Am i a bad mom?

Pregnancy is not easy! Some have a harder time than others. Some like it more that others. Doesn’t make you a horrible mom or mean that you hate your baby. I can’t believe someone said that to you instead of offering how they could help. 😒

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Thank you

You are not wrong. I hated being pregnant, I hated my weight gain(70lbs), my body was not my own, couldn't sleep how i wanted, and moving hurt. But I love my baby girl, and being a mom. Hang in there momma!

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Thank you i am trying. I been so sick that i have only been able to gain 3 pounds after losing almost 20 pounds

If you keep losing weight and can't keep anything down seek medical attention.(your probably saying "duh") but I had a friend who kept throwing up everything she ate or drank. Eventually stomach pains put her into the ER with a ruptured ovary that had become tumorous. But once removed she had an easier pregnancy.

I was always that girl who wanted to be pregnant, and thought that I would love it so much, but to be honest I was pretty miserable the whole time except for the happy moments when I would feel her moving or be reading to her and she would respond or something like that. But it really is hard :-( it doesn't make you a bad mom! Loving pregnancy is just not for everyone!

I enjoyed pregnancy - but I have close friends who absolutely despised it and are amazing parents. Whomever is saying that to you couldn't be any more wrong. Pregnancy is really freaking hard and I would hope anyone who has experienced it would be understanding. Nothing you stated even remotely makes you a bad mom!

Who ever told u that needs to really shut their darn mouth. Pregnancy is hard on a new mother to be. Im on my 3rd pregnancy now and it’s hell. Pregnancy can be tuff, no sleep, throwing up at the beginning &/or through the whole pregnancy. When hitting ur 3rd trimester... feeling like ur carrying a bowling ball between ur legs, Back pain,vigina swollen, pelvic pain, joint pain,hands &/or feet swollen, eating like a cow, mood swings, etc.....!!!!! We mothers HATE it. But we all love our bundle of joy that we carry inside. Once ur baby is out in ur arms ur words will be “I’ll do it all over again” with tears down ur face of happiness.the baby I’m carrying now has gave me so much problems worser than my others. I been in so much pain ever since I ended up,found out I’m on high risk. And just now found out I’m contracting but my baby won’t diolate me. So technically he doesn’t want to come out into this crazy world lol. So I have to have induced and have a pill. So no... ur not a bad mother. It’s 1,000% normal

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Hahah I know right, that’s what I told my husband. I told him today that it feels like I have a 3 month old inside me, bc my baby kicks SO... hard in my ribs and punches SO.. hard in my pelvis bones

Haha i dont blame him for not wanting to come out. It is a very crazy world

That is a horrible thing for someone to say to anybody. Seriously, not everybody enjoys pregnancy. I don't enjoy it at all and I am pregnant with my 3rd. I am an active person and don't like the restrictions of pregnancy or the headaches, swollen feet and nausea but still found it worth doing over. I love my kids and can't imagine life with out them.

It does not make you a bad mommy. However as we all have shared things about our pregnancy or have shared parenting styles we want to do people have also judged us as well. Be mindful to not share everything especially if you don’t want to hear feedback from people. You’ll learn that you will have to do that more and more as you grow your family that outsiders aren’t really ones to share with.

Absolutely not! I'm pregnant with my second and it has been miserable.

It's fine when I found out I was pregnant with my son I was so over being pregnant. I loved him and wanted to hold his so bad. But I was so over being pregnant.

Ive been pregnant 3 times and hated it everytime. Its a miserable experience but the outcome makes it more than worth it. Whoever told you that is an idiot... dont feel bad. You know you love your baby and thats really all that matters.

Honestly I hate it I have no clue how my mama did this four times so more power to her!!!! I already had stomach problems before I was pregnant so I am sick all day everyday and it is beyond morning sickness!!! I’ve always said I’ve wanted two kids but I don’t think I can do this again. I love my baby girl and can’t wait for her to get here but this has been so hard for me!! Hang in there girl you got it an tune out the negativity!!! Being pregnant is rough and we are strong enough to do it but that don’t mean we have to like it! So hold that head up☺️

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If it makes you feel better, I had hyperemesis, puked a dozen times a day every day, lost 70lbs in 8 months... and after she was born it came to me that I would do that and go through it 100 more times to get her again. The whole pregnancy I was sooo miserable and convinced I’d never consider doing it again. You forget quickly.

