Dealing with pregnancy alone
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Girl I almost broke down in tears reading this bc I’m going through the same exact thing! It’s so hard bc life doesn’t go how we plan it sometimes but I struggle with the same things. Here I am on my third child and I’m still not settled down and in happy loving relationship. This pregnancy opened my eyes a lot. I NEVER healed just looking for love where it’s not, and giving too much of myself and that’s why I continued to make the same decisions that made my life harder. Now I’m in this pregnancy alone. But it’s gonna be ok God always makes a way! We gonna be okay mama! Keep pushing. Never beg a man to love you. You’re too good for that and too strong for that! I wish you blessings mama!!
Same. I’m completely alone no one checks on me or ask how I’m feeling. Nothing. Nada. All on my own. My abuser The person I slept with made sure I knew he wanted nothing to do with the baby by kicking me out his flat...blocking me with no means of ever contacting each other again . Man it’s hard....I’m in therapy and have my own flat now...but it’s never easy and I’m learning each day...how to cope and find some solace....to be the best mum that I can be
I was a single mom with my first. It's hard at first, but it gets easier. To be completely honest, (I am married now, with two other kids and an amazing husband) it is SO much easier to parent by yourself LOL.
So sorry you are struggling, I went through pregnancy alone & with corona too it’s so hard. Be gentle with yourself because it’s ALOT! Plus hormones etc, it’s totally natural to feel all those things. Just know you can do this - I really believe life wouldn’t give us tests we couldn’t get through so have faith a higher power is giving you this gift of life to help you in ways you just might not be able to see right now.... good luck ✨🙌🏼✨ xxx
Hi! I’m going through the same thing right now and although my baby’s father is coming around “ sort of” i still have the mentality that he won’t be there. I’ve been doing it alone throughout my whole pregnancy and I’m currently 31 weeks. In the beginning i would cry nonstop! And not just sobbing but hysterically cry. I couldn’t believe that someone would just not care. Forget about me but your baby! It took me a while to get used to things but instead so much better now. Don’t get me wrong i still cry from time to time but it’s so much better than it was in the in beginning. God gave us this blessing for a reason. We may not understand it right now but in the long run we will. Try to stay positive as much as you can. Also, it’s okay to cry. We’re humans. Soon you’ll have your little one and he or she will fill up your world with happiness. If you ever need to talk you’re more than welcomed to reach out to me. I may not have the perfect words to say but sometimes just venting helps.
How are you at the moment mum?💕 Have you done something to look after yourself today?
You got this girl!!
I understand exactly how you feel I’m going through it right now I’m 29 weeks tomorrow and honestly it’s been so hard but I’m happier now knowing the my baby will always have me I would never up and leave and sometimes your going to catch your self crying as you keep moving forward in the pregnancy keep your head up and keep thinking about that blessing growing inside you ❤️
My husband made me cry throughout my pregnancy and now we are separated since my son was born and whilst i still cry occasionally it gets easier and im so much happier that im not being mistreated anymore, even though its not the happy family i envisaged.
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Hey new mama! It’s ok to cry you are mourning the loss of your single hood. You will no longer be able to just think about your self. You will forever think act and feel for your child. Motherhood is beautiful but hard. I got pregnant at 23 alone no baby daddy no child support no insurance. I thankfully had my parents and brothers but we all know it’s not the same. If you have a girlfriend who has a kid call her up. Ask to take her kid/s for a couple hours to get used to them more. You be the friend you are looking for. I found dancing around the room with children to be really healthy, healing and helpful
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This ^^^ it’s a perfect example
I was alone during my first pregnancy. I lived with my mom who would tell me every day how I ruined my life and how terrible the rest of my life would be because of being a single mom. She would suggest I get an abortion and tell everyone I had a miscarriage. The father jerked me around for 9 months and cheated on me with multiple women. I was very stressed and cried a lot. My son turned out just fine ❤️ and 11 years later he’s my best friend because we’ve been through so much together.
Crying and anxiety aren't good for a developing baby, but let me reassure you, because I wish i'd have had that reassurance: 1/3 through pregnancy I had a stressful work crisis and could've possibly lost my job, then covid hit halfway through my pregnancy. So much stress and anxiety and depression. I worried my baby would be affected. But now I've got a mostly happy mostly all smiles 5mo old baby! I'm not single but music and singing helped me through a lot.
You have to be strong for you and your baby. If people don’t check on you they aren’t worth being in your life anyway. You will always meet new people and hopefully you will come across people who really care about you. Keep yourself happy by imagining what your baby will look like and how it will feel knowing this little human loves you.
You can do this! You will be your babies whole world and it yours I know it’s scary now and lonely but you’re going to be amazing! I took my brother to the baby classes as felt so embarrassed and sad to be alone (abandoned by ex when pregnant) but the bond my daughter and I have now is incredible because all we had was eachother! Anything that helps you relax a magazine a non alcoholic wine and picture the future you want and will one day have 💖💖💖 xo
First step is to breath. Next step go to the mirror and close your eyes. Picture your baby and the love that the baby will need. Picture your baby growing and needing someone strong to be in their corner. Picture a happy life. Then open your eyes and realize that you are that strong person. I have four and I was a single mom with all of them. Took me awhile but I found someone who loves me and my kiddos.
My baby boy is super chilled and happy to put your mind at ease - and thats despite fact i got put through so much pregnant. Just do your best to find calm and happy moments where you can x