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The assumption that one is plus sized because they eat crap is soooo stupid and ignorant! Like people have different appetites and bodies and histories! You can’t judge. I eat better than many of my thin friends. It’s exhausting!
It took 4 medical professionals before 1 of them actually said congratulations. We've been trying for 4 years, so the doom and gloom that seems to comes with being a bigger mum is getting me down!
I lost over twenty kilos in the year and a half before I got pregnant. Was at a really good weight, and now 4 weeks pregnant have already gained 3 kilos (6 pounds). Websites say 2-4 pounds in the first three months! What have I done?! It's so discouraging.
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I feel your pain, it felt like my doctor's were trying to find a reason to induce even when I was healthy. I ended up having a c section at three weeks early because I was "high risk" aka "not the right weight"
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Unfortunately, they used my blood pressure as an excuse (after a longer walk in from a parking deck plus nerves) while I was tracking at home much lower (and told them).
Omg that's atrocious. I'm so sorry. They can do that??
I’m going to go against what most people have said, but being overweight is bad for your health, especially in the current pandemic where being overweight/obese is proven to cause more complications with Covid. Rather than be annoyed at people for looking out for you and your health you should take their advice on and be a healthy weight for yourself and your future child/children
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I call bullshit entirely. Why are 90% of the covid patients healthy or fit then if they are so healthy and won’t get covid? You need to go somewhere worse with your judgement attitude. Also do research covid doesn’t give a shit who you are what you do. Look at the rock, Tom hanks, babies for Christ sake are getting it. Doctors nurses. You are completely clueless!
Please take your fatphobia somewhere else. No one has been giving me advice. They begin and end with "you're fat." That's an observation.
People are always going to think they can have an opinion about your life and your baby’s. I ignore them! My cousin is a health nut and she’s up my butt everyday telling me to change my diet and stop eating meat and greasy food and goo for plant based etc. it’s annoying I just ignore her and continue my pregnancy journey with my babe 👶🏽.
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Right!! It's amazing that my siblings and I have the same genetic history but I'm the one getting flack for extra butter??
Eat them. Whilst you’re there, lemme help you. I’ll bring the hot sauce. ❤️ Joking aside, you just do you. As long as you’re drinking lots of water and eating the best you can, the rest of the world can go spin. ❤️
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Yeah I got it when I was pregnant. All I wanted was chocolate milk, taco bell, and soda and family members looked at me sideways. I literally told them, I was and am living my best healthy life because on the regular I don't eat these things all the time.
Totally random but I looked through your pics. . . Does that shit say needs more garlic?!! If so, I Need it lol. I got this my whole pregnancy from certain Drs, even though I lost 21 lbs my first trimester. Always with my BMI and weight on the charts. I have a few plus size friends who heart stuff too.
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Yeah, I own a seasoning company. 💜 I found it on Etsy once upon a time. It's incredible how concerned people who _said nothing_ before I was pregnant are now so concerned!
There are always "some people" who are always ready to give "free advice" 😅
Girl feels 100% 6 weeks and am hearing it. And only told like 4 people not even my husband or kids😢😥😰😡
My midwives told me at one point that I was gaining “excessive weight” but they were so unsympathetic of the fact that I just had knee surgery actually in my first trimester before I knew I was even pregnant. And the recovery for an ACL tear is 9-12 months so I literally couldn’t be that active I was in so much pain and on crutches 😂 gained 45 pounds and everything was fine but dang they were annoyingly concerned about my weight gain
I’m plus size too, I’ve also got gestational diabetes but also proved them all wrong as my bloods are perfectly controlled and I’ve only put 4lbs on and I’m 34 weeks pregnant on Wednesday. Ignore what the other people say, listen to medical advice and do the best you can for you and your baby and everything will be ok! Apart from a few small things I have had the best pregnancy and have never felt better xx
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You are doing great 💕 I can feel you, as I'm also plus size and there is always some pressure on me. "omg you are too fat to becoming pregnant" and After I got pregnant by the grace of Almighty they are like " take extra care of these and that+ so much suggestions 🙄" But me and my husband we don't bother, the only thing I'm thinking about baby that's it and from the very beginning of my pregnancy I'm trying my best to stay positive by taking own decisions 🌷
If it helps.. i have an average bmi and get bombarded with gestational diabetes warnings! Think everyone just wants you to be as healthy as possible regardless of your situation ❤ xx
You know what’s best for you and what you’ve done to take care of yourself and your baby. Don’t let other people’s negativity get inside of your head, pregnancy is hard and is different for every woman.
