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Honest post. I just had a complete meltdown. 😫

I am only 11 weeks pregnant today and I was just getting ready for lunch with my parents and none of my pants would button...which led to me literally being so angry but all I could do was fall to the floor and cry. I am finding myself comparing myself to everyone else at their 11 week mark and I feel like I shouldn’t already be too big to button my pants. I know comparison is a horrible, cruel, thief of joy, but I am human and it’s hard. I also know that I’m making a baby, and that is a beautiful miracle, but real talk...this part is hard for me. I don’t have a pregnant belly, just a bloated big belly that looks like I’ve been hitting the donuts too hard (and I’ve actually been eating really healthily) My fiancé..bless his heart has been so sweet and trying to comfort me but it’s just getting to me today. Has anyone else struggled with this?? I know I’m being dramatic, and my hormones are HOLY HELL..on another level, but it’s not fun having to wear yoga pants to lunch because nothing else fits. You know?? I feel like once I actually have a belly that looks like I’m pregnant it will be easier for me, and I’ll totally embrace it. However the in between...that’s what’s getting me. So proud of all of you, and love getting to see yalls posts and comments!! Sending so much love and kindness your way!! 🖤
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I put on a ridiculous amount of weight when pregnant. I go from a healthy, active woman to sick, exhausted and disabled. I can’t fit in my clothes almost straight away and have to go up several sizes throughout the pregnancy. Being pregnant is hard, your body changes. Don’t stress. Getting to 11 weeks is good. Most ladies need to start wearing maternity stuff, or at least lose clothing around this time. In a couple of weeks you’ll have a proper bump, so get some nice maternity stuff.

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Thank you so much! I needed to hear that. 💓

Girl I couldn't button my pants at 8 weeks due to some serious bloating. I just took it in stride and improvised (left pants unbuttoned, held together with a rubber band). In the end I gained just over 20 lbs and went back to my prepregnancy weight within a couple months of giving birth (5'6" and 125 lbs). Don't beat yourself up. It's all temporary!

I found it massively uncomfortable from 9 weeks onwards (at first just any kind of pressure around where any sort of jeans etc would sit were almost unbearable!) the bloat is real though so don’t worry about how you look, you are growing a human inside you! If I could go back and give myself some advice it would be “it’s not too early to invest in maternity bottoms!” Order a few (New Look have a great range of jeans!) and just order the size you already were/are, don’t be tempted to go up because then they just fall down which is suuuuper annoying and impractical. This sounds dramatic but honestly changed my whole mood and made me feel more myself again. Amazon do cheapish maternity leggings which I did order bigger than normal looking at the reviews. Just get in them now and be comfortable. I don’t know why all jeans aren’t made with a nice comfy band around now 🤷🏼‍♀️😂

Hi I’m 9 weeks and feel exactly the same 😭 I have had to forget about my jeans already due to bloating and weight gain. I’ve bought bigger clothes to make myself feel better in this transition period to actually having a bump!! I completely agree on how difficult it is early on before you actually get a bump. Fingers crossed things will get easier!!

I had to buy maternity jeans at 11 weeks too cuz nothing would fit! Lol and I looked like id just eaten a big dinner for like the first 25 weeks 😂 it is normal! ❤️

You are so far from being alone!! I would only reiterate what these amazing women have already said to you, because it’s all so true! I’ve been a fitness fiend for most of my life and seeing my body change is the hardest part of pregnancy for me. My heart knows I’m supposed to be gaining healthy weight, but my brain can’t seem to get past the increasing number on the scale. Believe in your miracle and continue to have hope, and always have Fre (alcohol-free wine) nearby. We’ve got your back!!

Y’all are amazing!!! Thank you so much! I am so grateful for this network of amazing women to be able to reference. Y’all have brought me so much peace and understanding.

I was in really, really good shape when I was pregnant with my son, and I showed IMMEDIATELY! My very good friend who was also very fit and built almost exactly like me and due 3 weeks later didn’t show until past her 20 week point. It was so strange and disheartening ... I know how you feel. BUT- little did I know until later that she was constantly paranoid that something was wrong with the baby bc she wasn’t showing and it kept her up at night. Point is, everyone body is so different; some people’s uteruses grow towards their back bone, some people’s go immediately out, low and forward. Hang in there mama. I will say the best thing I did was FINALLY buy myself some CUTE maternity pants. Everything fit in all of the right places and I looked so much better than making myself feel self conscious cramming my bump into regular pants ❤️

This was the WORST part of pregnancy for me. I complained to my husband all the time that I’d rather just pop and finally look pregnant instead of just fat. It was infuriating. Best piece of advice: go buy some maternity pants. I put it off for SOOOOO long because I thought they’d be ugly and I felt like I shouldn’t be so big or so uncomfortable or so whatever already. Once I finally cracked and bought them I was so much happier

My trousers started to feel tight from the very beginning probably 6-8 weeks because of the bloating. I just wore skirts and didn’t do the zip all the way up and my top covered it 😆 I didn’t get a noticeable bump for months and just felt fat so I know exactly how you feel.