I have hated every moment of being pregnant. I love my daughter, but I am so over this pregnancy. I was over it in my 1st trimester. Pregnancy is a struggle. Every female who says she enjoyed being pregnant is lying. I'm about 99.9% sure of that. You're sick, bloated, gassy, and irritated. You feel gross, and sweat so much. I had horrible crams throughout the whole pregnancy. Your body is no longer YOUR body. It's a very big change that happens very quickly and you have no say over how your body reacts to building this tiny human being. So screw those people.

You’re not horrible. Lots of people hard being pregnant. It’s a normal feeling for some and doesn’t make you a bad mom! 💓

I hated being pregnant. It's not an enjoyable experience for me. I don't miss it and I'm relieved it's all over. I'm also morbidly afraid of child birth. I adore my son and never resented him for being created inside of me lol. Whoever told you that is mean. I would not take that horrible comment to heart. Some women enjoy pregnancy some don't. It's normal not to.

This is me too!!! I’m 32 weeks and found out at 3 weeks. I’ve been sick my ENTIRE pregnancy. First it was morning sickness, then pneumonia, then pleurisy caused by pneumonia, and then I caught a very severe cold, and now I’m on bedrest with preeclampsia until I give birth. When I tell you I’ve NEVER been sick like this.I hated being pregnant. The doctors said it was because my immune system is being shared. It was sooo depressing 🙄. But as long as the baby wasn’t effected I would just tough it out. You can do it. And now that I feel better I can fully enjoy my pregnancy. I actually feel lighter and move easier at 8 months than I have my whole pregnancy. I just don’t think some people’s bodies are fully prepared for pregnancy lol. Hopefully it’ll get better for you too 🤗

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Hopefully ❤️❤️. Stay positive and remember it’ll all be worth it once peanut is here

Thank you. I am really glad it is getting better for you. I been on bedrest most of my pregency cause they were afriad i would lose the baby with how fast i was losing weight. I really hope it gets better soon

Absolutely not! I HATED being pregnant the whole. I love my son but pregnancy sucks.

🤣 I dont know who told you that but they are crazy. You can hate being pregnant its normal sweetheart. I hated being pregnant when I was around 6 to7 months. Its tiring, exhausting, and just awful sometimes but also wonderful. Just ignore them.

No, I don’t really like pregnancy lol! But I already know I love my little grape 💕

Not a horrible mom at all! I love my little girl but find pregnancy hard and frustrating daily - I dislike it, too! You know you love your son, so don’t let anyone tell you different.

Of course it is okay to hate being pregnant!! I hated it so much in my third trimester. There are so many women that hate pregnancy that love motherhood and are fantastic mothers. Don't be so hard on yourself. You know in your heart of you love your baby or not.

I hated being pregnant due to my horrible morning sickness the whole entire pregnancy. I loved my son while I was hating being pregnant, and I love him now that he is 3 weeks old! This does not make you a bad mother at all, and the people telling you that should be ashamed of themselves. Keep up the good work momma, there is a light at the end of the tunnel!!

Whoever told you that is just a horrible person. I hate being pregnant so much. I love my son to death but I can’t wait for January to be here. The sickness, then I wound up with kidney stones and an infection. I’m good.😂😩

No!!! Not at all. Pregnancy is exhausting and incredibly difficult. I’m glad you shared this because many women feel and experience this while pregnant are feel shamed in sharing this. You are not a bad mom you are human experiencing one of be most physically and emotionally difficult things your body can experience.

I don’t think I’ve ever met a woman who hasn’t hated being pregnant at one time or another. I’m currently 31 weeks pregnant and counting down the days! Heartburn, back aches, no sleep, weight gain? Yeah, no thanks. Love my babies but hate being pregnant. You’re an amazing mom and are already making a huge sacrifice by growing that beautiful babe with your body! Hang in there!

I hated being pregnant. 40 weeks are too darn long. Symptom-wise I’m alright. Just mild morning sickness for first 16 weeks or gestational diabetes. My least favorite part of being pregnant is the change of my body. Don’t misunderstand, I love my kids. But, after 3 kids, my stomach is so saggy and my once nice perky boobs are super saggy. I gained from size 6 to 12. To make it worse, Facebook often shows “looking back” pictures of me from 10 years ago, when I was still hot. LOL 😆

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Yeah my husband says he doesn’t care how I look, but it’s hard for me to feel confident being naked in front of him. I tend to cover up my boobs with my arms or make sure the room is dark enough. I can’t wait to be able to workout again to shed this extra weights.

