Let’s talk puberty!

Use the window you have now I would say, my daughter has known since about 8, in age appropriate stages, but now at 11 she’s so grossed out she hates me even mentioning I’m on My period. She won’t even look if I’m half dressed, but I know that’s because she’s really going through some changes now lol I’m sure right now at aged 8 she’s just fascinated. But depending on if your convo will lead to the sex discussion, I would always emphasise loving relationships and emotions as part of that. How these things are for in private /personal/ special etc I think it’s just reiterating those buzzwords from a young age that stick and last. Maybe get a good book too to show her how the body will change. The dk human body one is really good Good luck x

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Oh I’ve just seen the book in your photo 🤦🏽‍♀️

See I’ll probably be brave enough to talk to her about the boobs and the body hair etc, but the sex part, oh goodness I’m kinda nervous! Mind you my parents never sat down and had the talk with me I basically learned on my own and school. So it’s nerve wrecking! Should I just let her read the book and let her figure it out on her own or? Ahhhh, I’m just nervous 😂😭😭😭

Nice book. I use to own The Care And Keeping of You. Here are some tips in regard to the sex part of the convo: https://www.familyeducation.com/life/talking-about-sex/age-age-guide-teaching-kids-about-birds-bees?slide=3#fen-gallery Definately let her know that she can always come to you to ask questions.

I'm so glad that you are asking! My mom didn't tell me anything. The day I got my first period she handed me a box of pads and said to read the instructions. That was it.

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My mum never told me anything either! Woke up after getting my first period during the night and thought I was dying 😂 she also just gave me a packet of pads!

My mom never told me either, I started at 10 and thought i was dying. I would hide throw away my underwear and she saw them in the trash one day then took me out and told me about it and gave me maxi pads which were very uncomfortable 🙄 I plan on being very upfront with my daughters

I talked to my daughter a few times about periods. One of her cousins started at the age of 9, so I was really worried she would start early on and be terrified. She even had a couple pads in her backpack in case it started at school. The morning she started she came to me and said “mom, I started my period”...I use pads so I had plenty of stuff for her. But we went to the store together and she picked out a pair of comfy sweats, some new dark colored underwear, pads for teens and a few self care items. My mom never talked to me about periods and I freaked out when I started, didn’t want her going threw that too.

I'm not there yet, but I'm a mom of girls. I plan on just being straight forward. The more awkward you are the more awkward they're g2 feel. This is advice from other youth I've worked with as well as my younger brothers. We had the talk starting at age 6.

I read online nice idea, to have women in her life write letters, not necessarily about puberty, but just female advise. Then when she gets menses u can give her the letters along with a period packet (pads, period underwear, wipes etc) loved this idea, because when going through something new it’s scary and it feels quite lonely.

My daughter is almost 9 months but it’s ironic that I stumbled on this chat even though I am not quite there yet but she’s got a bubbly personality and she’s very pretty I was talking to my husband about this when the time comes to talk and he said ask mama and run away 😂 🤦‍♀️

It’s definitely nerve racking but I don’t want her to get the information from wrong sources and I prefer she’ll come to me .i wish I had that with my mom

Aww we have that book ! My daughter is 8 and we started reading this book since she was 7 . Good luck mama

I wish my mom talked to me, she just opted out

Omg following because my daughters turning 5 & that’s getting close to 8 and I feel like I need to mentally & emotionally prepare myself starting now 😭 haha

My stepdaughter started asking questions around that time as well. She wasn’t comfortable asking her mom so I answered everything she wanted to know. When I was 10 years old I started my period and I literally thought I was dying bc I was in pain and bleeding. I had no clue what was going on and had never heard any of that stuff before. I wanted my stepdaughter to know everything I wish I knew.

It is best if you start with small open conversation...sitting down and having a talk is awkward for you and her...just chat, be open and honest, answer her questions and remind her that she can always come to you...

My daughter is turning 9 this year and we already have talked about some stuff but I feel like we need to start the puberty conversation. She wants to take a weekend trip for her birthday (we don't really do a lot of gifts more adventures / memories) and so I think I'll give her a book and a journal we can write back and forth together in. So if she has an embarrassing question she doesn't want to get stuck in a long conversation she can write me a note and I can write her back. I remember feeling so uncomfortable asking questions about my changing body etc and I want to give her a separate space to do that. On our birthday trip I think I'll take her shopping for new undies / clothes that feel comfortable with her changing shape. I can't believe we're already at that point but we are

My daughter is 9 & she refuses to talk to me about anything. I’m as clueless as you are hun #hanginthere #weareinthistogether

Yes

I found a really useful video on YouTube I let my daughter watch it and let her ask any questions if she had any

My oldest girl is 11 almost 12. She's already been having her period 3 months. Omg is it hard I thought I was done with this shit when I got my partial hysterectomy. I totally forgot my 2 girls will turn into women one day. My husband says its denial lol. I was so open with her & explained why it happens & she still hid it from me. Its a scary thing for someone who isnt mentally old enough to properly understand.

