J
2 years ago

For moms of black or biracial or mixed children...

What discussions have you had with your children? For those like me with a toddler, at what age do you think 'the talk' should happen? I'm scared to death that society will see my sweet little boy as a dangerous man just because of preconceived stereotypes based on the color of his skin.
For moms of black or biracial or mixed children...

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1 month ago

I won’t make it about race, because then I feel like he’ll see himself as too different. But speak to him about the fact that there are some times when some groups of people may treat him unkindly and that he should stay calm and respectful and know all his rights in certain situations. Because then maybe he won’t start discriminating against certain people also. And gaining knowledge can never start too young🤷🏽‍♀️

1 month ago

I have not gone to deep with my little ones the only one who has really experienced any kind of racism is my oldest son who is 10 but it kinda hard to discuss to much because he is on the autism spectrum but all my children are black fillipeano Mexican and white. I have four ages 10, 4,2 and 9 months. I have introduced my four year old to certain books though such as my skin is beautiful and love your hair. I also will go out of my way to make sure my daughter's get primarily black baby dolls especially since they try to hide the black dolls in store either put it to high to reach or to low to even pay attention to. But I for sure try and always tell me children how beautiful their skin is.

2 months ago

@Kay it hurts so bad when it's a family member that is being racist to your child, especially a closeted racist, doesn't it? I recently found out a family member said my boy looks like a tree swinger with that afro hair.....every time we spoke to her she praised him for being beautiful and such a strong boy and behind our backs she was talking horrible things.....I've completely removed myself from my family, it's only my mom I talk to anymore.

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2 months ago

My son has come out a lot lighter than my daughter, he is more like my colour. I showed my dad a picture of my son and his cousin (another mixed brown baby) and my dad said my son is better I said why and he said “because he is lighter” 👺👺👺👺. Haven’t really spoke to my dad since. That’s crazy. Yeah defo need to remove ourselves and children from these narrow minded people.

2 months ago

I knew I had to fight for my daughter from the moment my dad told me to have an abortion because “no one will accept the mixed baby”. My daughters school was really got on black history and she learnt a lot through them. Luckily where I live it’s very multi cultural. She loves her skin colour and is very proud to be mixed. I’ve told her that sometimes people might see her differently and not see her for her wonderful self. She tells me that she doesn’t care because she knows she’s great 😅😅. She’s 12 now.

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2 months ago

Also her dad has had a few conversations with her about it. Sometimes he takes it too far and I’m scared he’s going to scare her but I know he’s just trying to make her ready for the world etc..

3 months ago

I feel like you should have those talks as they present themselves in small ways or situations even in cartoons. Hes young and very perceptive I think if you grow him up loving himself and who he is, building his confidence, being honest, open and raw (age appropriately) and just continue being the best mama you can be.💙

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