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I’m sure that must be tough, honestly I’m rude when people are rude to me. I’ll gladly let people know thanks but I did not ask for your opinion nor do I care to hear it 🙂
It's not the negativity that's getting me. It's their need to comment now. I've been plus sized since I was a teenager so it's nothing new and they didn't feel like they had to say anything before.
OHMYGOSHHH it’s so damn frustrating!! I’m so sorry that your going through this as well!! It’s like your trying your damndist but they just keep commenting on these shitty things. Like my doctor hasn’t said shit to me, keep your opinions to yourself!!!
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Oh Yes! My family has ALWAYS committed on my weight, it’s just gotten WAY worse since I got pregnant. Honestly they will ALWAYS find something to comment on. I lost 80 pounds last year and STILL they commented on how I need to be healthier and watch what I do, even though I was being extremely healthy, eating right, working out almost daily. I’m bigger always have been, most of my family is much smaller.
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I’m not sure if this helps at all but I’ve always had a smaller frame and family still have a lot to say about what I’m doing and what I’m eating. It’s really frustrating and we are doing the best we can, you’re right! 💗
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Oh, it definitely helps. Fatphobia is fatphobia!
I think it's awful that your friends and family are making you feel this way, and even worse for the women getting it from your care providers. I'm plus size and was so scared that I would get fat shamed while pregnant like I didn't deserve to be pregnant or have a baby since I was overweight but I thankfully didn't have that experience. I understand if family and friends are worried about your health if you were out eating mcdonald's everyday and of course that wouldn't be great for the baby. But there are many reasons that could contribute to weight gain and yes gestational diabetes can be more common in plus size women. I think you know your body and you will know how to take care of yourself through this pregnancy to make it the healthiest for yourself and your baby. If your doctor's are not supporting you with a positive environment at your appointments I would recommend a new doctor. My doctor was great and never made me feel uncomfortable for being overweight and was so supportive and I needed that.
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Thank you 💜 So far the only thing my Dr has said is make the calories happen and drink all the water I can. I've been down with morning (and noon and night) sickness most days. We're only going out for cravings really- the occasional chicken wing or ice cream.
I got this all through my pregnancy. I didn’t gain any weight during the pregnancy but I still got so many comments about watching what I ate, my midwife was so sure I’d have gestational diabetes she wanted to do the test again when it came back normal. I was also told I’d definitely need a c section but ended up having a natural birth. 🤷♀️
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Wow! I'm so glad to hear you got past the issue with your care providers. It gives me some hope.
All my early appointments with the midwife were like this and your bmi is higher than normal and this could go wrong etc. Made me feel awful and like I’m a big whale and the worst person for getting pregnant. Just ignore it now. They stopped mentioning it the later on I’ve got x
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Plus as long as your baby is healthy then that’s all the matters! Don’t let anyone else get you down about it, if you want to eat 10 choc bars then do it 😂 x
I still get that and im 20 weeks. Lol We do the best we can, I think people just care overly when your pregnant.
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Lol! Great 😬 If someone brings up gestational diabetes one more time...
Don't beat yourself up, that's one thing I wish I hadn't done. For me, I gained a lot of water weight so it could be that. If you are living healthy you will go back down once you have the baby, just make sure they get here healthy!