Working mamas

Sometimes it’s hard because having a child doesnt make having a successful career easier especially being in the army which is dominated by males which a lot of males have wives that are stay at homes moms so when it comes to home life they don’t have to be stressed because their wives are taking care of the children. (Not saying there is anything wrong with that) all I’m saying is that most of my male peers have an advantage but i don’t mind the challenge especially because I have a daughter. And showing her it can be done is what makes me great in my career

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Same here when I was in the Army it was a ton to juggle. But in the end it is how I got to where I am today

I also have a very demanding job. By the time I am ready to call it a day mentally....it is time to put the mom shoes on. I wish there was more support for working moms. It can really be exhausting. However I will say I am happy in my career....it us just a bit harder to keep up.

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I feel the same x

I’ve gotten a lot more efficient.

Working 40 hours a week with two in daycare and one in elementary school is HARD. My husband also works 50 hours a week. We’ve learned once we’re home, to be in the moment. It’s family time 100% and that helps us unwind. We try and get the kids to bed by 8 so we can have quality time. Most the time I feel so guilty being away from the little ones I feel like I don’t give my best at work because I’m always thinking of them.

It's made me better. I had a short fuse and was kind of scatterbrained before baby - after having my LO and getting on medication for ppd and ppa it's like I'm a different person. I deal with tough situations and stress so much better than I once did - I know my employees noticed the change too. I will say working extended hours most days cuts down on my family time and that is really hard to deal with.

I was jobless :) until my baby girl was around 5 month exactly when i joined my new workplace! It was a big struggle , specially that I was an exclusively breast feeding mom! I think having her made me more organized , its her blessing that i got this job, and with all the stuggles and sleepless nights i think it didn’t affect my productivity nor focus .. ‘HOPEFULLY!

The more I allow my self to say ‘no’ and ask for help (as well as accept it), the easier and easier things become. I recently read something like, “replace ‘I don’t have time’ to ‘it’s not a priority’ and see how differently you feel” especially who I say “no” too.

I’m not sahm material. I like working. Granted I’m privileged in that my husband stays home. Was USAF Officer now law clerk joining army national guard. I have the typical 50s setup except the girl goes to work; but that’s the way I like it. I love my son but I need my job to stay sane and even if we didn’t need the money I’d never stop working.

I work from home and started back on Friday. I’ve already found that I’m much more efficient just because I know I have limited time before baby needs to be fed, changed etc. Honestly the only thing that made me anxious was the possibility that my webcam might turn on (accidentally) while I was in a conference call AND breastfeeding baby at the same time 😂

Being a mom is hard. I constantly want to be home with my son when I work. Thankfully my boss is a very close friend and is so supportive along with my husband. I do realize how truly blessed I am but sometimes the mom guilt just takes over completely

Neither, Maybe I care less? Lol!!

It’s made me better. Having my daughter gave me a new motivation To do my best and be able to provide the world for her. I actually went back to school and still work full time and anytime I get overwhelmed I look at her perfect face and kick it up a notch!

I found it I’m more organised since having my little boy. I work faster and can multitask. To be honest...I like working as I can talk to other adults and retain a little bit of my old self before I became a mum.

It’s made me more compassionate, it was always hard for me to hold patients hands and give hugs, since I’ve become a mom it’s helped me to be more sincere, respectfully.

It’s been both for me. I have a long commute so if I was able to work from home more often that would be nice. Those hours on the road instead of with kids is hard. I don’t think I would want to be home full time even if I could afford it though. I think flexibility at work is key so you aren’t stressed out. When I returned to work when my baby was four months my job was not very demanding and I’m glad because she didn’t sleep through the night until about 9 months. She is now 15 months and a great sleeper thank god, because I now have a lot more on my plate. I agree with what another momma said. I leave the office closer to on time no matter how busy I am because I need that time with her before bed time. The work isn’t going anywhere and if I have to I finish stuff after she goes to bed.

