What was one “rule” you broke when you got home with your baby?

I let her sleep in the bed with me. (I had her cuddled on top of my arm)

I sleep with my baby in my bed. I am a super light sleeper so I feel comfortable doing this. My baby sleeps much better when he’s cuddling me❤️ I love it!

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Also congratulations what a beautiful little boy 💞

Congrats!!! If you're letting them sleep with you, make sure you do so safely. Firm mattress, no blankets or pillows near the baby. Not going to lie, I've fallen asleep nursing on my side more than a few times, so I always make sure to set us up safely like that just in case. However, while some rules are more flexible than others, the one that you should absolutely keep (besides never shake a baby) is back to sleep. It reduces SIDS risk. If they roll to their side on their own, that's fine and normal. But never put them down on their tummy. Older women will tell you to do it, but we've been doing back to sleep since the 90s and it's working.

Sweet bundle of joy congratulations 💙

I didn't wake her up to feed, she told me when she was hungry, and she's been gaining weight just fine and pooping like crazy. I also co-sleep every once in a while, I even did a couple time in the hospital, on accident! I would be holding her watching TV and accidentally fall asleep, I always woke up to someone walking into the room so never got caught!

Makes me want another one! Sooo adorable! ☺️

Congratulations!! 🎈🎊

Congratulation! Don’t kill yourself over a feeding “schedule”. I took this very literally and learned early on that feeding on demand is far better for my daughter who’s now two months. Sometimes she’s cluster feed because she’s growing, other times she’s not interested for 4 hours. Go with it. Listen to her ques. Best “rule” I broke ❤️

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Isn’t it crazy how doctors have different advise for us? It’s why this app and these chats are so important 🙏🏻

It’s crazy but the hospital and doctors actually told me, feed her when SHE wants to be fed. Don’t worry about a schedule! Baby knows when baby needs to eat. Unless there’s a specific problem but that’s different and doctors handle that different

I let her sleep in her rocker when I need to be able to put her down somewhere downstairs so I can get some errands or cleaning done. I don’t understand how you don’t; those things are designed to encourage them to fall asleep with their rocking and vibrating motions, so what are you supposed to do after they fall asleep? Wake them up again? No way; this mama is going to tackle a sink full of dishes instead!

I literally broke every rule except the feed every 2-3hrs rule. You gotta do what works best for you. Being a new mama is hard and the nurses are not gonna be there helping you at your house. Your baby is so beautiful. Congratulations😊

Omg congrats! I've broke every rule 🤷 tbh I broke most of them the first night home 😂 lol we coslept, used blankets, propped the bottle, etc etc

Waking to feed!!! Eeerrrrrr no 😂

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This!!! 😂😂😂 I never did for my boys and wont for baby girl when shes here they wake us of a night😂😂😂

Congrats !!! Girl I didn’t follow any rules I raised my babies how my momma showed us to take care of babies ! I have 5 and I am happy to report they are alllll still breathing ! 😂 it’s nice to have guidance and learn things as you go bc babies don’t come with a manual BUT TRUST YOUR MOMMA GUT! ALWAYS !!!

We’re a bedsharing family. When nurses go over “safe sleep” with me, I just smile and nod. My kids’ pediatrician knows we bedshare and has never said anything to us about it so 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

I didn’t wake to feed my three and only swaddled one as the other two didn’t like it. If they spend more time trying to get out than they do actually sleeping then try unwrapped 👌🏼 my unwrapped two were in sleep suits with free arms worked perfect for us. Congrats mumma on a beautiful little babe 💕

I had to co-sleep. I used a co-sleeper the first two -three weeks after he slept in my bed. I purchased a really firm mattress because he refused to sleep in crib or co-sleeper. He also started sleeping in his tummy around 4 weeks. I stayed up to monitor him the first two nights to see if he was able to turn his head while asleep if he went face down. He’s now 17 weeks he sleeps in bed with me and in his tummy and side some times.

Congratulations and both my boys went into their own room from 2 months, i only fed on demand, i started weaning my eldest from 5 months, i also have the boys in my bed sometimes but my eldest prefers he own bed now x

Honestly, I followed the “rules.” Well, the ones that my pediatrician set, not necessarily the ones the hospital nurses articulated since those changed with every shift change. Per my pediatrician, I did not wake to feed, but otherwise fed on demand. Baby slept in a bassinet with nothing in it. Not worth the risk.

I co slept

Congratulations.. welcome to the world baby .. little gift xx

They said in class to have the baby sleeping in my room for six months 😂😂 and to wake him every 2.5 hours to feed😱 I was like nope! He is sleeping in his crib from day 1! And I will feed him when he calls me at night🥰 It worked! We never had any problems transitioning him into crib, sleeps all night and he never been hungry or under weight. I breastfed him

We bedshare on occasion. Sometimes it’s unavoidable and that’s just life. There are too many rules around babies imho - I think we should just do what works best for ourselves and our babies. Trust your gut!

Co sleeping.

I still cosleep with my six month old daughter. It's soothing to both her and myself.

I bed share with both my kids 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Oh and both of mine were obsessed with using a blanket to fall asleep 🤷🏻‍♀️ my 3 year old literally still has his blanket since a baby. LO had a blanket but she’s started to not want it

Oh and I never woke up my kids to eat 🤷🏻‍♀️ they slept 7-8 hours since 6 weeks old

Sleeping with the baby lol

I followed all the rules but wish I had broke one. I got told to wake every 3 hours for feeding. I did this for the first few weeks and I’m sure it’s partly to blame for her not sleeping through the night until 14 months. Pregnant now and I’m not going to do the same with this one!

Omg he is so cute. Welcome on world little boy.

My baby wouldn’t sleep at all for a week. She was born sunny side up and had a terrible bruised head. So I let her sleep on her tummy in her next to me. This was the only way she would sleep. Which is a massive rule broken right there. Also did I never wake her to feed, she would ask for feeds herself and on her first weigh in she had gained weight so that was pretty awesome. (Breastfeeding) Another rule I broke was, I’ve moved her to her own room at 4,5 months. We kept waking each other up. She sleeps so much better. Also I now always put her down on her back to sleep but she’ll turn herself over to sleep on her front most nights. Which they say is fine from when they start doing it themselves 🤪 But honestly your mum instinct will tell you what’s right for YOUR baby. Take everything you hear with a grain of salt and listen to you, and baby. Congratulations mumma.

Co sleeping, so many scare stories prior to giving birth that I was adamant I wouldn’t do it. I had to stay In for a few nights after my first birth and I literally couldn’t get my little girl to settle, I called the midwife for help and she said oh she just wants to be close to you, put her in the bed with you. I was thinking, this is the one thing I have been told not to do this whole pregnancy 🙈😂 Since she was born she slept in my bed, she is now five and just gone into sleeping in her own bed the whole night 🙌🏻 finally 😂