already had a healthy pregnancy and delivery, no more than 2 c-sections, be between the ages of 21-38, have a BMI below 32, no felony convictions, no history of mental illness (or stop taking antidepressants during), and must agree to psychological and drug screenings! You also can’t get a tattoo or piercing 12 months prior. If you pass all of the requirements, you fill out an application, give your social and medical history information, have a physical examination and an in-home assessment, background check, and mental health evaluation. There are also two types of surrogacy - traditional or gestational. So you have to be willing for an embryo transfer if they choose to have their own egg be carried by you. And of course you will need a surrogacy specialist and plan (I.e. doctors you choose to go to, etc.) It’s a lot of work but rewarding nonetheless!

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Look up how to be a surrogate online and there are a lot of helpful resources!

Medicaid is required for surrogacy. (At least where I live)

Thank you for asking this! After watching The Baby Has Landed on BBC I want to do this too as I cried after seeing the 2 guys with their twins and the joy the babies brought them was unbelievable. Well done you for considering it! Xxxx

I think it’s awesome that you’re considering this. But keep in mind that every pregnancy is different! Just because your last one was a breeze does not mean the next one will be.

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this is what i think about when i think about being a surrogate. my first 2 pregnancies i suggered morning sickness, carpal tunnel, cankles, UTI'a etc,. this bub only had indegestion. none of my symptoms were live threatening but that doesnt mean a 4th pregnancy couldnt be and i have 3 kids of my own who would be devastated if something happened to me

*suffered

I’m a surrogate. I delivered twin boys on the 17th!

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Was it hard? I have a 1 year old. I want to do it! And the money would be nice.. I’m just scared about when it comes time to give the baby away. Was it hard? Or no because you knew you were going to do it thr whole time?

Let me know if you have any questions

I was considering it but it's a very picky process... I smoke weed so obviously they were like naw. I feel like itd be easier and better to talk to an agency about it rather than going online like I did.

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As long as you can pass a drug test and not smoke while pregnant you are fine I smoked up until 2 months before and I smoked two days after I delivered.

Hello ladies! I work for a surrogate company and I would love to consult any mama on becoming a gestational surrogate ❤️ I can educate you on every aspect— including every step of the process, qualifications and compensation! Becoming a gestational surrogate takes a special loving person ❤️

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Oh my god! MEEEEE! DM me!

Just sent you a message 💕

This has always been fascinating to me but like the others not sure I would be able to give the baby away. There are also other ways to help like being an egg donor which is still helping other have a family.

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I feel like with egg donation my child is literally out in the world, half me half whoever else and I never know them or maybe pass them unknowingly on the streets. But with surrogates the dna isn’t mine, I’m just like babysitting or something like summer camp lol we have a good time. Give them a good foundation for life and give them back to their actual parents haha

OMG I've been thinking about doing this for one of my best friends!

I seriously considered being a surrogate. I do have questions still though. I would like to talk about the emotional side of it, and get a bit deeper into that side of things...

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If I can answer any questions for you about being a gestational surrogate, I would love to be of help! I work for a surrogate company and I have all the answers 💕

Message me

I'd be careful because every pregnancy just like every baby is different. My last pregnancy was physically easy peasy until my waters broke at 33 weeks for unknown reasons. Then everything went to hell in a hand basket. Delivering my first daughter was easy and straightforward enough and that's what I wanted with second, instead I got an emergency c section.

Oh I like that I was just considering doing that too! I loved the birth of it all and the life ❤️

Ladies I just put in a pre-qualification app in at Prime Surro I’m so excited to start this surrogacy journey! My mom actually was a surrogate 3 times while I was a kid, she gave birth to 4 babies for families that could not do it for themselves!

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Your mother is incredible and what a super gift she gave many families and selfless lesson she taught you. I’m in tears reading this... just amazing! Good luck xx

The only thing I was told that made me reconsider is that you should be done making your own family before you decide to be a surrogate because complications can happen (especially since it's more of a chemical pregnancy ie. you get shots and take hormones to conceive, etc.) and it's possible you may not be able to have any more children afterwards. Just something to consider if you're serious.

