When did you first leave your baby overnight?
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uh the weekend concert for work. with his dad (we were separated). Not worth it
Our DS was 1 the 5th October, and he's still not had a sleep over, just thinking of it gives me anxiety....me mam is staying at ours next week so we can go away for the night but even then we will be putting him to bed ourselves, think it just depends on how you feel, but you should go for it and enjoy your self, before it gets harder to leave them
My first was 3 weeks old and he stayed with my mother in law.. had the best sleep. I won't be doing it with my second but that's for various reasons and not because I don't trust them xx
2.5 and haven't spent a night away.
I wish I could just go and party somewhere lol, babying is overwhelming. Sorry for being off topic but I like your post🙂
I didn't leave my son until his sister was born. He was 17 months old. He had a lot of health concerns though so I could leave him alone with anyone.
She’s 1 and 1/2 and I still haven’t left her overnight.
I have yet to do that and mine is almost 18 months !! My anxiety just won’t let me … and she’s still not weaned
I haven’t yet and mine just turned 5!
Are you leaving him with his dad? I first left my baby overnight when she was 4 months old.
Reading through comments and responses it actually sounds to me like your mind is already made up and you want to go (no judgement either way here). So if you are going to go for it then practice runs will be a great idea to give you, baby and husband an idea of potential issues prior to you being physically unreachable. Perhaps then you can make a fully informed decision either way x
Mine is 18 months and I have no idea when I’ll be comfortable leaving him a somewhere overnight 😩
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Before I was pregnant I saw my MIL and how amazing she was with her 6 grandkids to my partners sister, PPD began hitting me pretty badly and we started with my MIL staying at my house over night when my LO was 1 week old then again at 2 weeks she done all of his wake ups and let me sleep in, he then done a over nighter at her house when he was 3 weeks and has done more since then (atm he is 3m), I trust her whole heartedly, I checked in with her, I don’t think I can trust anyone else to do a over night stay other than her, I sometimes feel guilty that I don’t have the same mindset as all of these other mums commenting saying ‘I could never be away from my baby’ but I need that break, and it’s good to ask for help- don’t suffer and feel overwhelmed in silence, I also love that my baby and his nan are creating such a great bond
My eldest started staying at my mums for 1 night every other week when she was 5 months old. I didn’t even go anywhere most the time. It just gave me time to myself to pamper myself and relax and simply just turn off. I found it really helped her confidence as now she knows where home is but she gets excited to go to her nans
2 months old and she was with my sister.
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Think mine was about 1 I can't bear to leave them until then plus I breastfed fully til 6 months plus weaning of so wanted make sure they was fully eating without needing Me and settling at night if u don't feel happy don't do it u don't want to go and just be upset and worrying all night u won't enjoy your time anyway
My daughter was 3 months old when i first left her overnight. It was for my brothers 21st bday party. My other 2 didnt like staying other places. My mom would try to take all 3 kids for a night every once and awhile but my boys were too attached to me and their dad to go and stay anywhere. They would just cry.
Mine was 14 weeks when I left her for a couple of hours in the evening, I was staying at my mums for a holiday to catch up with old friends, gives you so much reassurance having a baby monitor that you can access with your phone, normally if im ever worried I would check up on her on the monitor and just left my phone open running the app when we were at the bar/resturant, as she sleeps at 6 i always did her bedtime and put her to bed before I went out and prepared her bottles for the next day which I usually do, so my family didn't have to do anything when I went
I've never done this and my son is nearly 4, I just can't do it id hate to be without them x
I had one night away from my first when she was 7 months, but I didn't have two consecutive nights away from her until she was 2 years old. With my youngest, I am planning on having a girls weekend when she is one. I can't imagine being away from her until then, but she is breastfed now, so maybe if she is taking the bottle before then I will feel differently
He was 17 months when I was in the hospital. Other than that I haven’t left him alone over night.
Only time I've ever left my children is when one of them are in hospital and there left with my mum and dad x
I just had my first night away a few weeks ago and it was amazing. Mind you my boy is 1.5 years. I was super anxious when I first left but as soon as I was with my friends my mind was busy I had a great time ! Just do what what your comfortable with maybe only go for 1 night or bring nana with you ?
