Co sleeping🤦‍♀️

Ha my first two didn’t sleep in my bed my now 3 year old still sleeps in my bed, Meh I don’t care what people think 🤷🏻‍♀️ she will transition soon when we are all ready 😂 and yes she has her own room with a queen bed and the full decor 🤪

🙋🏻‍♀️ we swear she wont cosleep with us but boy shes been the boss lately she just scream when we put her down on her bassinet!🙈

My almost 2 year old is still in my bed

My son has been in my bed since the day he was born, we have no plans of stopping anytime soon and he will be 1 next month. We don’t even own a bassinet or crib or anything for him 😅

hi mama, I tried the bassinet thing with my son & he hatedd it.. He co sleeps with us on the bed.. his dad & i are both light sleepers plus he sleeps way better & in a happier mood when he sleeps on the bed with us! You got this. Don’t feel stressed to get him/her out 😊

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Thank you so much, mama ❤

I’m pretty much in the same boat... my son will be 2 in July and he still nurses overnight on demand. However he’s never slept for over an hour after coming out of the newborn phase so I’m a zombie when it comes to sleep.

My 3 month old currently is sleeping with my husband and I. He grew out of his bassinet too quickly and the crib isn't up cuz we don't have room for it yet but I wish to teach him to sleep on his own but he doesn't. Even in the day he stays up if I don't hold him he doesn't sleep. I need advice on how to teach him to sleep on his own

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my son is like this also.. almost 3months. I put on ‘white noise’.. free app on my phone & place it close to his ears & boom.. in few minutes he is ko

I do this and sometimes moving lights on the ceiling to keep his attention away from me during nap time ❤

Lots of people co-sleep! I did it until my daughter was 2 months. Now she falls asleep in her crib and I prefer to let her sleep as long as she can instead of put her in my bed lol we always lay around in my bed on weekends tho. But during the week we have a work/daycare routine. Im 32 and I will still crawl in my moms bed at her house and take a nap. Mamas bed is always more comfortable 🤣🤣

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I seriously cannot love this comment more ❤😂🥰

Currently co-sleeping with my baby also. She slept on her own until 5-6 months but now she only wants to sleep with me in bed. I gave up fighting with crying/ throw ups and just let her sleep with me. The way I see it, they will only be this little for a short time. Might as well enjoy all the cuddles.

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Yesssss❤ I keep telling my husband one day he wont even want to be seen hugging me lol

I let my baby sleep in bed with me only when daddy get up and ready for work. 🤷🏻‍♀️

We had an arms reach cosleeper which my daughter did great in for the first four months and then she was in our bed. I believe it was around nine months that we put her in her crib across the hall and I cried! So much! And as soon as she fussed I ran over, scooped her up and brought her back to bed with me. She stayed in our bed until shortly after her first birthday, at which point we just had no more room. We only have a full bed and she’s so big for her age. We all just kept waking each other up. She now has a Montessori style bed (I converted her crib) so I can still lay with her and nurse her to sleep. She never fought it and by night three she slept right through the whole night which she had never ever done. She’s 18 months now and we all sleep pretty great. You’ll know when it’s time. Do what’s right for your family. ❤️

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This is soooo helpful! My son naps well on his cot at daycare, but wakes every 45-60 mins with me. I think I may need to convert his crib to a bed (since we never used it) and see if he will sleep on his own that way and also fully wean

My daughter slept in her crib through the night for the first 11 months and now all of a sudden refuses to sleep in her crib so we co sleep now and she wakes up usually twice for a bottle.

You shouldn't apologize all of mine slept with me they had bassinet & a crib but my kid's always ended up sleeping with me in my bed I felt safer knowing I was so close to then incase of anything. Specially because my husband works the night shift at the moment so most nights they all sleep with me up until 7 then they run to the couch in the living room to watch tv. 🤣

I SWORE up and down I wasnt going to cosleep either. But then my daughter was born early. Spent 6 weeks in the hospital. Has a heart condition that requires surgery. Cosleeping seems to make her feel safe. It makes me feel better having her close by to where I can constantly do a quick check until I know her heart is okay post surgery. And quite honestly I dont even feel an ounce of guilt co sleeping. 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ we all have our own little spot in bed; my fiance, me, the cat and our bunny.

