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I am a Boy !

Some people think my son Hunter is a girl it’s getting so bad that he has been stop 2 times in a public bathroom to go to the girls room my son who has receptive and expression speech delay ( autism spectrum) so it’s hard for him to express himself to communicate he’s a boy he leave the rest room and get me ( I wait for him by the door ) I try to take him in the bathroom with me ( women’s bathroom) but he refuses but it is difficult. I tell him whoever is in the bathroom if they say something to him to tell them I’m a boy !!! Does anyone else have suggestions? My son is in the pic ❤️
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He’s very handsome.

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Thanks hun

Sorry, that must be frustrating! He is very handsome though. Those eyelashes! 😍

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Thank you 😊 yes it is ☹️

Maybe try and role play it at home with him. He will know what to say and feel confident doing it. If his expressive skills aren't strong enough for telling others (even with practice) you could have him give them a laminated card he keeps in his pocket that explains.

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Thanks hun! Hunter expressive skills are great with people he knows but adult strangers he shuts down if I am not present but he’s getting better ❤️

I would make a social story for him and read It with him so It shows him the event happening and what to say and then practice him saying It - role playing can sometimes be confusing with children with autism and you want him to be confident that you know he’s a boy (I know It sounds weird lol) but you can write your own social story and make It short but reading that each day can help him see and hear what to do and he will start to model it after a while

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I will definitely try this thank you hun

He’s so handsome, don’t stress you made a gorgeous little man and he’s got that look that you no he could be a model when he’s older (or even now lol)

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Thank you 😊 he’s a signed model, but hate castings so we are only doing direct bookings right now. He use to like it now he’s kind of over it lol thanks hun ❤️

what about if he carries some story cards? One with a picture of a boy and the words "I am". I think they are called communication cards? He is gorgeous by the way but you already knew that 😊

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Thank you I was thinking that, but he gets so nervous, especially with adults speaking to him that he doesn’t know he just walks away to get me or my Husband but I’m definitely gonna try ur advice also thank you

My 3 year old gets called a girl constantly when we’re out in public. To me he so clearly is not, so it drives me crazy! I’m sorry you have to deal with that. He’s very handsome!

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Isn’t it It frustrating? At first when he was younger I didn’t mind telling people No he’s a boy now he’s hearing it himself he looks like a girl it’s kind of messing with self esteem he constantly yelling I’m a boy. He was called a Disney princess twice in Florida my friends thought oh kia (me) don’t worry about but he’s getting alittle much now

Yeah, I even worry about him hearing it now. When he’s so young. I can only imagine how frustrating that would be knowing he’s fully aware and understanding of what they’re saying 😞 some boys are just handsome and beautiful. Still don’t see how that instantly makes people assume girl 💁‍♀️ I’ve even been told “I know he’s a boy, but he is beautiful” and that actually didn’t bug me at all.

They might think his a girl because his so beautiful! I’ll take it as a compliment

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Thank you 😊

I like that sticker idea

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Me too

Oh my goodness your little boy is so handsome! His little face is flawless😭 I know it has to be very annoying and frustrating for y’all people getting confused. It baffles me that my little girl has pierced ears,a bow,a dress and a pink car seat cover she’s sitting in and they say is it a boy or girl? Sometimes after I tell them her name is STELLA🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️ some people...

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Actually yes. I took a video of my son and my husband put it on his twitter and it randomly got ALOT of attention. He was singing a song to our daughter who passed away may2017 when she was four months old😔

Awee thank you hun ❤️ur family is just the cutest s/b ur family look so familiar we’re you on a show 👀or news before ?

My son is 9 and he is also constantly being mistaken for a girl. And I'm not sure why. I've even had medical providers call him a girl while holding a chart that lists him as male. So, I feel ya. I've been reading all of the suggestions and I think the sticker idea would be best. It doesn't require any interaction or response from your son.

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Yes love all suggestions and I am trying all Of them to see what best fit hunter ❤️thank you hun

He’s just absolutely gorgeous. Bless you!

