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My son has always been fussy today in particular, I’ve tried everything and nothing works. I’ve put him in his crib with his pacifier and walked away for a minute. I need help. I’m tired. I don’t want to feel like a bad mom anymore but I need a break.
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Oh gosh yes! I was counting down the minutes until nap time today. Sometimes they are just fussy and that’s not a reflection on you as a parent. As I’ve learned, there can be a million things going on (growing, teething, leap stages) or nothing. The best thing you can do is your best. And that’s all that matters 💛🙏🏽 Hang in there Mama

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I cried reading this lol!! You get it, it’s hard to have so much patience EVERY DAY. Thank you, you made me feel better

Oh gosh yeah Mama. I’ve had those days and still do. Sometimes I just have to put my LO down and take a few steps back. There is nothing wrong with that. 💛💛

Teething? Getting sick?

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No just fussy!!! :( it’s the worst when you feel like you can’t help them

You only walked away for a minute!! I’ve had to leave mine crying for longer than that before!! You are not a bad mum. Everyone has these days, that I’m sure of!! Keep strong. I know, it feels like it’s never ending doesn’t it? How we love them, but how they test our patience too!

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So tru

You’re exactly right.. We just need a break sometimes!!

Have you had a look at The Wonder Weeks app? My 7month olds moods always seem to match up to whatever leap it says she is going through at each stage. It sort of helps to understand why she's being so uncooperative sometimes!

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I think I did pay a little for it...I can show you a couple of screenshots of what I have going on with my baba right now...

Is that something you pay for? How does it work?

You're absolutely not a bad mom and you're doing what you need to be doing! So long as your LO is safe and all immediate needs have been met, if you need a break, you should definitely take it. Momming is hard. We all have bad days. Hang in there, mama!

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Thank you!! Means a lot

Trust me when my daughter just won’t relax or go to sleep I want to rip my hair out. I’m with her 24/7 I don’t work or have a life outside of her and my bf so I get really overwhelmed especially while dealing with emotional issues but thank god my bf when he comes home and sees that I’m overwhelmed will grab her and give her a walk outside while I’m inside to give me a break. Just take a breath your not a bad parent in any way for wanting some time alone, everyone needs a break.

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This is my exact situation. No work no friends just me baby and daddy

I think he best thing you can do is don’t feel guilty. You know what’s best for your child, and sometimes that means taking a break so you can be calm and help them better. The toddler years are a phase. It gets easier!

Try white noise, it soothes the baby and reminds them of being in the womb. I done it with my little boy and he is now 1 and doesn’t sleep without it, he is asleep or settled within 20-30 minutes xx

Dont ever be ashamed of just setting him down safely and walking away for a few minutes. Catch your breath have some water and clear your mind

You guys i can’t thank you enough💕 all your comments truly meant so much to me.

You did exactly the right thing! You’re not a bad mom if you need to reset and come back. You gotta look after yourself first so you can look after your little one x

GIRL. Say it with me: “Walking away is OK!” You put your babe in a safe place with a binky for comfort and took a mental health moment. Celebrate the fact that you are self-aware enough to take a breather, and a good enough mom to be concerned about letting your kiddo cry. Sounds like you’re climbing that learning curve, and doing great!

Not a bad mom at all. Not only is he safe but it also teaches him to self soothe

Baby is alive. Baby is fed. Baby has a clean diaper. You are a good mama. Try to take a breather and get some you time. It really helps you reset even if you do NOTHING during that time. I think it also helps you relax and that gives of relaxed vibes to you LO. I say that’s a win win.

Take a break when you need it and don't feel bad. You need to take care of yourself to take care of your baby. I'm a SAHM and I'm pregnant so sometimes in the morning when my 2yr old wakes me up at the crack of dawn I let her watch tv so I can lay down and feel sick for 45mins. No shame

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When I was at my OB one day in my third trimester a social worker came in to talk to me about baby stuff and she told me that if I’m feeling overwhelmed when baby won’t stop crying, it’s ok to put them down somewhere safe like the crib with nothing in it and walk out of the room and give myself 5 minutes to regroup. I had to do this a few times in the early months and I felt guilty at first but honestly, they’ll be ok for a few minutes. If you need to take a few mins to get yourself together so you can give them your best, then its what has to be done.

I feel like every mom thinks this way or at least I feel the same way. Although, I've stopped breastfeeding at night because I wasn't getting enough sleep. I pump and bottle feed her formula and breastmilk (since my supply can't keep up with her needs) but I was staring to resent her and crying every day. I don't think it's selfish anymore because I did what I needed to do to have a better relationship with my daughter. I love her so much! Motherhood is exhausting and presents it's many challenges. Especially when you are a new mom like me. I wonder sometimes if I'm making the right decision.

Omg don’t feel bad I do that at least once a week my daughter is teething and hasn’t napped or slept through the night in about a month. I think it’s good to leave them alone for a couple minutes for both of you it might help him learn to self sooth and can calm him down if he gets over stimulated

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