• C
  • Buckhannon, United States
  • 2 months ago

Losing my Religion

Any SAHM’s that constantly hear sly comments about staying at home? And for the FIRST time from my husband.. because he works so so much. 6 days a week, at least 12 hour days. And he mentioned that I don’t have to do anything........ I don’t do nothing. We as a family, me him and our daughter moved states away from everything we knew. No family, no friends for this job opportunity for him, for our family. The comment makes me feel like he thinks I don’t contribute to our family.. that sucks pretty bad. I am considering going back to work but only if I can move back home.. have any of y’all had guilt of being a stay at home momma? ☹️
  • K
  • Auburn, USA
  • 7 days ago

I use to feel bad and inadequate. But then I remind myself I clean, laundry, care for my kids, home work, and now dogs! My SO did that to me so one day I decided for a entire week I did nothing. He was pissed told me what happened I told him you said I dont do anything so this is what it looks like when I do nothing! Never said it to me again. And we cleaned our house that weekend together. He appreciates me now

  • L
  • Knik-Fairview, United States
  • a month ago

We have four kids. Twin infants. My husband is very supportive of me staying home.. Usually. But every once in awhile he will have an especially bad day at work and hey a hair up his butt about me "not doing anything" or "sitting around all day" while he works. 🙄 Yeah. With twin infants a toddler and a 5yo I do nothing? Lol. I get more mad about it than feeling guilty. My mom also likes to remind me constantly how lucky I am that I get "just stay home". Yeah. I could work. And then we'd have a ridiculously high daycare bill and strangers raising our kids.

  • I
  • Fort Mill, United States
  • a month ago

Men have no idea! They think we just roll out of bed whenever we want to, put on a show for a kid, and let them sit there all day while we do our mani, pedi’s or whatever the heck else we do to pamper ourselves. And that’s because I have noticed how my husband is when I leave two kiddos with him, to catch up and contribute on the weekend. I’m like “u have no idea what I go thru daily, cuz I see u barely doing much on the weekend with and for them, so no wonder u think this is easy”.... and honestly I was also that way before having kids. I would say “stay at home mom? How hard can it be?!?” Where sometimes now I wish I was back at work instead! Hahaha. Cheer up mama! As long as ur kiddo is happy, going to the parks. Libraries. Play dates. Eats yummy food mama makes, that’s all it matters !!! Cuz clearly kiddo has stimulation and day packed with activities, that keeps u and the kiddo busy that’s all it matters. And screw what “some” of our husbands think! Cuz they won’t ever get it, till they switch roles

  • D
  • Coventry, USA
  • 2 months ago

No! I do not feel guilty, fuck that noise! Sometimes I wish I could work part time only because sometimes I wish I could get away for a bit and feel like an adult among adults. (Well yeah, could use the money too, but it's not even worth it if we have to pay childcare.) But my husband always tells me he could never do what I do and he works a lot too. He also does his share at home (obviously not as much as me since I am home). I'm lucky. But then again, he also doesn't have a death wish. 😂 I don't think he would survive implying that I do nothing with a toddler and a colicky 2 month old.

  • B
  • San Diego, United States
  • 2 months ago

Yes absolutely, where do I even begin. My husband even has the nerve to ask me what I did all day or things like that. He thinks I have a lot of time on my hands, however he has never been with our daughter alone more than 4 hours and the 1 time he was, he was begging for me to come home. He has zero clue as to how much work it is being a SAHM. You wear many hats. You do the laundry, the cooking, the shopping, the cleaning, you’re the nurse, the appointment maker, the teacher. The list goes on. A girl I know who is a nurse says she gets peed on, slapped, yelled at, works 12 hour shifts in her career, however she’s on maternity leave at the moment with her second baby and she says staying at home being a Mother is much harder than being a nurse. My husband works a lot of hours too, and I’d like to work from home so that I don’t have to put our baby in daycare full time. But if he thinks I’m going to start working plus doing all the stuff I’m doing currently he is in for a very rude awakening lol.

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