Growing up i was "lucky" as people told me i was really skinny (ribs sticking out skinny) so now that i am weighing a lot more then i ever have in my life my self esteem is sucky even though i know it will be worth it and my fiance makes sure i know i am beautiful. Some days are harder then others

I literally hated being pregnant so much that I will not be having a second child.. my pregnancy was filled with complications, pain, and delivery was terrible bc her heart stopped.. people told me the same thing. “You don’t love your baby?! How can you hate being pregnant” nope! I am obsessed with loving my child and waaaay more moms hate pregnancy then they like to admit. Lol

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That sounds really scary o.o i am sorry that happened

Thank you. I mean everyone has different issues and different pain tolerance and feelings.. just like how some people like Chinese food and some people hate it.. that don’t mean you hate Chinese people ya know? You just have a different feeling on the issue.. pregnancy isn’t supposed to be easy (: it’s emotionally and physically testing! But ultimately the outcome is so great bc you get this cute little human!

That don’t make you a bad mom that just means you could just be ready to be un-pregnant that means go through carrying your son/daughter for 9 months in my case I carried my daughter for 8 months

Pregnancy is really hard!! Don’t feel bad.

You are so far from being a bad mum! Pregnancy isn’t all the bells and whistles some ppl say it is. Your growing a human, that shits hard!! But you’re practically a superhero! Keep smiling and don’t let anybody ever tell you that you’re horrible.

I suggest telling those people, politely yet firmly, to go fuck themselves. This is your body and it’s going through changes you have no control over. I dare say it’s fair enough to not be stoked about all of them.

Heck I as a mother to a Gorgeous 19 year old woman sometimes makes me feel like I’m a bad mother for not being able to provide for her as much as I want to and ever since my daughter was a baby my mom and step-father has to raise her for me because we felt like I was un-capable to give my daughter the things that she needed at the time and to give her now my mom has had to tell me over and over that I am a good mom because I have never left my daughter or that I have walked out of my daughter’s life a lot of times I don’t feel like my daughter’s mom I feel like I’m my daughter’s sister because my mom and step-dad were the ones who raised my daughter 😭 Okay I’m going to stop weighting because this is making me feel very emotional my daughter is my everything she’s the only reason I live and breathe and that I go to work 2 days of every week

Omg no you are not a bad mom. I absolutely hated being pregnant. I was sick the whole pregnancy.. nauseous all the time, back pain, always tired. It sucked. But I love my daughter with all of me. She's literally my everything. Growing a baby is hard. It's not all all rainbows and sunshine. I'm sure youll be a great mom!

Whoever told you that stuff is the horrible person. You're going to go through many physical and emotional feelings during pregnancy and not all of them will be positive. I was sick for much of my pregnancy, unmarried, and just not in a great place and I definitely love my son and always wanted him.

I don't think that's what that means at all. Alot of women I know, especially younger ones, felt that way. I felt that way at first. But not because I was upset about it or anything like that but because I knew how much more stress it was gonna bring to someone who already stresses so much!!

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Yeah ☹️ I can see that. Mine seems to be going pretty smoothly thankfully so I can't imagine what you're having to deal with. I'm sorry. 😕

Only reason i hate it is because of how bad my symptoms are

No way. I hated being pregnant as soon as my first trimester was over. I spent the rest of my pregnancy wondering if I was doing the right thing and if I would be a good enough mom. I was so miserable by the time 30 weeks came, I was doing anything I could to get her here. But as soon as she comes out all your doubts will fade, I promise. It really does come natural after the first week or two. The fact that you’re wondering if you’re gonna be a bad mom, means you’re off to a good start.

I hated pregnancy but I love my kids ! Absolutely doesn’t make a difference Pregnancy is different for everyone!

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I had an easy pregnancy but hated it the whole time lol i did IVF so i was nauseas from the meds and hormones .. i had the flu for 2 weeks... i was in my third trimester when the heatwave came and our ac broke..i was sweaty all the time and i never want to be pregnant again...... it’s ok to hate being pregnant ...

I found out when I was two weeks pregnant in the er. I so told them they were lying to me.... but sure enough they weren’t. I hated being pregnant this last time up until when the end was drawing closer. Keep your head up. You are for sure not a bad momma. You are making a little person as I was told.

