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Is my newborn bored?

Do you ever feel guilty or worried that your infants get bored during the little time they're awake? Lol I'm not sure if it's just my own cabin fever from COVID and general post partum isolation but I get worried and wonder about my newborn daughter being bored and sick of the same routine daily. **pic is a grumpy baby meme** 😂
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Trust me all they need is love and affection. A clean dry diaper, their milk and they are good!

What a picture :)

Thank you for this post! I've been feeling the same and then I come on this app to see mums have a packed fill schedule for their newborn and it makes me feel like I'm not doing enough... but we are enough ❤️

Yes, I do feel same .

They are not that developers yet to get bored! Don't worry! *yes that baby does look grumpy. But cute

Mamas… you don’t have to worry about your baby getting bored. Babies brains have so many connections that their experience of the world is quite literally psychedelic until some of the connections get strengthened and pruned. The crinkle of a plastic bag can be fascinating. The wind! You do not need apps, songs, games, anything like that to stimulate them. Just your voice and your expressions and the voices of friends and family and your touch and fresh air. Do not overdo it and give yourself more pressure and stress!

I had PPA and this was me for 4 months.. even now at 6.months... constantly thinking... man how can I keep you entertained... I didn't want my baby to feel bored or unwanted.... trying to get over that fear .... just starting to realize how much stress I put myself through since he was like and it shouldn't have been like that.... when we has weeks in .... I should have enjoyed it more.... hopefully next time I know better. Just remember they do need down time even tho it feels like your just leaving them

I laughed at this just thinking about when my babies were newborns and probably bored as hell 😂😂

Yup.... And then I remember that literally everything is new to them and things like a lamp are fascinating.

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Was just going to say basically this!

When I had my first born I was the same way trying to be the "PERFECT MOM" all that changed when he was 10 months old because I had twins and they needed me to be the PERFECT MOM but I wore myself out very quickly now I have realized toys, educational cartoons and some cuddles on the couch cause that's the only way I can hold all three lol and a full belly and clean diaper they are great

I used to feel this all the time!!!! I’m so happpy I’m not alone

Thank you! I was just talking to my SO about this today. We have twins and I feel like I’m not doing enough but we do tummy/play time, sing, read, they sit in their bouncies and look around.. idk why I still feel they need more 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Awww twins! Yes I think it's my own anxiety and guilt that I put on myself to make sure I'm doing enough. 😅

I did when my son was wee. My PPA and guilt made me try to keep him stimulated all the time. Then I realized I was overstimulating him and gave him down time too and it made a world of difference in his happiness and sleep. Don’t stress too much. Chat with your baby, talk through what you’re doing. Snuggle. Little ones don’t need much!

Yes! I felt that way too for a few months. I would get so fixated on filling our time and doing things a certain way, being the perfect mom. Hope you aren't too bored. I'm a stay at home mom and alone in a new state so socializing my babe isn't feasible. Just know you are doing a good job and you are everything she needs. Make sure you are taking care of yourself when you have downtime.

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Thank you! Yes I definitely felt myself trying to be "perfect" developmentally aware momma but sheesh there is so much out there to aspire to. The isolation is tough with the covid guideline in CA but I'm trying to enjoy my time with her as much as possible. Thanks for the kind words 💜

This was so inspirational to me personally I couldn't have said it better myself

When my daughter was a baby, I did start to notice she’d get a little crabby if we didn’t go for a walk every day. I’d wear her in a carrier and wander around the neighborhood. She just loved it. That’s the only thing I actually noticed her getting bored with - being inside all day.

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I downloaded the app Playfully it is great for things to engage with your little one

Never wondered this, but I’ve also talked to my daughter like a person since the day she was born. We talked through getting dressed, eating, bath time, tummy time, etc. Lots of eye contact and skin to skin. I also carried her in a sling so she tagged along with me around the house!

Sing cuddle they love hearing your voice

As long as they have plenty of love, cuddles, stories, hearing your voice, light projectors are good too btw then they have all they need in the world xx

I have nothing to add that will help you I just had to write that your post is the cutest!

