People disappear since pregnancy

Since I got pregnant I noticed I actually don’t have true friends. Everyone has stopped speaking to me that would usually do so and when I try to visit people or see anyone they make an excuse up and to be honest this is the loneliest I’ve ever been. I wish I had someone to share my pregnancy stories with and to have a good chat with or do something nice but I don’t. The only person is my mum and it is nice and everything still but sometimes I just want a friend. They say you get more friends when you become a mum but where do you even make them when you don’t have them regardless? Is anyone else actually having this problem? It’s driving me insane.

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Thank you everyone for messaging, its really nice hearing from you all it’s made my day reading all your comments 🥰 you have no idea how much I appreciate it

100% - even my close friends who are going to be godparents have distanced a little and don’t speak to me as much as they used to it’s sad but I think part of it is because having a child changes your priorities and puts you on a different level to them. I don’t think it’s malicious it just puts a little distance between us

I totally understand this .. and i know how lonely it can be .. message anytime for a good old chat about anything!! 😘

Oh Nat, can totally relate. At first I blamed covid for how I felt. But really I had no one to talk to and no one really wanted to know what I went through giving birth in lockdown was hard. I’ve come to the realisation that I’ve only got 1 friend that actually checks on me and asks how I’m feeling. I was always the friend that is there for them but sadly it’s not been reciprocated. Here if you want a chat 😊

Your circle changes when you become a mom. It’s sad but completely true. My friends, aren’t real friends

Oh Nat, I am so sorry you feel this way... the worst thing is I can personally relate to this so much... And I think it is clear to see you're not alone in feeling this way due to the amount of mums that use this app so we dont feel lonely...

I can relate, except I found this mostly true after having my baby. Being pregnant in the thick of covid had me (and many others) working from home and isolating from everyone anyways. I find myself being the one to reach out to friends to see them, but not visa versa like it used to be.

Im going through the same thing. My ex abandoned me after i got pregnant, i dont have any friends, and I just have my mom. This is definitely the lonliest I have ever felt, and I just want to hold my baby and feel that unconditional love

I think it happens to just about everyone unless your friends are really true friends. I noticed it so much with my first to the point where this pregnancy we've only told family not even announced it on social media as didnt want people coming outta woodwork to just be nosey! Can also message me if need to talk all things baby and pregnancy 😊 xx

Hey lady! Message me ANYTIME! And I’m not just saying that - I truly mean it ♥️

Hi girls, I’ve noticed this too 😐😷 so hurting and I don’t have my mum around so..yeah, text me if you want to share any of your experiences..

I can totally relate to this!!! This is definitly how I've felt too, I'm around too if you wana chat 🙂 Hope you're ok x

I found this - at first I thought it was down the covid restrictions but I’ve come to realise that I have literally one friend who has been there for me barring my mum and dad and partner When my friends went through their pregnancies I was always interested and made a point of asking if they needed anything or help and one on particular who is a single mum I thought would be like that with me but it’s like she is suddenly too busy for me I’m here also if you ever want to chat and share things ☺️ x