The problem with cosleeping isnt that cosleeping alone is unsafe, its that bc its so frowned upon there’s no standard or guidelines for doing it safely in the US and adult beds werent made with babies in mind. In other countries they are starting to come out with guidelines like the safe sleep seven. I found tips in the book “sweet sleep” by la leche league and from a fb group called “the beyond sleep training project”. Dont feel guilty. No one knows what you go through day and night or understands your baby like you do. For some babies, sleeping through the night in their own crib or bed simply wont happen for many years. It boils down to genetics and personality. And trying to make that happen can drive some moms to ppd bc they feel like their babies arent normal or they resort to leaving their babies to cry which understandably triggers anxiety in them

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Indeed, my midwife went through the safety guidelines of it before she let me go home with baby (live in the UK(

This all sounds like rainbows when we trivialize things but the bottom line is 5000+ babies were dying annually in the US. Once the “back to sleep” campaign began in the 90’s where there was a huge push for placing babies on their back in their own sleep space, that number was cut in half. No one gets a memo before tragedy strikes. It’s not worth it. It’s NEVER worth it.

We struggled with co sleeping with my son after spending so much time with him in the bassinet. I eventually just started putting him in his crib to sleep and it was SO hard to do. I was always getting up to check on him and watching the baby monitor. However now that he sleeps in his own room, we all sleep so much better than when we were cosleeping. It will be hard at first giving up co sleeping but being able to stretch out in your bed without worrying about squishing your baby is a good feeling (at least to me it is). You got this! I was a wuss about it too but it gets easier!

I coslept with my son for a year and a half, and I loved it but the transition to getting him to sleep in his crib was tough, but I’m glad I did it. When he wakes up earlier than usual I’ll bring him into the bed with us and nurse him back down to sleep another hour but no more full time. Enjoy it while you can :)

My 4 month old has slept in his crib since he was 2 months old. My husband works swing shift, so he doesn’t get home until after midnight. Honestly sometimes I wish my son would sleep in bed with me, but he won’t 😞 I guess the grass is always greener on the other side 🤣

I was the same way. I swore. My son wasn’t going to sleep in my bed. But I had a c section and could bend over or move at night. He slept in our bed until 2 months. If he didn’t get so big so fast. He probably would still have been in our bed. His crib is right next to our bed. We put him in there the first night. I started crying. I would lay in bed put my hand over the crib to touch his face. I ended up taking him out and holding him. But after that and crying a couple times and constantly checking up on him multiple times a night. It got easier after couple weeks.

I never co slept but it helped me if I let him nap on me most of the day. Then by nighttime we were both ready. You can do it! And it will feel good for you both when you get there. Much love and respect to you

Most women choose to cosleep 🤷🏼‍♀️ breaking the habit is just something you’ll have to work on

My little man was born early and small but healthy, he slept in his bassinet till he was 6 months. I kept it pushed up next to the bed and held his hand. Not for his comfort but mine. His pediatrician told me he needed to start sleeping in his room and in his crib. So she suggested moving the bassinet each week or a few nights either by the foot of the bed, our bathroom, or the hallway outside our room. And then eventually into his room. She said have him sleep in his room during nap time while we are make the night transition. It helped a lot. Maybe try putting the bassinet or pack n play by your bed and then eventually transitioning your little one into the crib like I did. Hope this helps!

It's a biological norm. I'm an unapologetic cosleeping mom with all my kiddos. No 'sorry' from me for that. 🤗

We did this too! Swore up and down we weren’t going to cosleep, and then he got here and half the time he just sleeps ON one of us. Honestly I wish I had prepared for cosleeping, I would have gotten a sidecar crib. He doesn’t ever just sleep in the bed, but sometimes getting up to put him in the crib is so hard also.

Exact same situation..!! Exact! Except you will not believe last night what happened... my older toddler (daughter) co slept with us too — for the first time in her short life!!

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Omg my daughter (3) did it for the first time last week too!

