• Michelle
  • New York, United States
  • 13 days ago

Big boys don’t cry, be a good girl 🤦‍♀️

Are there any phrases which your parents used to say to you which you now find yourself using and feel badly about? I caught myself saying “big boys don’t cry” the other say, and immediately felt upset that I’d used such a horrible gender specific cliche. Tell me some others to watch out for!...
  • M
  • Aberglasslyn, Australia
  • 7 days ago

I was shopping and a grandmother said to her grandson “no come on they’re the girl toys we’ll go find the boy toys” and I just cringed.. 😬

  • D
  • Rochester, United States
  • 7 days ago

Swallow your tears. Something my mom used to say when I wanted to cry. I still remember trying to obey and my throat hurting from holding in the tears

  • E
  • Jamaica Plain, United States
  • 7 days ago

Awwww 😪❤️

  • S
  • Decatur, United States
  • 11 days ago

When my LO is crying , I hate when his dad tells him to stop because nothing is wrong with him or to man up . He’s super young but I don’t want him to grow up feeling like his feelings aren’t valid or men can’t cry

  • K
  • Goodyear, United States
  • 10 days ago

I completely understand. I hate when he tells my son “that’s enough”. We shldnt tell them when and for how long they’re able to express themselves. We shld never try to shut our kids up.

  • J
  • Vancouver, Canada
  • 11 days ago

The organization I work for asked youth what they want caring adults to say and not say to them about their mental health. It’s an amazing list! Of course I cried when I read it because I have absolutely have said the things on the “don’t say” list to my son. The “say” list is so helpful! “Say”: https://healthyschools.sd61.bc.ca/wp-content/uploads/sites/92/2017/04/FamilySmart-SAY-WEB-2017.pdf “don’t say”: http://www.familysmart.ca/files/FamilySmart-DONT-SAY-WEB-2017-1.pdf

  • J
  • Vancouver, Canada
  • 11 days ago

Uh links may not transfer. You could google it. It’s somewhere on the website familysmart.ca. Or maybe the link: http://www.familysmart.ca/files/UNFOLDING-PROOF-7-2.pdf

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  • T
  • Mansura, United States
  • 11 days ago

Still to this day I get told to “suck it up”. I’ve always been very emotional & I cry when I am hurt & my so tells me to suck it up or to shut up bc it annoys him when I cry but my feelings are valid. I’ve come to realize that I do the same things to my child (5) & I probably shouldn’t but I don’t do it intentionally & feel awful about it afterwards.

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