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Leaving for work in the morning

My 2-year old is having a really hard time dealing with me leaving for work in the morning... does anyone else have tips/ideas for explaining why you leave for work?
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I cried on my way to work every morning for months and sat in the parking lot full of regret and resentment (towards my husband). My husband and I (or sitter..whoever is home) now preoccupy the kid(s) while I leave. It’s always hard. I doesn’t get easier, just different as they grow.

The one thing I always done was always say goodbye. I never hid from him. He cried and still cries some times, but now he is too and rarely cries when I leave. I think communication and talking to them is key. I truly believe they are capable of understanding. Good luck

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I agree, I always say goodbye and give a kiss and hug. My son is okay with it but I hate when my husband sneaks out the side door to leave. My son always goes looking for him and then pouts. Ugh!

Heartbreaking isn’t it? Also, totally underestimates their ability to understand and cope. Also, our job to teach them these things!!!

My DD2 has been going to daycare since she was 10 months. (My mom took care of her before that, from age 3 months.) She still clings to me at daycare drop off but has stopped screaming and crying ever since she graduated from the 1-year-old room to the 2-year-old room. I often cried to and from work several times a week, but now that she’s older, she needs more stimulation and interaction than I could give her by myself at home, so I rarely cry. A few months after starting daycare, I googled “helping toddlers with transitions” and got a lot of good tips. I started making a predictable routine out of drop off time, which most importantly includes the same phrase of reassurance that I will see her later. In the car, I recite the children’s book, “Wherever You Are, My Love Will Find You.” Then, as I carry her inside, I say, “You’re gonna have a good day with your teachers and your friends! And Daddy will come get you after school, and Mommy see you after work!” And I try to be positive. It’s helped a lot.

It was hard for me to see my kids be left behind because I felt that they will never be taken care of the way I do for them they would cry everytime I'll drop them off with my aunt for 5 days at a time worst yr of my and my kids life not being able to see each other for almost a week but every time they would see me we all was went out.

Story of my life! My daughter has been going to the same lady for over a year now... and literally up until last month it was a NIGHTMARE! She only goes two days a week because I am lucky enough to stay home two days with her and my mom stays home one day with her.. I used to not tell her anything and then just show up and be like okay bye baby! Then leave her screaming and I would cry all the way to work! Well starting last month I was like she isn’t dumb maybe I need to explain to her... I now all week just talk really positive about being there, her friends and stuff she does there. I think hype her up and say wed and Thursday you have to go there cause mama has to go to work and make money to buy you nice things. Then Friday you go to NANAS! And it has made a world of a difference!! She now has been getting excited to go.. it’s like she knows she goes two days there then nanas house! Some days she will be a little sad , cause she wants mama... but she won’t be screaming her head off.

My kids really enjoy “See Ya Later Alligator “ I saw a post on Pinterest with a dozen different ones to teach them

I use the phrase ‘mummy always comes back’. We also give each other a toy which we will keep until we see each other. It’s very important that the person who looks after your child tries to keep the same routine while you’re gone.

My son is almost 4 and still convinces me not to go to work at least two days each month lol. Good thing my job is considerate.

I had this problem when my daughter was about 2-3 so I started giving more hugs before leaving and if it was really bad I would get my silly “magic monkey” socks (long socks with monkeys on them) put them on here and told her if she missed me while I’m at work to rub them together and when they get warm thats a hug from me. Worked like a charm.

I felt the same way when I started working after talking to my husband I found out he felt the same he said he hates leaving the kids and sometimes he even wanted to leave work just like me 😢 so we’re not alone talk with your husband it might help a little bit 🤗

I recently went back to work 6 weeks ago. My son turned 2 one month ago and is not adjusting well. He wakes up throughout the night crying and looking for me. He’s even mad at me when I come home from work. One day he even said he doesn’t love me anymore. That broke my heart. I’ve had to trick a few times in order to leave, he screams and cried when he sees me too. I try my hardest to leave before he wakes up but that doesn’t always happen. I try to distract him in days he sees me leave. Have him do an activity he really likes, set up an art project or colour. I tell him I’ll see him soon and that we’ll spend time just the two of us and do an activity or say he can come grocery shopping with me. I promise I’ll call him during my lunch which I always do. Most days now he will kiss me and say bye, but I still get the occasional day where he just wants me to crawl into bed and cuddle. It’s rough, I miss him so much when I’m gone.

We always had a hard time with me leaving for work. I found being very organized and having things ready the night before really helped. But now I’m running my own business with Young Living and time freedom has been amazing!

Awe

My 3 year old loves walking me to the door and we have a little phrase, I always say okay baby I'm headed to work, and she will go okay mom have a good day and make the money haha. 💰 and I always give hugs and kisses. And allow her to close the door.

I tell her I gotta go make money so we can go shopping. It clicked after a few times and she does well until she's sick.

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