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Thank you babe

So handsome! He looks like a magazine model. Sending love you guys’ way 💛

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Hahahahahaha

Awee thanks hun 😘he’s bad so the cute thing runs its course fast lol

Yes! Your son is beautiful. People made that mistake with me all the time when I was younger because I had short hair. Just keep helping your son with the language he needs to express himself. You are both doing great! Hopefully people will just mind their own business or we start putting gender inclusive bathrooms everywhere so none of it matters!

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Thank you so much Zoë that’s why I like the family bathrooms

I used to teach Hunter! Please tell him I say hi ☺️

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Helllo😘😘😘😘😘

If that’s your son in the photo you should be so proud what a beautiful little boy. Don’t worry about other people. They can be stupid sometimes. Correct them loud and proud and move on. Don’t let it stay with you and bog you down. I’ve worked with many children on the autistic spectrum and most tend to corrects other for themselves in the end! But I’m aware how vast the spectrum is of course. It will get easier and I salute you. Well done Mama x

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Yes that’s my snookems In the pic ❤️ and thank you soo much we are working on it

Yes that’s my snookems In the pic ❤️ and thank you soo much we are working on it

Your son is super cute and his eyes with those lashes are definitely show stoppers. Anyway, I’ve gotten distracted, hah. Ok,so some people are going to be jerks because they need everything to be clear and obvious. Like if a girl isn’t wearing pink or a bow in her hair, then she must be a boy or if a boy isn’t wearing blue or anything with trucks, must be a girl. Some people are just oblivious sometimes too, one time we were at a museum and a lady told me how my “daughter” was so cute, this was while my son was wearing a romper with a pic of a puppy and the word “handsome” right below it. Hmm.. I smiled and corrected her and then thanked her. Ugh! I can’t even imagine what your son must feel when people tell him to get out of the bathroom he should be using and to not be able to communicate that he is using the correct restroom. Hope things get better. Sounds like you are equipping him with some tools to get through this hurdle in his life. I would say stay strong, but sounds like you’ve been doing that! 👊👏

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Awee thank you hun for the encouragement I appreciate it so much he’s getting better with yelling a boy is coming in the bathroom lol 😂

Hahahahah 😂. Too funny.

I had a similar issue with my oldest son. He would get really upset about it. (He was teased at school.) I hate to reinforce gender norms and certainly if he feels strongly about dressing a certain way then let him! But for us, what we did was cut his hair short (it was a little longer and curly) and buy him very masculine looking clothes. It stopped the confusion and the issue went away on its own. My son still has somewhat effeminate features, long eyelashes, curvy hips, etc, but now that he is in puberty and his voice has deepened it’s a lot more clear to people and he doesn’t have to go out of his way to appear masculine. If you’re dealing with a gender issue I would say that’s something else and do what is right for your child. But if he feels like a boy and wants to be treated like a boy then just making him appear more masculine might really solve the problem until he is older and then puberty should help.

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No it’s not an gender issue he Definitely knows he’s a boy he just has “ Feminine “ features and a delay in speech to find the words to express himself I am hoping puberty will hit and masculine features will kick in lol and if not it’s okay ❤️ I wouldn’t change him for the world literally ❤️

My son was getting mistaken for a girl so much we had to cut off all his beautiful curls which killed me. Luckily he is young enough that it never bothered him. That sucks you’re going through that.

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Nooo you cut his curls 😐😐🤭

I know. Now that he’s older I’m not cutting his hair again until he’s old enough to ask and pay for it himself lol. His hair was down to his back by two. I thought it was so handsome.

Your son literally could model.. he’s gorgeous.. I can tell he’s a boy.. but that’s really rude for a person to say to a child anyway what if it was just a little girl who walked into the bathroom he’s a child it shouldn’t matter.. but I do hope things get easier for him.

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Thank you hun ❤️we went to the movies to see wrecked Ralph after the movies he wanted to use the bathroom as he walking towards the bathroom With my husband he yells I’m a boy 😂😂I almost died lol no one asked him ?? He was like just in case y’all Suckers want to know 😂😂

I wish I had the perfect answer- but all I wanted to say was your child is a beautiful angel- I hope you find the perfect way to support him through this. Lucky to have a mama as caring as you.