😂😱😅😍

It’s so utterly natural and normal for babies and their mothers to want to be near each other, particularly during our most vulnerable state which is sleep. As long as you’re following safe cosleeping practices there’s absolutely nothing wrong with what you’re doing. You’re not a “wuss”, you’ve got a healthy attachment with your baby. If you’re on Facebook and ever need any encouragement join The Beyond Sleep Training Project, there’s so much love and support in there 💕

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Thank you so so much mama ❤

I had my son when I was 17, he slept in my bed pretty much till I met my husband when he was 8. Then my daughter slept with us till she was 2 and now currently have my 13mo old and working on getting her to sleep in her own bed which is in our room. You do what feels right for you guys.

My advice if you're not willing to give up co-sleeping, learn how to safely co-sleep. There are guidelines online. Buy a bed rail... look up the guidelines and you can do it safely. No worries

I wasn’t planning on co sleeping but here we are 2 years later and I honestly love it. There are times where I would like her in her own room and bed but she feels safe with me and her dad and i don’t blame her. Do what works for you!

I love co-sleeping. Not so much of the hands in the face and feet. But to wake up to her next to me is so amazing.

Oh girl, it was always easier for me to just fall back asleep with my kids right there. I did eventually put them in a crib around the 5 month mark (for my sleep sanity) but I get up to nurse my son at night still and do morning snuggles even now with my 5 yo. Whatever you are comfortable with, there’s no wrong way to do it. I LOVED co-sleeping, I just had to transition because I wasn’t getting enough quality sleep after awhile and woke up stiff from not moving all night long. Of course I already knew that I wanted to co-sleep before my kids were born, it just feels right.

Yeah it is biologically normal and so beyond beneficial for mom and baby. I'm studying child psychology and it's just so amazing. Look at countries besides the U.S., Japan for example. It's so shamed in the U.S. and for what. Keep it up mama you're doing great.

I co-sleep. With my daughter it was for medical reasons. I had a small surgery when she was 3months so I could left her out the bassinet at night to feed her then she got use to it so I left her alone. Now with my son. I just loved it with my daughter and did it since birth. He is going on 4 months. Every now and then my daughter ends up in bed with us too.

It is 100% biologically normal for infants and young children to sleep near or directly next to their main caregiver(s). My kids will be 5 years old & 19 months next week & both have bedshared with me since birth. https://cosleeping.nd.edu/safe-co-sleeping-guidelines/ https://www.naturalchild.org/articles/james_mckenna/cosleeping_world.html

My daughter is 10 months old and we have bedshared from the beginning. My husband wants to transition her to her own bed and room and I don't know if my little momma heart can take it. I love having her next to me, but I know the older she gets the more difficult it will be.

My first daughter never but the second one starts off in her crib and then at night time after a feed won’t go back but falls asleep with me I’m so tired I give up lol

I recommend this lady’s books: https://youtu.be/6BcXKcmxVlY - just keep doing it (safely) relax and enjoy!

I have found co-sleeping to be the most nourishing and pleasant experience for all 3 of us (mom, dad, and babe). My son is 3.5 months, and while I want to transition him to his room when he’s ready, I think 6 months is a minimum for co-sleeping (for us). It is indeed safe, developmentally appropriate, and you shouldn’t feel bad about it at all! I’m also in the same boat when it comes to bottles. My son refuses them. And that’s ok. He’s very interested in food already and I think I will start introducing solids in a few weeks.

All I ask of you if you look up the safe sleep 7 and join a co sleeping group on fb or something. I’ve been bed sharing with my son for most of his life. He literally slept on my chest the beginning months. Look at the la leeches league, they have the safe sleep 7. I think on Biologically normal infant sleep they talk a lot of about co-sleeping. Like, no loose jewelry to bed, make sure your hair is up. Blanket must not cover their face so you must never have the blanket above your waist. No pillows surrounding the baby. There are many helpful rules to co sleep safely. My son would never take a bottle. He had lip and tongue ties. He never slept well ever. I’ve always had to rock him to sleep. I said he would be in his own room by 6mo. Pbbffttt, he’s almost 16mo and still sleeps with us. Never thought I’d bed share. It’s hard, it’s tiring but I wouldn’t change anything.