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That’s a good point! I’d like to have one more for myself but if I’m not able to one is ok for us!

I'm in the process but for my cousin

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You are an amazing person 💞

Thank you

This is such a special journey. Truly only the most selfless people can embark on this 💞 i dont think i would be able to deal with the hormone peaks/crashes after delivery. And i had HG during my first and only pregnancy, i wouldnt have been able to cope if it wasnt my baby i dont think. But i take my hat off to wvery woman who has done this its so special. 1💖

I'd love to be a surrogate for someone but my age doesn't allow it even though my pregnancy was easy and I don't plan on any other children.

I’ve always wanted to try it!

How do you do this in Australia?

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Wait so in Australia if your a surrogate you don’t get paid?!?

I don’t this we can. We have strict rules and no money can be exchanged for it. Just like we don’t get paid to donate Eggs and sperm. I would like to do a open egg donation donate my eggs but my partner finds it weird lol

Anyone has any experience with surrogacy in UK? Any help would be really appreciated. This is for a dear friend

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Hey check out mysisterssorrogate on Instagram she might be able to help. X

I always wanted to be a surrogate even before I knew I’d have my own kid. I looked into it and they are very very picky. To the point that I’m not permitted to. Even though I have a healthy baby of my own. 🤷🏼‍♀️

I have DEBILITATING pregnancies. Nausea and vomiting for months on end- not just “1st trimester nausea”. I wish I could afford a surrogate! I’d have 2 more kids!

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Here in the U.K. we're not allowed to be paid for it. You'd only cover the surrogates expenses

You can contact almost any fertility clinic and they can get you pointed in the correct direction. We used URA in Hackensack. Knowing how hard infertility is, this is a wonderful thing you are considering, thank you.

I always thought about doing it. I think it's a lovely idea. But then I got diagnosed with several chronic conditions during my pregnancy last year and was in so much pain and was told by my physiotherapist I could end up in a wheelchair at the end of the pregnancy so that has made me reconsider even getting pregnant again. My 5 month old is very healthy and the c-section went really well but I'll have to wait a few years to even think about having another kid of my own. I'd get super anxious carrying someone else's child after going through all of that. ❤

I want to be a surrogate for my sister. I have done some research online, but I don't know how to start the process. Any advice?

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It’s really expensive on the intended parents end so I would look around and ask if they have any different protocol for if you were to do it for your sister good luck that’s so sweet of you I really hope that it all works out

Hi Katy and ladies, Yes we did surrogacy in Australia. I'm from Melbourne and my surrogate was from NSW. We had a baby girl, she's now 6 years old. The laws are strict but it's doable. FYI- Legislations vary from state to state. Msg me if you'd like to know more details and info.

I just started considering being a surrogate, hoping to learn more about it and see if I'm eligible!

I’m currently in the intake process with Heart To Hands to be a surrogate. My recommendations are to do as much research as possible and be sure to be done with your own family beforehand. Secondary infertility does happen.

I’m actually in the process of intake to become a surrogate. I just had blood work done yesterday I’m actually excited. I’m helping this wonderful same sex couple.

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I would love to be matched with 2 men it is my ideal couple!

Well you never know that may be your next. I honestly hope I qualify because they are pretty cool. They already have a son.

I am in the process of becoming a surrogate now. I have 3 children of my own and would love to give someone else a baby. My pregnancies were great as well. Me and my husband are done having children and he got a vasectomy but I am only 30 years old and my body is still capable of carrying a healthy pregnancy. We are also doing it for financial gain for our own family. Looking into buying a house in the next couple years and this would help us a lot. I am going through United Surrogacy located in Boise Idaho. I am also in Idaho. So far we are just doing all the legal work, birth records, compensation contract, and filling out my profile for intended parents. It will be a long process, but so rewarding!

Ive thought about it. You should also consider that every pregnancy is different.

I thought about doing it as well but I’m scared that I’ll love the baby like I love my baby boy and the idea of “losing him/her” would devastate me

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Same!!

