I wish I had the perfect answer- but all I wanted to say was your child is a beautiful angel- I hope you find the perfect way to support him through this. Lucky to have a mama as caring as you.

Your son literally could model.. he’s gorgeous.. I can tell he’s a boy.. but that’s really rude for a person to say to a child anyway what if it was just a little girl who walked into the bathroom he’s a child it shouldn’t matter.. but I do hope things get easier for him.

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I had a similar issue with my oldest son. He would get really upset about it. (He was teased at school.) I hate to reinforce gender norms and certainly if he feels strongly about dressing a certain way then let him! But for us, what we did was cut his hair short (it was a little longer and curly) and buy him very masculine looking clothes. It stopped the confusion and the issue went away on its own. My son still has somewhat effeminate features, long eyelashes, curvy hips, etc, but now that he is in puberty and his voice has deepened it’s a lot more clear to people and he doesn’t have to go out of his way to appear masculine. If you’re dealing with a gender issue I would say that’s something else and do what is right for your child. But if he feels like a boy and wants to be treated like a boy then just making him appear more masculine might really solve the problem until he is older and then puberty should help.

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Your son is super cute and his eyes with those lashes are definitely show stoppers. Anyway, I’ve gotten distracted, hah. Ok,so some people are going to be jerks because they need everything to be clear and obvious. Like if a girl isn’t wearing pink or a bow in her hair, then she must be a boy or if a boy isn’t wearing blue or anything with trucks, must be a girl. Some people are just oblivious sometimes too, one time we were at a museum and a lady told me how my “daughter” was so cute, this was while my son was wearing a romper with a pic of a puppy and the word “handsome” right below it. Hmm.. I smiled and corrected her and then thanked her. Ugh! I can’t even imagine what your son must feel when people tell him to get out of the bathroom he should be using and to not be able to communicate that he is using the correct restroom. Hope things get better. Sounds like you are equipping him with some tools to get through this hurdle in his life. I would say stay strong, but sounds like you’ve been doing that! 👊👏

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If that’s your son in the photo you should be so proud what a beautiful little boy. Don’t worry about other people. They can be stupid sometimes. Correct them loud and proud and move on. Don’t let it stay with you and bog you down. I’ve worked with many children on the autistic spectrum and most tend to corrects other for themselves in the end! But I’m aware how vast the spectrum is of course. It will get easier and I salute you. Well done Mama x

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