I hate being pregnant but I’m far from a horrible mother. I love my baby more than life itself. I don’t like a small human moving around in MY stomach!! But i can’t wait till my small human is out moving around on her own. That does not make you a horrible mother. Whoever said that is stupid, period point blank.

Not gonna lie, I despise being pregnant. But I dont go through with it because i like or dislike it. I go through with it because I love being a mom, I love my children. No matter how much pain, Or how miserable I feel while being pregnant the result of that beautiful miracle at the end is worth every moment. Not liking being pregnant doesnt make you any less of a mother, nor make it seem like you wont be a good mom or hate your child.

I couldn't stand being pregnant, especially near the end. Women who love being pregnant kinda weird me out (no offense to anyone lol). My little one was born two weeks ago and I love her to pieces! You are not a bad mom just because you hate being pregnant!❤

It's okay to dislike certain stages. I hated having a young baby 🤷 doesn't mean I won't do literally anything for my daughter and it doesn't make me a bad mom. People are going to give you a lot of unsolicited opinions now, any that come with judgement should be immediately ignored. I wish that person had been more empathetic toward you.

Don’t ever listen to people who spew negativity like that. Your baby and pregnancy itself are two separate things. There were times I loved being pregnant like feeling baby move, and a license to wear stretchy pants anywhere. But on a whole I was miserable. I had horrific heartburn constantly and had to take medication. I had serious back pains from a previous injury that the pregnancy was inflaming. There was no comfortable position and it felt like I was always out of breath. You can hate being pregnant and absolutely love your baby. ❤️❤️

Pregnancy is very hard on ones' body. Everyone takes it differently. But that does not show how you feel for your son!

It is natural to feel that way. I had high risks pregnancies so I was extremely tired of being pregnant. That doesn’t make you a bad mom

Girl i hated being pregnant only cause when you aren’t use to your body changing so much especially if this is your first , it gets overwhelming and kinda hits you hard . Don’t listen to the ppl who say you are a bad mom cause you don’t like being pregnant cause i promise you the minute i heard my baby boys cry 5 days ago , i have never felt more alive 💙 you clearly love your son and want to be a mother because you are doing all the right things to make sure he is healthy and so are you . Wish you all the best !

What is wrong with people and their negative comments? This can be postpartum mommy, and you may be having some strong emotions that you have no control over. YOU ARE NOT A BAD MOM. You have valid feelings and there are parts of pregnancy that completely sucks. I hated the shortness of breath, the mood swings, the freaking spontaneous nausea. But there are many things you will love, like hearing the babys heartbeat, the nurses and doctors saying your peanut is healthy, the kicks and rolls, and the anticipation of your peanut being in your arms real soon. Focus on those and try looking up more things to be more comfortable. Pregnancy is not always rainbows, and whoever says otherwise is a liar. You got this tough momma! This is only temporary.

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Thats when you look at them and say. Really? so when are you expecting. I had people who could not believe I was 8month preggy....it was like...seriously do you not see the swollen bump on my stomach! how do you miss that? is it the green apron?

People are mean and just don’t care what comes out of there mouths heck I’m not even pregnant and have a 19 almost 20 year old in College and I have people coming up to me at work asking me am I pregnant or when is the baby due Ugh

No your normal 😊👌🏿❤️

Oh please hun. I hated my pregnancy because of varicose veins. Between it and morning sickness, I was wishing it was over. You can love your baby with all your soul and still hate being preggy. For me the varicose veins made it hard to stand and work to where I nearly blacked out 2x. I hated not sleeping on my stomach and getting sick off my own perfume oh hell no. Just because you hate pregnancy doesn't mean your a bad mom or hate your kid. It means your body and you dont like eachother thats it! Nothing to do with being a mom or your son. Its just you and your body are going Body: Hey i dont like what you ate. You: You wanted it. Body: yeah well here you go. You: Oh no not again...we need to talk about this. Body: nope, i win.

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Exactly! Our bodies are amazing till they start to hate our food choices. My daughter made me hate Chamomile tea...I was not pleased....Then made me crave butter pickles. i hate butter pickles...never ate them ever!

Haha that conversation between me and my body has actually happened before

I love my girls but I HATED pregnancy. Couldn’t wait until it was over.

I detest pregnancy to the core! You’re fine. My children are my life, but I truly hate pregnancy.