Going To Court

I dont know what to do and to be honest I'm scared and stressed out. I have tried multiple times with my ex to schedule times he can either pick up our daughter or see her at my house. But now I am being summons in front of a judge because he is telling them that I dont let him see her which isnt true. We had times and he didnt stick to them. When we get into an argument he wont come weeks at a time to even pick her up or ask how she is doing. I don't let him keep her overnight because everytime she has gone with she doesnt eat. I just dont think it's fair that he would choose when he feels like being a father but when I do something I'm in the wrong. Does anyone have any advice? Please no negative comments I am really trying. I haven't been able to find a job because I'm the only one trying to do everything.

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i’ve gone to court so much so let me give you some tips: save all texts where you guys scheduled times and he didn’t show up or when you guys get into an argument and he won’t see the child for weeks. i started keeping a journal of when the father of my son was late with pick up or drop off or didn’t want to see him. also the court might send you to a place to get help in finding the best solution. when i went my son was 3 months old and we finally agreed to a lot of things such as times he would pick him up and drop him off, holidays and when overnights were going to start.

My only thing is that I dont have proof of him not seeing her weeks at a time.

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damn then i would just explain that he doesn’t see her when he gets mad at you and it’s not fair to her.

I'm just freaking out

Be encouraged! I experienced the entire court process with my daughters father with regards to custody, child support & visitation in the end we were able to reach an agreement. As moms we always over extend ourselves to have the fathers equally as involved and to be honest most men who are co parenting start to show how immature they really are just to be spiteful. It was tough but we was able to reach a settlement& I was awarded full physical custody, I agreed to joint legal custody with final decision making ability, and he has visits three days out of the week when I was giving him five days lol he didn’t want that much. As far as overnight is concerned unfortunately the judge will award the father that even if ur not in agreement unless you can prove he is unfit. It was very unsettling to me initially but once I was able to get out of my feelings &maintain the focus on my daughter I was more able to have constructive conversations with my daughters father about any and all concern

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If you ever need any support and or have any questions I am more then willing to share my journey.... the journey is challenging but I must say I am at a positive place with my daughters father with regards to communication in discussions any and all things with regards to my daughter wellbeing including social and physical development ...and my daughter is only one! You got this!!! I promise things will get better