• Michelle
  • New York, United States
  • 10 months ago

Big boys don’t cry, be a good girl 🤦‍♀️

Are there any phrases which your parents used to say to you which you now find yourself using and feel badly about? I caught myself saying “big boys don’t cry” the other say, and immediately felt upset that I’d used such a horrible gender specific cliche. Tell me some others to watch out for!...
  • H
  • Escalon, United States
  • a month ago

In our family we say cowboys and cowgirls don’t cry.. it’s not necessarily gender specific.. so i don’t see anything wrong with it

  • L
  • Phoenix, United States
  • a month ago

I found that I don’t like saying “You’re okay!” or “It’s okay!”, when it clearly wasn’t okay.

  • E
  • Prince George, United States
  • 22 days ago

I like “shake it off” when the kiddo is hurt. Then we’re both shaking whatever body part got hurt and they start laughing (especially when my daughter bit her tongue and we are trying to shake our tongues in the air). It diffuses the situation without invalidating the fact that they did get hurt.

  • R
  • Fairborn, United States
  • a month ago

I saw this sort of poster the other day with suggestions for other things to say. https://www.reddit.com/r/beyondthebump/comments/av3ww1/what_i_try_to_think_about_when_my_boy_is_crying/

  • M
  • LaSalle, Canada
  • 4 months ago

This topic is so challenging because there are so many sides to it. We want our children to be able to be part of the society in which they live. But we also want to teach reliance as well as mental health. I tell my kids all the time. Often esp in the big stuff you personal feelings don’t change a thing. You get what you get. You need to balance what you feel with how to be strong and function. You have to truck through then disassemble how you feel about it. Your feelings can’t shut you down!

  • A
  • Halifax, Canada
  • 5 months ago

My mil uses negative words to describe my daughter... she doesn’t mean it bad but it drives me!! I always correct her but they are deeply ingrained. Example: nosy instead of curious, stubborn instead of determined or persistent, etc.

  • A
  • Halifax, Canada
  • 5 months ago

I think my mil thinks they are funny too. I’m probably over sensitive about it, i can be a pretty defensive person 🙈

  • E
  • Jamaica Plain, United States
  • 5 months ago

Oops I use both nosy and stubborn. I think of it as funny in my head, but they do sound bad from the outside looking in! Time to swap some words out for better ones!

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  • A
  • Goodyear, United States
  • 6 months ago

Hey my name is Allison

  • E
  • Jamaica Plain, United States
  • 5 months ago

Aw your son is so cute

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