'As an experienced mum' 🤢🤮

Hate, hate HATE it when a mum says this to another mum. You aren't better than anyone or necessarily more experienced🤦🤦

Anyone have a phrase that really winds them up?

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🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 this phrase grinds my gears so much!!! My fav was “you don’t have children so your opinion doesn’t really count for anything as you don’t know how to parent”.

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...and also their "experienced" way could still be shit!

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I hate this and also the ‘back in my day..’ usually followed by some outlawed backward advice that you’d never dream of following!

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🤣🤣👏🏻👏🏻 or when you don’t agree with something and someone says “well I done it with my children” 😂 drives me up the wall

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You’ll make a rod for your own back 🤬😡

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When you complain about being tired or literally anything and someone says “wait until you have kids” like just let me be tired!

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I literally had someone a few days ago say “well I’m more experienced than you” because I have two children and she has three. I wanted to throw her through the damn wall!

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I said I was tired and my aunt who’d just had a baby said “you’re tired? I’m the one with a baby” ... I was pregnant with twins 🙃😂

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Sometimes you just want to vent. You don’t want a solution! My problem is, if someone tells me not to do something, I do everything in my power to prove them wrong! Lol xx

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I’m still pregnant and at 38 weeks. So at the moment “not long to go now” is really annoying me.

I know it is well meaning. But most likely I still have a month to go - most first time mums labour will more likely happen at around 42 weeks.

I’m starting to have people check up on me and asking is the baby here yet. 😂 no, it’s not. I’ll tell you when it is, no need to check on me.

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Or "Well it worked for my kids" "I wouldnt do that with my kids" GOOD FOR YOU.. focus on yourself.. 😂😂😂

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Sooo glad that it's not just me!😂 I really try and not judge people, but I really want to tell people where to shove it when they act like this!!!

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No offence to them but your own mothers when they say well back in my day we did this, I’m like yes mother cause back in your day when Godzilla was born most of the shit you got away with doing was mostly illegal 🙄🙄🙄 I love my mum dearly I really do but since having my LG it’s all I get from her 😒😒

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The mum whose little one is a bit older than yours, so everything you say, their response is “oh well just wait until they’re doing THIS”, or “oh just you wait - that’s nothing”... like - I get it, your baby will always have that 6 month edge on mine. Congratulations! It’s like some women think it’s a constant competition to be the most tired / worn out / stressed. Does my head in.

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