More babies in your mid 30s??
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Id say if are done. And you do most of the children rearing. But I think his points are valid but not necessarily more than yours. I have a 14 and 12 year old. And I wanted more but no way would I have more now. They are almost grown. And I’ll barely be over 40 when they both go off on their own.
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I would be honest with him and tell him how you feel. Why is he wanting more does he not feel yalls family is complete. Not my business can y’all afford more. We spoke of this a lot when we were choosing how many to have. To be honest I could have had 8. No way for my husband. He just doesn’t have enough patience. But we could not have afforded them when we were having children so we stopped at 2. We could afford them now. But no way would I want to now.
How’d he feel about the dog idea? I mean that sounds like a good idea. I grew up as the middle of 5 so I understand how busy a house with a lot of kids in it feels. If you feel done you should tell him because it’s an important decision to make but you sound like your basing it on practical things.
I only have 2 at home and feel overwhelmed sometimes trying to give them attention. Super mom! Maybe just talk to your partner and let him know he can wait 15 years for some grandkids.
It's not selfish at all..do what you feel comfortable with. I'm not sure men always understand the sacrifices we have to make in having children.. to our body's our minds our careers And much more.. you've had 4 babys and that's amazing, I'm working on baby no2 at the moment and that will be it for me..the next few years I want to get my body back and hopefully follow my interests back into a career again, it's so hard being a mum, rewarding but it's no easy job
I don’t even have enough time for the kids we have now. I keep telling him we will never have time to travel and whatnot if we keep having kids. I truly didn’t want to have more after 30, but I met him and here we are lol But my 2 year old truly completes our family.