My boy was 5 weeks old when he stayed at my MIL for the 1st time. I think everyone has different opinions on when they should stay over etc but for us we were happy with our choice xx
Oh man, he was about 8 years old and I called him a few times and picked him up at 6 am. Yep im that mom
My kids are 3 and 1 and I have never left them over night
My daughter was a few months when she first stayed over at my mums and our son was 2 weeks 😂😅 they’re only 13 months apart so I needed a breather. He’s bottle fed & I wanted hourly updates and couldn’t wait to get him back the next day. But glad I got the rest x
4 weeks x
Every momma spends their first time away from their baby at different times. For some it’s easier and for others it’s more difficult, but if you’re leaving your baby with someone you wholeheartedly trust then just go and enjoy yourself! They won’t remember the time spent away and you’re not a bad mom for taking some “you” time. You’re an amazing mom for making sure your child is cared for while you engage in some probably much needed girl time. Good luck love ❤️
I didn't leave my kids until they were like 3 and that was wirh their dad and I stressed the whole time and it was only a couple of hours😂 I left my 9 year old and 4 year old over night for the first time last year and it was the first time I didn't stress. They re your kids you'll prob always have a little anxiety
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I definitely plan to leave mine when they are 5 months as have a pre planned holiday but will probably trial a night earlier... I think for a good sleep and a break it will be necessary! I figure nana bonding time then a refreshed mam will be good for the little one!
I left on a cruise when my son was 1.5months. We couldn’t cancel or get a refund. As long as you’re leaving baby with family or your husband. You’ll be fine. We did miss him dearly. And we couldn’t call or FT cz we were on international sea. That was tough. My mom is superstitious and she said not to think about my son so much otherwise he will cry and give her a hard time. And yes he did cry. You deserve that mini trip. Go and have fun.
My god mother got my boys within the first few months. Everyone else was after a year.
20 months for 2.5 days when I was in the hospital having my daughter. My 9 month old still hasn't left me.
I didn't leave my kid for a single over night til he was 18 months. My husband travels for work and left for days or weeks at a time all the time. Both of us didnt leave him with family or friends until he was 4 yrs old i think
I'm leaving my son who will be 3 weeks for a night at grandma's for a 40th birthday party
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I express, he bottle feeds just fine
Not until he was about 16 months because he was breast fed and wouldn't take a bottle. I had left him a few times over one night but this was a 4 day stretch. The one nighters he did great and I did as well. I little weird and felt like I was missing a limb, but we both did great. The long stretch we did great as well and talked over video call all the time. He loved his time with my parents and didn't cry for us once
I had to because of a work engagement when she was three months old it was hell
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21 months
After she turned one.
She was 6 months
I still haven’t and he’s 18 months, but that’s not from not wanting to it’s because no one has offered.
Mine is 10 months and the longest I’ve been away from her is a couple of hours. I have such bad anxiety when I leave her. But if you feel like you’re ready, go for it :) you deserve to have fun!
My girls first sleep over was recently so she was 3. We did leave her with my in-laws for a few hours at 6/7 months old for a date night but not an over night
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5.5 months, left him with my mum for the weekend and went to a friends birthday event in Barcelona. I was calling and texting constantly the first day and then relaxed as I saw how much he was loving all the attention and how much my mum loved having him. Had a brilliant weekend :) x
1 month! Live in England and went to Dublin for my OHs 30th. Was hard but so glad I did, best night sleep ever and I knew I could do it for the future. I do believe the longer you leave it the harder it is as with lockdown I'm dreading leaving her now x
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Oh god, you go and enjoy yourself. Not ever leaving your baby would be, in my opinion, far more detrimental than never leaving it. They are perfectly fine with a loved one and you need your space and your time. I breast fed my little girl for just over a year but I also expressed her milk and got her used to a bottle early doors so I could have a night away. There is nothing to feel guilty or upset about about, just relax and have a drink (or 5!) HAVE FUN! x
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Yes, a few drinks is absolutely fine. Your body processes the alcohol quickly and your milk is fine. I wouldn’t encourage drinking a bottle of vodka and then feeding but a few glasses of something is perfectly fine.
Do you women drink even when breastfeeding?
I haven’t left my little one over night. She’s 15months and I still breastfeed. She never took a bottle so I couldn’t risk it! X
He is now nearly 22 months and he has still not has a sleepover anywhere. My husband and I are going away over night for ONE night in may for our anniversary and that will be his first sleepover with grandparents. 😅