Oh man my daughter is 7 fina turn 8 in November she already started growing breasts! 😱 the horror lol this is why i wanted 1 girl only lol

Hey!! I have the perfect suggestion for another book too my 6 year old had questions and after reading this it helped so much

My girl is just turning 7 in a few days and already has been growing so I just said ummm baby I think you need a bra and so we bought a bunch of just basic cotton bras nothing with support but just to give an extra layer so no one says anything to her. She is pretty chill and nonchalant so it wasn’t awkward at all for her more so for me. Lol she’s just like oh ok I need to wear a bra too now ok then. And she knows basics about me having a period and I tell her eventually she will have one. Same with my 5yo. I think it’s mostly depressing for me that they’re already getting bigger and I want my babies to just stay babies and not have to ever enter the at times depressing world of adult life. Even being a teenager has its dark times and kids are so innocent it seems so weird that they change so much. 😩 I mean we all do and did and I barely remember it happening.

My 8yo is starting to ask for more privacy in the bathroom & such. I definitely am with you on worrying. I have talked to her about some things and have already bought her bras and spoken about how important hygiene is. It still gives me anxiety thinking of when she has her first cycle though. I just want to take all the awkward & gross out of it.

My daughters 10 11 in January and I am not ready

Girl my daughter is 7 turning 8 in Nov shes been having pain in her boobs i took her to her doctor cause i freaked out! So it turns out she's growing boobs! 😱 so she's been wearing bras cause it shows alot without it and hair growing down there im like shocked but yet I was around her age where I was growing some and got my period by 8 years old yea I know crazy right! I had talked to her beginning of this year nobody has no right to touch her nowhere idc who it is no touching is her body if she has a problem with her body she comes straight to me im the mother who birthed her carried her she knows now how take shower herself

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Same here my little one is 8 with boobies and hair down there. She's been growing her boobies since like 7 but when i noticed the hair i literally started crying (silly i know) but she's growing up and i wasn't ready.

My daughter is 15. Use simple terms: your body is practicing for when it would eventually be a mom. Because you won’t be a mom for some time, each month it has to dispose of tissue that it doesn’t need. Leave it there. If she asks more, be concise. If she asks how will she become a mom, you can say that a woman needs a little seed from a man that wants to be father.leave it at that. If she asks how does the man give a woman the seed, you can say that it would happen in a loving relationship. Leave it at that unless she asks more. In my opinion, give little nuggets of information but only as much as she asks.

Well my daughter is only 5 1/2 years old and she is already getting boobs but most likely she will get her period when I got mine at the age of 9. Yeah my mom didn’t say anything to me and I wasn’t ready at all because she thought I will get it later around 14 years of age. So being said I will just tell her in a nice way and for her to understand.

My daughter is starting to grow in both parts but slowly. She's 9 and kinda understands when I get mine but I started at 14. I think she might start close to 11 but not certain. Her half sister on her dad's side started at 11. Does anyone have advice on how to deal with mood swings or emotions during the 1st week they start?

My daughters are soon to be 9 and 7 this year, we have had conversations about periods and boobs ect I always used the fraze " we need to look after our self " and self care so its kinda there already but I think we need to have another chat but not to indeth, I'm quite open, even as a child I was although my mother never had any kind of chats with me. I think for me at the moment I need to no more on how to deal with mood swings and emotions? Any book that could help me and the girls? X

Highly recommend reading the Caring and keeping of you books 1 & 2. I gave her the option of reading on her own or reading together. We read to together and stopped to ask questions along the way. She was very prepared for health Ed class this past year when they talked about puberty. She thanked me because she wasn’t embarrassed or nervous like other students in the class.

We’ve got the American girl one.

My oldest started menstruating at 11, my second at 10 :( but they handled it well. When they were 9 I made them read the book shown in the post. It was a great conversation starter

@charmette link?

honestly i know this talk will be much more different for me than if i had a daughter. If we are talking about THE talk or yk the talk. And i say that because uh in my household there are many thing nobody speaks of, that’s the talk i wanna have with my son. So he knows, and also i want to tell him to love his body. Because it’s his and it’s perfect

I started reading “It’s Not the Stork” to both my girls when they were 4. It was not awkward, it was all just matter of fact. Made it so much easier later in.

@charmette what was the video?

@Aerielle what's the book please

We're reading this book right now! My daughter just turned 9