Got the American/Mexican mix here. It really takes having a very open and honest communication with your husband about the matter, and taking a strong stand should family want to intervene.
My hub and I have already figured out which customs we are/aren’t following, and are making sure our families know WE are the ones to make that decision.
My family is very traditional Mexican which causes some conflicts in them understanding American ways. It’s gotten messy at times, but has meant me having to put my foot down when my family members try to change our decisions. But little by little it’s getting easier.
Have an ongoing open conversation with your husband, because new traditions (which may clash) will pop up, and don’t take it personally.
No, we have similar values, thoughts and opinions on how we want to raise our kids. However it might change a bit with experience. We are new at this so we only have the theory. I'm from Western Europe (Portuguese) big relaxed family and he is from Eastern Europe (Romanian) small family quite religious although he is not.
Hopefully we stay in sync through the years.
My partner and I have many talks about we are going raise our son. He is Italian and I’m Trinidadian, so we were raised is very different. We haven't gotten into any clashes yet since our son is still a baby.
Hubby is Fijian and they are a very tentative culture, he’d an only child but I’m from a huge Aussie family and very laid back..
We have to just talk through our differences and come to an agreement.
Most times I just give in because it’s he’s child too 😊
I'm polish/Algerian grew up with a very strict father and a very relaxed mom so I am quite open minded strict on religion but very thing else is up for a discussion. When I married my husband who's parents are from Afghanistan I thought that because he grew up in Europe he will be a little bit of both and open mined like me turns out his values are way more middle eastern than I thought so we have a lot of different opinions like for example the guys in his family and his friends never take their kids out coz "it's the moms job" so I have to explain to him why it's important and that other men do it etc he does love to take our kids out but his brothers make him feel weird about it like tell him that he's like a female nanny
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