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I conquer! 🥰🎈

Not bored,My daughter was looked more serious than that she came but she is always smiling now even when sleeping sometimes.

I just wanted to mention that this post is too cute and some of the comments! Enjoy your baby!

I highly recommend RIE and Janet Lansbury.

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WOW! I just started reading about it. I love that philosophy! I'm super interested in the Reggio Emilia approach for early childhood but it's so cool to see that translated to how RIE works with babies. Thank you so much for sharing that. I definitely notice I have to manage my own anxiousness so she doesn't absorb tension that from me.

My little one is almost 3 and I keep reading her blog and some of the books. I find it so helpful and I feel I have learned so much about myself and my own emotion regulation. Its also different than most mainstream philosophies...

I have this thought often! I just have to remind myself that it’s my own cabin fever and that baby is okay. I’m sure baby doesn’t care about the routine or toys, and he just cares more that I’m here with him!

Have definitely been wondering this. I have an 8 week old and I am trying to pack up our house to move next week so whenever he is awake I am mostly trying to get him to sleep so I can try and do anything.

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Sing to him! My girl is 10 weeks and loves when I talk, read or sing to her! Tell him what you’re doing as you’re doing it, even if it’s washing up or something. Sit him in his bouncer and let him watch what you’re doing, etc.

Read and sing to her lots. She loves the sound of your voice. Newborns see black and red the best, try toys like that. Noisy toys etc. I think a lot of the time we forget that everything is brand new to a newborn so things we would get bored of they wouldn’t

Newborns don't actually need any entertainment, they're learning just by looking at light and shadow and anything around them

I was advised that Newborns are getting used to the world and learning all the time, even just by looking around. If you think about it, they have been in the womb for 9 months so anything other than their hands is new... even sounds like birds, cars, people talking etc are all new. i’ve been told its best to let them just feel their way and talk/sing to them as too much activity can actually over stimulate them!

Newborns? No, toddler yes.

Yes my baby girl gets bored a lot now she's just under 2 months

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I feel the EXACT same way. My baby is only 3 weeks and I feel like it’s eat, awake for 20 min, sleep 2 hours (or more), diaper changes in between and repeat 😭

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Completely normal and good. It won’t last forever 😉 Enjoy it! Soon you won’t get any rest 🙈

Nooooo! They are not bored they are happy content. Enjoy the rest as it doesn’t last forever. You can still do different activities during awake time (singing,reading,musical instruments,you can buy these books with patterns which they really like to look at.....etc) but let baby chill there is no need to over stimulate them even being awake is hard work for them. X

They don't develop object permanence for a few months, and have no long term memory until 5/6 months so the toys are brand new every time they look at them don't worry they are having fun

Totally, I feel so guilty that he is laying by himself 😩😩😩 and just looking at the wall

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Great idea, thank you!

My newborn is quite happy to sit there and look around, everything fascinates him😂 in fact, if i interrupt his sitting and staring time by trying to stimulate him with a book or something, he falls asleep😬 Every baby is different but, i think most would be entertained by a potato at this point. Everything is brand new and fascinating to them, they don’t need much more than to be spoken to and be at an angle where they can look around

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😂 That happened the other day. I was so excited to read to her and she gave me this look like...omg mom shhhh... and then knocked out

Enjoy the newborn stage & not having to entertain your child every waking moment. Your baby is not bored, they are learning & taking in the world even if you don’t realize it. Now my son 10months & its difficult to do anything for myself

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Yes I concur with this!

Yes, enjoy it while you can! 😂 My one year old refused to be amused by anything and follows me around constantly 😅

I feel this as well! I try to mix it up a bit. (Different books, different toys, making different noises to make him laugh) I find being outside to be a good idea, as outside always changes (different noises, light, wind, smells) compared to inside which is generally the same.

Omg yes!! Everyday I feel this way too😂 my little one is 3 months and I'm like girl are you bored yet of those same 3 sheep that you stare at above your swing... but she always seems so interested still😂

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LOL!!! exactly!

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