• A
  • New York, United States
  • 2 years ago

I didn’t know Mom Guilt was a ‘thing’

I’ve just returned to work full time, and I feel an overwhelming sense of failure, like I’m not a good mom, but equally that I’m not performing at work. It’s like, whereever I am, I am thinking about being in my other role (mom, or work), and my partner has become very bottom of the list. Does anyone else feel like this? Does that sense of guilt ever stop? Would love some tips from you mamas about how you deal with these feelings?
  • J
  • North Plainfield, United States
  • 2 years ago

I still feel the same way with all the guilt. I went back to work when my baby turned 3 months old. I still feel a hot mess with plenty of guilt.

  • J
  • Enid, USA
  • 2 years ago

Im going through the same thing and found this post very inspiring. My son is 4month, and Ive been back to work for 2months. There are still days I cry. It doesnt bother my husband as much but I see him as my rock. He keeps the house stable and sain. Looking back its gotten a little better, Ive learned how to manage.

  • B
  • Muncie, United States
  • 2 years ago

The best advice I can give you is to focus on performing your best in both areas when you’re there. I would be so embarrassed to discover my husband was a poor performer at his job because he wasn’t doing the work, and I know he’d feel the same about me. If you are performing well at work, and your time spent with your kiddos is good quality time, then I say good for you!! It’s hard to juggle it and find the balance. Give your best to each aspect when you’re there. Guilt is for the birds. Don’t let it live rent-free in your head!

  • C
  • Orlando, United States
  • 2 years ago

Writing this to you in my first business trip. That plane ride was so hard and I felt awful leaving baby with sitter. I maximize and dedicate my weekends, evenings and any holidays to family. Know that you are not alone and we are awesome moms!

  • E
  • Sacramento, United States
  • 2 years ago

Oh I struggle with this too, every day. It’s so hard. I feel like I’m missing out.

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