I enjoy my job about 90% of the time and miss it slightly on maternity. Maybe because I get to drink coffee when it still hot and go to the loo in peace. I have definitely become a more effective and efficient employee since becoming mother. I'm used to doing a million tasks at once which is certainly "transferable skill" between home and work life.

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Better mum, adult conversation and hot coffee. But when I’m at home I’m with them not sneaking work emails and phone calls. Lucky I work for a company that respects boundaries.

so ,so. i've learnt to be organized in ways i never thought i would be.

It's not a problem for me as I'm working from home, and I'm with my girls all the time. Although it's a little heartbreaking send them to school but now it's time for them to develop , grow and be more independent xx Since I'm a mum I'm more organized

I feel more motivated to do better and get promoted to make more money to provide for my family but my brain feels more mushy and not as precise in my thoughts as before I got pregnant

For the time being I would say worse, but is slowly making me better. I have a long commute everyday so I have to leave super early to drop my baby off at daycare before commuting more to my work. So with the no sleep from a newborn, I had totally Mom brain!

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Waking up at 5a to get to work for 8:30a, 2 hr commute for work, 3 kids with 3 different schools and 3 different start time and having a daycare personnel help... 😢 Makes me weary every single day

I’m loving my post work cuddles feel like it’s made me a happier mummy 😁😁

Harder, only because I don’t want to be here and I want to be home with my son.

I see work as my break from my little one. But when I’m at work I’d rather be out doing stuff with her. At my past job I would make random excuses of why I needed to leave, and I would go pick her up and we would do things. Now I don’t have that liberty with work. 😔

I must admit I felt like a horrible mom when I worked my last corporate job 😔 I know I was doing my best but I hated the day my son told his teacher that my favorite thing to do was “work” 😭 I decided to make a change and work from home. Best decision ever made. Now I can do so much better and not be a cranky always in a rush mom. There’s so much more joy in our home now. I definitely learned a lot through this though. Most mamas want to be home with their babes and still make a difference and follow their dreams 🙌💕 I love that soon I’ll retire my husband too so we can travel as a family. Working from Home has been life changing for us and I love all that I learn and the better person I am when I’m my best me. Always improving something for my family and I. Feels good.

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What work do you do from home???

I’d like to know as well!

I used to feel guilty but then started my own business and now I work around my child’s schedule. I started a business with young living. Time freedom is so important to me now.

Worse. As a whole, I like the organization I work for, I like my coworkers and I like my position. But I like my son more, so missing him all day is very distracting and makes it really hard to focus on my work and to stay motivated as all I can think about is how much I want to go home to see him. I used to have a great memory/mental filling system and great organizational skills, but as much as a skeptic as I was before becoming a mom, I now think mom brain is a real thing and that I have it big time as I can't keep track of anything or stay on track for anything liked I once could. Throw in the fact that I pump at work, so that takes time put of my day while I'm there as well as adds an extra level of stress and extra time dealing with all the pump parts there and at home to prepare them to being with me and that I always breastfeed him before I leave for the day, which often makes me late for work.

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I constantly feel like a hot mess like I never have and like I'm just sucking at my job now. It really frustrates me because I used to ROCK at my job and prided myself on that fact, so it's been a really hard adjustment. I've only been back 2 months, I really, really hope it gets better, I can't imagine this being a long term funk.

@Jess, yes!!! But I haven't seen any improvement and I've been back full time for almost a year

For those moms that transitioned to working from home what is it that you do?

Worse!!!! I can never remember anything. My tasks require knowing certain things and I have been struggling to cope with not remembering and not understanding what I used to know. I used to feel smart, but now I just feel stupid

I have a hybrid schedule where I commute in to the office 2 days per week, and work from home 3 days. It’s convenient, I end my days early when I WFH, so I can spend quality time with my sweetie pie. I also like that I commute in because I get to still have social interaction outside the home 2 days per week, while building my network at work, so I enjoy that balance.

Being a mother has put me in a position to work 10 times harder than I did before. I’m constantly looking for new opportunities to bring in additional income to put money away for my kids and their future. I stumbled across an opportunity that has turned out to be better than I ever dreamed.

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