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Aweee thank you hun kind words are helpful 🥰

He’s so beautiful that’s why he’s mistaken as girl men can have wonderful beauty not just girls! I’m sorry 😐 that’s not ok he will grow older abs his more adult masculine features will start surfacing tell him he’s going to look back and realize those people never mattered! He’s so cute!

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Thank you so much ☺️

HE'S BEAUTIFUL ! 😍😍😍 I'M NOT SURE WHAT ADVICE TO GIVE BUT I'M SENDING POSITIVITY AND GOOD VIBES YOU GUYS WAY TO FIGURE SOMETHING OUT.

I am so sorry you are dealing with that!! 😩 He is such a handsome boy!

Gosh your son is handsome! Wow! And I think your doing everything you can do :) people are so nosy and rude nothing you can do about it accept to teach your son to be firm.

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Thank you 🙏

I had the same issue when my baby was little a lot of people said what a cute boy you have even though I have a girl and she was wearing pink they would still think it was a boy I think it was because of the hair a lot and it's very curly so much doesn't happen now that she is older 3 now

He’s handsome, some people say because of my sons eye shape and long lashes that it makes him look like a girl but he’s a year old and I don’t get it as much now than I did from when he was a few weeks old up to when he was 6 months, maybe try some kind of tag or something that basically says hey listen here people I’m a boy I have a penis too so mind your business 🙄✌🏼 haha

He is good looking boy I can see why , I would take that as a plus ,that will change as he grows up it could be worse my girl looked like a boy until puberty 😂 .

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😂

He’s BEAUTIFUL ! My sons only one and to me and my family he undoubtedly looks like a boy. But, he is FREQUENTLY... almost constantly referred to as she or my daughter. I haven’t found a solution yet other than to walk away because I just don’t think people even put in the effort and I just don’t have the time or patience.

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He’s perfect! My advice to you is stay consistent. “I am a boy” is a perfect, straight forward statement. Confidence is key and being assertive is not wrong. Remind him to keep his chin up and instill more confidence in him. Tell him he is smart, and handsome. My dms are always open

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Awee thanks Linda ❤️❤️

I’m sorry . He’s so handsome ❤️

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Thank you Miya

he’s so handsome! his eyes and eyelashes are phenomenally gorgeous!! 😍😍

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Thank you hun 🥰

I agree! What a handsome lil man!!! Give him the confidence to confront anyone who doubts him by telling him he can respond with "I'm a boy". It will pay off in the long run.

If this continues I would start asking the employees to use a private bathroom so your child doesn’t get embarrassed. And if they refuse ask to speak to manager

That boy has a beautiful face 🤩 Normally children with hair get that problem. It’s no ones business if he’s a boy or girl or what restroom he’s in.

He is gorgeous! I’m sorry momma that has to be tough! My son is on the spectrum also it can be hard. I’m a boy is perfect to teach him to say ❤️

Those eyes ❤️ My son also has receptive and expressive language disorder, is he in speech therapy? This could be something that could be worked on. It gets better as they get older, promise!

What about getting him something that says " I'm a boy " on it? Something laminated to keep in his pocket. That way if he can't express it verbally maybe he can show it to them? This was suggested to a friend of mine with a non verbal child.

Hes so handome! 😍

What a gorgeous little man you have there! I would make him a little sign he can wear on a necklace or out in his pocket that says he’s a boy, of course I find it ridiculous for anyone to say anything to him at all. He’s a small child.

My God, your son is beautiful 😩! Modelling?

He's so cute!! People be thinking my son is a girl too. I guess because of his long hair but he's never been stopped in a bathroom before. We just get used to it and just keep correcting people. I guess you have to teach them to keep saying they are a boy.

My son has been getting this too especially now his hair is growing. We just smile and correct people and I just tell him how beautiful he is 😊.

He is absolutely gorgeous. A beautiful boy! Sweet face! Keep on loving and supporting him. You n hubby are nice looking so the kid couldn't escape 🤭

i use to get that a lot with my second son , he had a lot of hair && looked like a girl it got to the point where my neighbor brought him bows && barrettes 🤦🏽‍♀️

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That’s a huge compliment though!! He’s that handsome that I actually thought he was a girl also.

Wow he is beautiful 🤩😍

He's absolutely adorable a beautiful child

He is gorgeous 😍

He is sooo adorable 🥰

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