Bloating is the curse of the first trimester and a very real thing most women go through - just not the models in magazines! I also never felt like i had a neat bump but just that i looked fat. I still have rolls on top of my bump and I'm 22 and a half weeks. It's just pregnancy. Sometimes you'll fit into those jeans and sometimes you won't. Sometimes your belly will balloon with fluid and sometimes it'll go down and you'll actually be able to make out a bump! Try to find humour in it, i find that helps me :)

I was sooooo bloated from around 9 weeks! Nothing fit me at all, I’ve been in leggings since and I am now 27 weeks. I tried to get into a pair of jeans around 10 weeks and when I sat down they actually ripped and I sat and cried for ages and didn’t even end up going out that day 😂🤦🏼‍♀️ trust me hun it doesn’t get any better, just gotta try get used to it xx

I am also at eleven weeks and bloating so much. I have always had a lot of body confidence problems, and a coworker even commented that I 'looked fat' last week. I am excited to have an actual bump because I think that will feel different, whereas at the moment I just feel fat. I am just trying to focus on the fact that there is a literal baby in there, and my body is bound to go through some changes, and I am just living in my stretchy tights and dresses.

Girl!! That was me at 6/7 weeks.. you're not alone! I've been in maternity jeans and T-shirts for almost 2 months and I'm just about 12 weeks!

O Katie I’m so with you here! My first pregnancy not sure I even made it to 8 weeks so I think you’ve done well. Go get a few new clothes that do fit and make you feel good xx

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It’s okay to have a meltdown, sometimes we need to cry and let out all of our emotions. At my 11 weeks I was the same, it just looked like I stuffed myself with donuts instead of looking pregnant. I would use a rubber band on my pant and looser shirts. I wish I would of bought maternity clothes, I didn’t because I thought I wouldn’t need it, but by the time I was ending 2nd entering 3rd trimester I had many breakdowns because nothing fit me 😩😩😩 keep ur head up girl ☺️ your doing great

This is the worst. I’m so sorry but it was exactly the same for me. You get no “street cred” for being pregnant yet, yet you’re having to deal with so many changes and just want to cry all the time. This too shall pass, but know that you’re growing a human life inside you, and that in itself if pretty freaking amazing. Hang in there! It will get better.

Bless you thats totally normal there's no way I would have got into pre-pregnancy pants at 11 weeks, baby is still tiny at that time but there's soooo much bloating

Y’all are so kind!!!! All of you have made me feel so much better.

I’m 10 weeks and already can’t fit any of my clothes and it’s been like this for about 3 weeks so do not feel abnormal!! I’ve been struggling with my body image more than I ever have in my entire life!!!!!

Completely normal to have a meltdown over clothes. I found out I was pregnant around 6 weeks and before that my pants were feeling tight. I jus my though bloating because my period was on its way. I lived in leggings after I found out I was pregnant and maternity work pants. The shirts didn’t become a problem until around 20 weeks when they looked like cropped tops and hugged me way too much lol. I had a meltdown when my bras didn’t fit anymore and were way too uncomfortable. I lived in sports bras.

I felt the same way..I get you

I think we all had this moment - btw, looping a hair band through the button hole will let you wear your pants. There is this idea that pregnancy is cute, beautiful goddess-ness when most of the time it's bloating, shoes not fitting, and farting loudly in Target.

I couldn’t button my jeans from around 9/10 weeks so your not alone. I just looked bloated constantly. Comfy leggins and nice floaty tops/shirts is what I wore

The in between is so frustrating!! The thing I found helped was just buying a couple of items that I could wear all the time in a size bigger as can be used after birth too. It made me more comfortable and eased my personal feelings of just looking like a frump! I must admit though once my my bump arrived I loved it. For the first time I didn’t feel anxious wearing fitted dresses. I’m 5 weeks with bubs no2 and already look 12 weeks. So just got my size 16 leggings out to feel more comfortable! Xx

I'm 7 weeks and I live in tights. I have no idea if I'm showing, I'm bloated or I've put on covid kilos. I had a breakdown yesterday too because my favourite jumpsuit didn't fit. Don't beat yourself up over it. 💜💜 xx

Girl, I’m 15 weeks and already wearing maternity pants. I’ve always worked out and eaten healthy but pregnancy is a different beast. Trying to just go with it and accept that our bodies are capable of amazing things.

I can totally relate to how you're feeling. I couldn't fit into my jeans from 8 weeks. I was holding them together at the button with a hair bobble. It was so stressful because I'd agreed with myself that I wouldn't buy any maternity clothes until 12 weeks just in case anything happened. By 10 weeks even the hair bobble was no match for the bloat. I was living between 2 pairs of sweatpants. My husband helped me to realise that being comfortable and confident in what I was wearing was more important than planning for the worst case scenario. My first pair of maternity jeans were like a gift from heaven! It was just so nice to wear them!! Im 15 weeks now, I've not put on any weight (actually 2 pounds down thanks to nausea) yet but still can't fit into most of my pre-pregnancy wardrobe. I've got a basic maternity wardrobe now from h&m and ebay. There's not a single item I regret buying. I know it can feel too early to wear maternity but honestly, take the plunge. It really will make the world of difference x

Same!! Try wearing dresses.

I definitely couldn’t button my jeans at 11 weeks! Just put on a pair of leggings, take a deep breath, and remember you’re pregnant 🤰 of course you can’t button your pants! Sending ❤️

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I can't wear jeans anymore either I just stick to the leggings they go with pretty much everything 😊 x

I feel hideous and cannot convince myself otherwise. I hate seeing the teeny tiny maternity models in adds. Why not me!?! I know better than this but my rational self has seemingly disappeared.

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