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So tired 💤

Not really a question, just need to vent!...Why is it that babies will only sleep in the things they’re “not recommended” to sleep in?! 🥱😴 I am so tired & he’s fast asleep in his sleepyhead... yet as soon as I put him in his next to me crib he’s awake & crying 🥺
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I believe they are used to our smell. I noticed I put my clothes next to my babies they sleep better.

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I hear you Mama and I’m in the exact boat! Ending love and support!!❤️

I stressed about where my first child slept and he slept awful and didn't sleep through the night til he was over a year old. My second slept on a swing til she was 11 months old. Now my third sleeps wherever he wants at first it was his bouncer now it's a swing.

Aww I feel you! I nearly lost my mind from sleep deprivation the first months with my baby. She would only sleep on her belly so at some point I gave in but I wouldn’t recommend because I would wake up every 5min to check on her. Hang in there momma :)

I coslept with my daughter, as long as I never had my back to here I was always very self-aware of her even while asleep.

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Same with me my daughter is 9 and my son just turned a month and the only way I could get any sleep is with him sleeping with me. I even bought a co sleeper and nope no luck he wants his mom all the time

As long as he’s sleeping somewhere safe, I say let the boy sleep. My little one sleeps in a lounger like this too. I gave up trying to force her into the bassinet, unnecessary stress on everyone.

I purchased the sleepyhead deluxe for my daughter. She loved it and I allowed her to sleep in it right from birth to even in her putting it in her cot up until 9 months. It was great because it provided her with a lot of comfort. As I did co-sleep with her it did create difficulties when she transitioned into her own cot and room at 18months. I know I should have transitioned her sooner into her own room, so she could get a better quality of sleep, routine and self-soothing pattern established. Worth thinking about perhaps.

It’s so hard! All my baby boy wants to do is sleep on me or next to me. We finally buckled and got the SNOO, it has been helping a lot but he still prefers to sleep with us.

Mine will only sleep next to me or my husband!

I feel your pain!! I am exhausted and worried my little one is not getting enough sleep either. Lack of sleep is torture. I’ve hardly got 3 hours tonight and 4 hours last night. X

My daughter sleeps in her sleepyhead at night, she’s now 11weeks. As she was in the NICU and they roll blankets around them, it’s just what she’s used to. I really don’t see any Risks with this product until baby can roll Over/ on their face. Without her sleepyhead her snuzz pod was massive! And she would do the stretch out; wake herself. However she is right next to me, as it’s in her side bed. She’s 30cm from me.

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Why would a baby overheat in this?

When my son was born this Feb I wanted him to sleep in his own bed so he wouldn't depend on being next to me all the time. So I put a piece of my clothing beside him and he would sleep longer if not all night alone. You can also try bathing him in the evenings close to bedtime and use those calming body washes and shampoos along with the calming body lotions which helped my son and might help your son. It relaxed him more.

Co sleep x

My doctor said co sleep is fine but only one parent in the bed 😊🥰❤️

My 15 week old. Hates the cot and sleeping on her back. Originally would only sleep on me. Now she only sleeps next to me in my bed on her side. I always sleep on my side facing her in the 'c shape' with my arm im lying on out between her head and the pillow. And she's never on my husbands side as he's worried about squishing. I have got used to sleeping like this. Still trying the cot but sometimes the 'ideal' is not possible so have to try the next thing and make it as safe as possible

Aw so precious! It can be hard but time, practice and patience will be key in helping with this transition. How old is he? I can pass on some advice depending on age :)

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Babies are creatures of habit. If you keep putting them in an unsafe sleep space, that is what they will get used to and be comfortable in. You need to commit to a pack n play, bassinet, or crib to keep your child safe

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Human beings are mammals. We are biologically designed to sleep with our children. It is not a bad habit. It is natural 🥰. It is also absolutely beautiful! I could not think of anything better than cuddling my children to sleep and keeping them safe in my arms. I highly recommend you join the beyond sleep training project to learn more. It will change your life!

If you feel comfortable with bub sleeping in the sleepy head, then let that happen. I've had my girl sleeping in a nest in her cot from day 1 and ive never had a problem.

You’ve got to love how much mum shaming there is on this post! Especially on a forum that is designed to support mums. 1. I’m pretty sure everyone knows the advice that babies should be in their own seperate bed in the same room as an adult caregiver for the first 6-12 months of their life 2. I’m pretty sure people don’t buy a baby nest with the plan to use it as their babies sole sleeping environment. 3. The all or nothing advice is great! For mums who have babies who sleep. Lora - use the sleepyhead for day sleeps all you want, if it means baby sleeps then that’s a positive. At night you could try co-sleeping, which if done correctly is very safe. With time you could work on one nap a day in the cot/bassinet. And increase this with time. To help baby get used to the cot/bassinet, spend some play time in their each day while they are awake to help build a positive association. White noise or a comforter may also help. Most important - ignore the mum shaming!

Thanks everyone - he is only 4 days old, so I’m not expecting the world from him as I can imagine most spaces are pretty scary right now ☺️ I do just find it a little ironic that all the things you buy, that baby does seem to get cozy & sleep in, aren’t recommended for safe sleep! He will get there when he’s ready 💙

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Hi Lora, my baby is 4months and sleeps in his sleepyhead every night in next to me crib beside me... like you I tried without it and he wasn’t having it! 🤦🏻‍♀️like everything with parenthood it’s about being sensible, they aren’t recommended in case of over heating so just make sure the room is the correct temp and gro back the right tog, there are lots of things not recommended that we do because we as parents will make the best choices for OUR children! I co-slept with my first which people also had a problem with so you just can’t win 🤷🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ Enjoy your little bundle and do what ever you think is right for you and your baby x

Hi we have the same issue at 20 days old, I’ve considered a sleepyhead but I can’t shake all the warnings from the health visitors and midwives.. our boy will only happily sleep chest to chest on us, the moment I’m he is on his back in a safe place he has a meltdown. The broken sleep for him means he has such erratic feeds he gets bellyache so that only exacerbates things, and he is rarely alert and awake he just wants food or to cry 💔 So nobody is sleeping much in our household! I’m hoping if I give him what he wants with the sleeping on me he will relax soon and be more open to sleep in his snuzpod?? Anyone found this?

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My little girl would only be on me ,she loves to be close to me, I used to not be able to put her down at all any time of day. She was the same as your little one & would only sleep on me on her front. But she did get better with age, she only started sleeping next to me not on me at 6weeks old, it was a similar time that she would even consider sleeping on her back & now she is 16weeks very hit & miss with the cot I would say 80% of the time she is in bed with me but manages a couple of hours a night in the cot which is a massive improvement. So he will get better with time slowly :)

Hi Leah, congratulations! It can be hard in the beginning for sure, but keep trying to introduce the cot, even laying him down when he is just about asleep and be there to comfort and settle him. Are you swaddling him? I never swaddled either of my kiddos but some babies love it, and it can be a way to really help them get used to sleeping in a cot rather than chest to chest. As amazing as it is to have our babies so close to us, you have to make sure you are getting sleep as well!

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