Michelle
Hampstead Town, Greater London, GB
4 years ago

Big boys don’t cry, be a good girl 🤦‍♀️

Are there any phrases which your parents used to say to you which you now find yourself using and feel badly about? I caught myself saying “big boys don’t cry” the other say, and immediately felt upset that I’d used such a horrible gender specific cliche. Tell me some others to watch out for!...
Big boys don’t cry, be a good girl 🤦‍♀️

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6 months ago

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1 year ago

Boys will be boys, when dismissing bad behaviour

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1 year ago

Hate hate this. Boys will be good humans all the way.

3 years ago

Boys who aren't allowed to cry grow up to be men who can't comfortably express emotions other than anger 😢 I'm glad to see so many moms recognizing these ingrained things and working to change. I have a daughter and I catch myself telling her that I have to clean or cook because it's a "moms job" which is problematic. I'm also working to get rid of "you're okay/that's enough" as a response to certain crying episodes as I think it's really healthiest to let her have and echoes her emotions (without getting wrapped up in them myself).

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1 year ago

Love this! It’s so hard to break these. They are so automatic.

3 years ago

We need to teach our kids to be kind and sympathetic but not so sensitive and easily offended. Reading these comments has me like 🤦🏼‍♀️ We don’t want to raise weak kids, we want strong level headed people.

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1 year ago

I think validating their feelings doesn’t make kids weak. I think it empowers them. They understand their feelings and how to handle them rather than suppress them and lash out. Mental health is the goal.

3 years ago

Remember my mum used to say to me, shut up or I'll give u something to cry about, 'just wait till I get you home' amongst other stuff lol I'd never say nothing like this to my child amongst other things that used to be said to me

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