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I’m sorry- that’s tough. But I think you can just ask politely for them to take them down bc it makes you guys uncomfortable and as her parents you’ve made the choice to not share the photos of her with the public. They need to respect that!! Just make it known that it’s important to you!
I deleted my fb and Instagram when I had my daughter and my husband and I also agreed to never have a picture of her online.... all of our family respect that. My mom and sister were very sad at first cause they wanted to show her off, but we aren’t comfortable with it. One time a cousin posted a picture of her with her daughter and it was up for 5 minutes and she tagged me and I texted her and asked to please take it down and she did. My daughter just turned 2 1/2 and it’s the best choice we have made!
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We are the same and we did a quick password protected website and were very very serious when we told everyone never to put pics on social media and to please only send in pictures, and we explained (briefly) the motivation behind this. Privacy is serious!
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Also, you are the biggest advocate for your daughter, you should never be timid to do what’s best for her! I’d say try a new approach to the convo nd see if it helps...good luck!
Get over it... it’s 2018. Just kidding.
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This is what I did. Lol . I like to pick and choose what I want the world to know... my mom likes to let the world know EVERYTHING about EVERYTHING... I’ve asked her several times to not post about my family... because she’s friends with select people who I have blocked... well my mom does not gaf and will blow up her fb with my daughter... so I just got over it. 🙄🙄
I think your family needs to respect your decision. I blocked and deleted all of my biological father's family on Facebook because I don't want him having access to any photos of my son. That is what I needed to do to protect his privacy in my eyes, so that's what was done. It is a zero tolerance zone for people disrespecting your wishes when it comes to something like this, just voice how important to you it is and hopefully they will eventually get it. Side note - we have this wonderful family album app called Mitene that you add family members to and you and your spouse can post pictures of your child. Not sure if it's something you would be interested in, but it works for us to keep our immediate family in the loop while he grows without posting to social media. Good luck !
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This is not OK. This new digital frontier has people crossing all kinds of personal boundaries that everyone shrugs off because it's "normal" now. You and your children deserve privacy. I coach moms around digital mindfulness. I can help you with some tools to help navigate this situation if you'd like. Feel free to reach out 😊
I already solved the situation, but thanks !
I’m a awkward person to when it comes to asking someone to not do something. I however, have a Facebook and my daughter is all over it. Therefore I allow my family to also post pictures of her, however I found one that my mother posted of my daughter when she was laying on her tummy, with fairy wings on and she was naked. My mother was trying to take the pictures like you see professionally done. But she posted it on Facebook and I had to ask her to take it down. That was just too far for me
It sucks to be someone who’s awkward (I’m the same way) and I also don’t want pics of my son online. However, you are your child’s voice so it’s on you and your SO to be that strong voice for them.
Hi I know what you mean I was exactly the same however I didn’t mind pictures as long as her face wasn’t in them I don’t however agree when people post pictures of their children in the bath and if they’re half naked to be honest social media is a virus I think and I not safe and I have made it very clear to all my friends and my family that I don’t want pictures of my daughter and they have respected that in the end it’s your child so your choice xx
We didn't allow any social media in our home till our oldest was 12. Each child has to learn rules and responsibility before they are allowed to even use the internet. After that they could only use it supervised. 12 and up to use it on a phone and even then thier account is hooked up to ours and we do random phone checks.
We have basically asked that anyone we know not post his photos.
What did y’all end up doing? Curious!
We are the same way. We want to keep these early year moments to us and close family/friends. We asked family and friends not to post any pictures in social media. If my parents want to share the pictures with extended family or close friends, they can share them privately via message or text or refer them to the limited pictures that my husband and I post. You’re the parent so you should control how pictures get distributed. I know it’s tough but stay strong! Remember you’ll never regret NOT posting a picture. 🙂
Its kind of hard to say! For me I shared only what I want out there I never post a pic of my kids without a filter or with me or my SO in it and we never give enough space to get cropped out by someone without it being obvious the pic was altered. As far as your family let them no how you feel. The hard part is you can tell someone not post anything but if they do then they do all that happens is you get upset. I got to a point where my kids never left my side. So I never got a break after that. Make it known and be clear what you want.
Similar thing with us. Mother in law posted a photo, sent a text, taken down, moving on...