Moms in their 30’s
  • S
  • 5 months ago

When your son’s spirit is crushed 😭

My 13 year old son is a 7th grade middle school football player. He has played football since he was a 3rd grader. He’s always played the same positions and hardly ever sat out. This year is different. He goes to every practice and works hard, makes good grades, etc. They have had 3 games so far and he has played less than a minutes time. Their team has lost all 3 games by 30 points yet there are some kids they never play. Tonight we left the game and as we sat in the car the tears streamed down his face. He said to me “I want to quit.” The pain in his eyes and voice hurt this momma so bad. I want to hold him and take it all away. Tonight there game was already down 24 points down by the 2nd quarter and yet there are still the kids that didn’t get a minute of playtime. Just wanted to vent my frustration. If you haven’t been through this as a mom yet, I hope you never have to because it’s absolutely heart wrenching watching your child pain and not be able to do anything about it.
  • N
  • 5 months ago

This is time when he needs his mummy courage and guidance ... give him ur own example how u did manage similar but different situations in ur life

  • M
  • about 1 year ago

Life lessons, sometimes your the victor and sometimes your on the sidelines watching. It will be fine. These moments define us all. Not that it makes it easy, but this pain is necessary to grow. Good luck! 2021 will be better!

  • S
  • about 1 year ago

Completely understand that, but at the same time when the coach is doing this to several kids and even at practice. I didn’t buy my son all his stuff for football to literally watch people play. Sports shouldn’t be about who you know or what your name is. I will never agree with it they are making kids not want to play and that’s not right. Especially when the kids he had playing obviously are not great when they are losing games by 30 points each time. But I’m sure the coach doesn’t want to hurt his “star players” feelings by letting the other kids play and possibly when.

  • L
  • about 1 year ago

Unfortunately in these circumstances it can actually cause more harm to talk to the coach. It's not right, and one of the many reasons why I left the public education world. If your child used to get play time in games and all of a sudden isn't getting any, I would definitely ask the coaches. If they fire back and aren't professional or reasonable, take it up with the athletic director and the principal. (I'm assuming he plays for a school and not an extracurricular organization) One of the last coaches I worked with had a group of parents gang up on him about how he treated the players, and it looked as though he was going to lose his job over it. I'm not sure if he actually did.

  • j
  • about 1 year ago

That makes me so sad! I would be frustrated too.

  • S
  • about 1 year ago

It’s so sad to see a child’s spirit broken. Because of this he may never play after this year. I’m not big on letting my kids quit something they start. If it really seems to effect his mental health then I will definitely let him quit and then will explain to his coaches that his mental health is more important than a sport.

  • D
  • about 1 year ago

That is so discouraging to young athletes when coaches start playing favorites at such an early age. I would definitely question the coaches and bring it to their attention that he is no longer interested/has the desire to play anymore since he isn't playing anyways.

  • S
  • about 1 year ago

I should clarify that when the statement was made about asking he was saying that in general!

  • S
  • about 1 year ago

I want to but the coaches specifically said at the parent meeting “don’t ask why your kid isn’t playing, we know what we are doing and it’s what’s best for the team.” Well it must not be what’s best they have lost three games by 30 points each time. This is one reason I hate sports they don’t think about what they are doing to a child’s mental health. The other thing is these are seventh graders the majority of them won’t play any further than high school.

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