So unfortunately embryo didn't take so if anyone is looking for a surrogate I'm free to do it. Just shoot me a message

I’ve thought about it over the years and would really love to do it and help someone. Also been considering egg donation my friend has just started it.

My friend is carrying a child now for my husband and I. It's the most incredible gift for us. Our daughter will be here in June.

Wow good for you!

I want another baby sooo bad. Unfortunately I have PCOS, and it took me 10 years to have my 1 and only child. I have an incompetent cervix too which meant my cervix never hardened to keep my baby in, so I had my baby very premature at 23 weeks. She weighed 1 pound 1 ounce. I'm blessed that she survived and is now a happy healthy 2 year old. But still want to give her a sister or a brother so bad. So I have been thinking about surrogacy. I just wanted to say to all you Women that becomes a surrogate for a family, you are a hero and it's amazing what you just gave a family. To carry a human being in your body as such an selfless act of kindness, it's just unreal. So thank you so much from the bottom of my heart.

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Sam, I have pcos too!! Hubby and I have been married 6 years, never used protection and got pregnant once. Sadly we lost that baby at 10 weeks. My friend doing this for us is nothing short of a miracle. I believe you will have a sibling for your beautiful little girl!

Same here as well. My doctors always told me because of my pcos I’d have to be medically assisted if I ever wanted to get pregnant. But here I am 32weeks along. Thank god I haven’t had complications. But we weren’t using protection or anything because of being told that. And then my boyfriend also thought he wasn’t fertile since I wasn’t ever getting pregnant for the past 2.5 years. We weren’t trying but either way she’s a blessing/miracle. I always told my boyfriend if god wants me to get pregnant he will and at what time he thinks is best. So I send baby dust to all those! And just want y’all to know that you shouldnt give up! And don’t stress! Because theres always the chance of it happening even if the doctor tells you otherwise. And thank you to any surrogates because you’re truly a gods blessing for those in need. 💕

This is amazing and so selfless! I wish me and my husband could afford a surrogate so we could have more kids. You guys are such blessings to families who want children 🥰

I was a surro and my surro boy is turning 1 next week! And then we are starting a sibling journey next year. It's a scary thing cuz stuff happens. One surro just died last couple of weeks or so and unfortunately it's a lot more common that most people think. Just do a lot of research and make sure your family is done. As for agencies I did it independently to save my ips money so I cant answer that

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Yes ! I was all signed up to do it, but then started looking at all the women who have passed because things unexpectedly happened . I was all for it, but i just cant risk my 3 young kids living without me

I was thinking about this too! I would love to know what you find! I feel it’s so special to be able to give a family something I was easily able to do

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I just signed a contract with primeSurro ! Really excited about it

I had my son through a surromom, who is now his godmother. It is such an amazing honorable thing, but I would never push you one way or another. The agency I used was Omega Family Global. Sending love.

I have thought about this so much! But can anyone explain how it all works!

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I can explain the process to you! I work for a surrogacy company. Send me a message 😊

Can u inbox me im intrested

I planned too. But so many stories of healthy women not making it out alive. I could never risk leaving my kids without me

I have always wanted to be a surrogate. Personally I want to be done having my own babies before I have anyone else’s just in case something were to happen. But I love every moment of being pregnant and would love to be able to give someone the chance at having a family.

How much do people make being a surrogate?

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In the U.K. nothing! Here we'd only get paid expenses. I believe other countries pay quite a lot though

The agency I’m working with a first time surrogates compensation is around $40,000

I would love to do surrogacy here in Australia but I cannot for the life of me figure out the right avenues!

We had our son via surrogate after years of failed IVF. It is an incredible thing to give another family. I will go to my grave thankful for the woman who gave us the gift of our son. This website is really helpful for both surrogates and intended parents. https://surrogate.com/surrogates/becoming-a-surrogate/how-can-i-become-a-surrogate-mother/ Finding a great agency is a tricky task bc it’s a personal fit kind of thing. The website Men Having Babies has a list of agencies with reviews. It’s a great resource. Good luck and thank you for even considering doing this for another family like ours. If you ever want to talk with an intended parent (whose not looking for a surrogate so zero pressure there!!) please let me know. Good luck!!