You do you! Whatever works for your family and gets you a little more sleep is exactly what you should be doing.

We coslept with our son until he was 9 or so months as he hated his crib and would scream everytime we put him in there and then one night tried him in his cot in his own room and he slept all night just as he was doing in our bed, no tears, no fuss and he's been doing that ever since and I'm sure it was because he was ready, he felt secure as we would put him down for naps in his cot so it wasn't a strange place and he's always been a good sleeper from when we decided to ditch the crib. Just so whatever is best for you as you need your sleep to be a good mother and your needs matter too! I'm sure he won't want to be sleeping in bed with you when he's 16 😊

My daughter sleeps in my bed and has done since birth. She is 5!!!

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Yep. Same. My daughter will be 4 and I wouldn’t have it any other way Until she is ready.

My son was a breeze with sleeping. Slept through the night at like 2 months old. Put himself to sleep without any rocking or anything by 3/4 months. We swore wed never cosleep. Now my daughter is here and is hardly ever put down. She naps in a stretchy wrap all day because it's the only way I can get her to sleep. At night she sleeps swaddled and in her bouncer as it's the only way she will stay asleep for a decent amount of time, but then after about 5 hours she's pretty much in bed with us the rest of the night because she wakes up hourly just trying to let out gas so I have to nurse her to keep her relaxed enough to do so without crying. It's been a long 6 weeks and my back is just a giant knot at this point

My son was always terrible to get to go to sleep. He would often wake up multiple times during the night and being that my husband worked night shifts at the time, it was usually me getting up with him and rocking him for a good ½ hour to an hour 😑. I also couldn't sleep train him because my husband couldn't stick with it on his off days and would break my consistency. Eventually I said F it and brought him into the bed with us at about 1½ yrs old. He sleeps better which means I sleep better. He's now 3, still horrible to get to fall asleep, but sleeps through the night. I figure he'll outgrow it someday and I'll probably miss having him here

My son is 18 months and still sleeps with us!! Was never planning on doing it either. My husband is in the army and has to be gone a lot so I always love my sons snuggles at night. He has his crib in our room and sleeps in it for most of the night but then wants to come in by us sometimes. Whatever works for you mama! Don’t compare too much everyone’s different!😊

My son co-slept with my husband and I literally up until 4 day’s ago and he’s almost 9 months so I know the struggle! My cousin is a pediatrician and recommended this book called “the happy sleeper”. I was never for the whole crying it out thing and I don’t regret co-sleeping because I felt like he was safest close with me and it was also the only way any of us could sleep but I knew he needed to increase the quality and quantity of sleep and it wasn’t going to happen if he could only sleep with me so this book really puts things in a different perspective and helped me help him get over the barrier that would allow him to sleep better and on his own! Hope this was helpful! 🙃

My almost 2 year old has been bedsharing with me since we came home from the hospital. I weaned him from nursing in November and he’s still in my bed. My 4 year old bed shared too.

As long as you practice safe sleeping habits it’s perfectly okay. Tight fitted sheets, no blankets near baby’s face or where baby can pull up on their face, no stuffed animals or loose clothing, keep your hair away from babies face and no loose jewelry.

We co-slept til K was just over a year! I finally gave in to full on cosleeping when I woke up one morning to find a baby in my bed that I’d pulled out of her crib and started nursing—which I did not remember doing 😳 after that, she stayed in our bed, and was even night nursing until after a year! I don’t think you’re a wuss, just practice safe bedsharing :)

My first son Coslept until his baby brother was born, he was almost 4. And now my youngest is 13 months and still cosleeps. Don’t feel guilty for it at all! It’s a great bonding experience for you and babe. ❤️

I wasn’t going to co-sleep either and then i realize it was the only way I could get sleep and nursing was convenient at the time. I didn’t have much help. It’s just a personal opinion but as long as you practice safe co-sleeping everyone has to DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOUR FAMILY. .. in my case I was desperate for sleep 😳😳😳. My son is 2 now and I still sneak in bed w him lol