• H
  • London, United Kingdom
  • a month ago

Comparing myself in pregnancy

I avoided social media for a long time, because I wasn’t in a healthy mind frame. When other people showed me their wall or page or what people were doing or wearing I got caught up in the comparing syndrome. I would then go to this insecure place, and act out on my eating disorder as a way to cope. I didn’t join any social network until I was in a healthy place mentally and physically. Now being pregnant, I notice myself going to that dark place again. I try on my “normal” clothes, and feel uncomfortable and fat. I see other women only gaining pregnancy weight in their stomach, while I feel out of control where my baby weight gets distributed. Physically I haven’t been sick, but emotionally I feel bipolar. I get caught up in the comparing game again wishing I could handle pregnancy with grace and ease like other women or wear “it” better. For so long I was able to control my food, workouts, emotional wellness to avoid slipping and now the very body I’m in doesn’t feel like my own. I used to hear women talk about postpartum depression, but rarely prepartum. Even writing this, auto correct doesn’t register the word and wants to change it. I haven’t taken many photos of me being pregnant because I’m super judgmental. My sister told me one of her regrets was not documenting her pregnancy and I thought, I’m traveling all over the world, I should have some reminder to share with my son one day. To remind him and me that just because I’m pregnant doesn’t mean I have to stay in the house, be in a protective bubble for 9 months, and prohibit me from living life; my life and his. For all the negatives I have about pregnancy one of the positives is realizing how strong my body really is. It took me being pregnant to realize what my body is fully capable of and how weak and deceiving the mind can be. I won’t be one of those women who says they love being pregnant because I don’t, but with every little kick my son gives me, I get out of the darkness and into the light.
  • K
  • Arlington, United States
  • 14 days ago

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  • A
  • Halifax, Canada
  • 21 days ago

If you can breastfeed the weight will come off quickly. I lost over 20 in the first 10 days and i had gained over 40lbs with my first and it only took around 2 months to lose it all with zero effort and I even had an unplanned c-section so I wasn’t very mobile the first 2 weeks and wasn’t able to exercise at all. When I was pregnant what I found helped was buying nice maternity clothes that accentuated my bump. Wearing normal clothes just made me feel fat. I even cried tears of joy in the fitting room when I got my first maternity outfit because I finally looked pregnant instead of fat. Pregnant again now and I still find the changes in my body hard but I know now that I’ll bounce back quickly. Good luck!

  • H
  • London, United Kingdom
  • 19 days ago

Thanks for sharing

  • H
  • Cumming, United States
  • a month ago

You're not alone in your feelings. I'm proud of you for stepping out there and sharing this. I can't imagine how hard your struggle is, but I'm so proud to see you reaching out. You're beautiful momma! Not because of your body, but because of who you are. You're about to be a little boy's momma. :) If you need help, don't be afraid to reach out and find it. Use your strengths. So proud of you for sharing your hard moment with us. ❤️

  • M
  • Arlington Heights, United States
  • a month ago

I needed this. I’m going through a mentally tough time right now with ‘comparing’ what I’m doing to everyone I see on social media and within my own ‘friend group’. You are beautiful and a strong mom. Thank you for sharing. You are not alone. 💕💕

  • L
  • Santa Clarita, United States
  • a month ago

I feel for you because your story resonates with me and reminds me of myself. Or at least how I feel about my body at times. Can’t say I’m too happy with the weight gain or how I feel but I’ve done all I can to embrace it. I’ve received tons of compliments from people but still, I just feel extremely gross. I want to hide at times and when people look at me, I just feel they’re judging me. With that said, I’ve kind of realized that I just need to love my body no matter what because over the years, it’s gone from very overweight to fit and strong and then to this phase of pregnancy. I plan to get right back into a healthier lifestyle once I deliver but for now, I need to think of baby first. I can’t say I’ve gotten off social media because I use it as an outlet and kind of like a journal. However, I don’t really fixated on all of the fit pregnant mamas I wish I could be like. I just think of how lucky I am to experience this and tell myself that my body will get to wherever it needs to be one day.

  • L
  • Santa Clarita, United States
  • a month ago

Yes, I’m keeping that in mind and reaching out to my friends who are trainers and health nutritionists. I know how to get healthy, I just need to do it. And obviously having some assistance along the way is always a positive. I figured, I’ll walk before I run and just start slowly. However, you’re absolutely right! Took 9 months to gain and might take me 9 months or longer to lose but eventually, I’ll be back to normal or better! As far as social media, maybe try looking at it in a way that’s more positive... like access to tips and fun ways to improve! I’ve started following influencers like TIU girls, one is pregnant and they post healthy recipes and workouts. Or an account that promotes self love of all body types. Hey, even you could be your own motivation and motivation to others by sharing your story.

  • H
  • London, United Kingdom
  • a month ago

I’ll tell you 3 weeks post baby and the weight is coming off. Everyone told me it would be I thought they were being nice. I want my pre-baby weight now, but it took 9 months to gain and it will take time to lose. Just continue to be honest where you’re at and not feel guilty or shameful about it

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